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Husbands chastity cage

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BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:21

I recently found a metal chastity cage (for a males anatomy) in my husbands cupboard. Obviously a bit of a shock.

For background - marriage isn't good, no sex for over 2 years, separate beds, talk of separating. Stayed together because of the kids tbh. I wouldn't be surprised if he was getting it elsewhere tbh. But a .... cage!? Wtf...

What would u think? I don't want to tell him I've found it (yet)

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MeTooOverHere · 19/09/2025 02:10

Horsie · 19/09/2025 01:43

Is it a gay cage, with an anal ball?

www.clonezonedirect.co.uk/titus-master-chastity-cage-ass-lock-ball?srsltid=AfmBOoqTTRqYllPFTeYz7_MsBcL3IY8Hc4dVUHRNl4pQ8SR8H3mqQJw4

Even if not, it must be for gay activities, because if he was doing this with a woman, she would be the dominatrice and she would keep the cage. A sub wouldn't have it.

Ah I have learnt a whole lot more today.
Not stuff I wanted to know but certainly MN is educational.

MeTooOverHere · 19/09/2025 02:06

BeShyPlumLeader · 19/09/2025 00:07

No I think you're looking at something else. It was literally a metal penis shaped cage 🤷‍♀️

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NO she is talking about the douche bulb.

Francestein · 19/09/2025 02:06

I’m a petty B… I would put a photo of it on FB and insta and share with all mutual friends and family (his especially) asking if anyone knows what this thing is that you found in DH’s cupboard.

Muffinmam · 19/09/2025 01:50

Take a photo of his kink. Look for his fetlife account (he will have one). Use the information for a better divorce settlement.

Horsie · 19/09/2025 01:43

Is it a gay cage, with an anal ball?

www.clonezonedirect.co.uk/titus-master-chastity-cage-ass-lock-ball?srsltid=AfmBOoqTTRqYllPFTeYz7_MsBcL3IY8Hc4dVUHRNl4pQ8SR8H3mqQJw4

Even if not, it must be for gay activities, because if he was doing this with a woman, she would be the dominatrice and she would keep the cage. A sub wouldn't have it.

Horsie · 19/09/2025 01:33

They're used in kink relationships. I suppose he could be in a kinky relationship with a woman, but it's more likely to be used in a gay one. Sorry, OP. Anyway, maybe finding it's a gift, so that you can get your sucks in a row re. a possible divorce.

quantumbutterfly · 19/09/2025 01:33

NotOverlypleased · 18/09/2025 22:05

A while ago I met a man (dog walking of all things) whose company manufactures these chastity cages for men. It's very local to me and I had never known. Couldn't wait to Google it when I got home. I told my work colleagues the next day and they all Googled it too, so the search history of my workplace, which is church linked, is rather eyebrow raising!

How on earth does that...come up in conversation?

Jellyheadbang · 19/09/2025 01:30

Femmedomme, dominatrix, he’s paying for humiliation

DontStopMeNowGoodTime · 19/09/2025 01:00

Littlejellyuk · 19/09/2025 00:40

Love this 😆

Or maybe some paprika on the penis cage🌶 so it can be a chilli willy 🔥 🍆 😆 spicy stuff!

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That won't make a difference, his Dom or Master could tell him to do that anyway, and if he tells them his wife put chilli power on his chastity belt, they will chastise him and tell him to put more chilli powder.
Ops best move is to get ducks in a row.

DontStopMeNowGoodTime · 19/09/2025 00:54

Littlejellyuk · 19/09/2025 00:38

Just told my husband, and his face was a picture and he just stared and then looked mortified said "why?" I replied I don't know, why do men use penis cages? He said he doesn't know 😆 poor bloke only brought me a cuppa tea in bed 😆

Grin poor man.

Endorewitch · 19/09/2025 00:46

I thought they only had chastity belts for women. And that was in the time of the Crusades!!
Why not pretend you don't know what it is and ask him?
After all it was in the wardrobe.
Why on earth he needs one I can't imagine .

HughGrantsfurrysquirrel · 19/09/2025 00:45

RampantIvy · 18/09/2025 21:36

I have led a sheltered life. I have never heard of such a thing. I can't imagine what one looks like or how it is affixed, and I am not going to google 😯

Go on, be a devil - Google it! You know you want to!
Rather eye-catching, with a dinky little padlock.

Littlejellyuk · 19/09/2025 00:40

JFDIYOLO · 19/09/2025 00:34

Time to smear it with some of this 👇

livewellnationwide.co.uk/deep-heat-35g/?msclkid=a98c701be5dc109600b318d7731b4660&utm_source=bing&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=Shopping%20-%20All%20Products%20%5BROAS%5D%20MM&utm_term=4586750202983401&utm_content=PL%20-%20All%20Products%20MM

Love this 😆

Or maybe some paprika on the penis cage🌶 so it can be a chilli willy 🔥 🍆 😆 spicy stuff!

Littlejellyuk · 19/09/2025 00:38

Just told my husband, and his face was a picture and he just stared and then looked mortified said "why?" I replied I don't know, why do men use penis cages? He said he doesn't know 😆 poor bloke only brought me a cuppa tea in bed 😆

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BeShyPlumLeader · 19/09/2025 00:25

viques · 19/09/2025 00:19

Is that because he lost the key, or forgot the combination. Easily done……

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🤣 very good 👏

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AngelicKaty · 19/09/2025 00:21

Littlejellyuk · 19/09/2025 00:06

Oh my god, my eyes hurt from goggling 👀 🍐 😆
It's a weird pear shaped thingy with a long straw tube at the top.
Looks like a device that would possibly used in an enema?
I'm assuming its to clear out the A-hole? 😬 🍫 ⭐️

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Yes, that's exactly what it's used for! 😂

viques · 19/09/2025 00:19

BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 22:03

If anything he was always more dominant in bed. As well as bloody selfish.

Like I say it's been over two years since we had sex though

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Is that because he lost the key, or forgot the combination. Easily done……

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BeShyPlumLeader · 19/09/2025 00:17

Littlejellyuk · 19/09/2025 00:14

No I meant the douche bulb 😆 🍐💦

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Oh 🤣🤣

Yeah I have no idea what one of those is either lol. I'm obviously very vanilla too. Maybe that's why my husband has a penis cage 🤷‍♀️

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Littlejellyuk · 19/09/2025 00:14

BeShyPlumLeader · 19/09/2025 00:07

No I think you're looking at something else. It was literally a metal penis shaped cage 🤷‍♀️

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No I meant the douche bulb 😆 🍐💦

Wadadli · 19/09/2025 00:10

viques · 19/09/2025 00:09

Do they come in different sizes? Gerbil, hamster, Guinea pig, ferret……

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🦡

viques · 19/09/2025 00:09

Wadadli · 19/09/2025 00:02

Or gerbil! 🐹

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Do they come in different sizes? Gerbil, hamster, Guinea pig, ferret……

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BeShyPlumLeader · 19/09/2025 00:08

viques · 18/09/2025 23:55

I am not going to google it. Instead I am going to believe most sincerely that what the OP has found is a rather esoteric Sunday supplement wire egg holder. That way I will sleep soundly tonight.

That must be it!!! Sweet dreams 😴

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MissCallaneous · 19/09/2025 00:08

EchoedSilence · 18/09/2025 21:24

Oh really?

Any particular reason you don't believe OP? These scenarios do happen.

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BeShyPlumLeader · 19/09/2025 00:07

Littlejellyuk · 19/09/2025 00:06

Oh my god, my eyes hurt from goggling 👀 🍐 😆
It's a weird pear shaped thingy with a long straw tube at the top.
Looks like a device that would possibly used in an enema?
I'm assuming its to clear out the A-hole? 😬 🍫 ⭐️

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No I think you're looking at something else. It was literally a metal penis shaped cage 🤷‍♀️

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