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Mother charged with neglect

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Knackeredboot · 18/09/2025 20:24

This article has been posted on Facebook and has attracted a lot of angry comments about it from people saying the mother should be steriliser and that she's evil.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c864g0evz9jo

The crime was neglect of a baby that resulted in its death from a mother that had failed to notice that her baby hadn't woken in the night for her usual feeds due to the mothers level of intoxication.

There's no indication that the baby would usually have to be woken for feeds, just that it was the babys usual routine.

The mother was awake but drunk. But had she been asleep then would that have been considered neglect too? She checked on the baby from a distance but did not try to stir. Again, I wouldn't go into my 5mo's room regularly in the night for a close up check on them as I would be asleep also.

It says that the level of intoxication was 2.5times the driving limit which is irrelevant as she wasnt driving.

Am i missing something here? I feel like the commenters are being incredibly hard on her based on the little detail in the article. Although I'm not a big drinker I know loads of couples that get smashed on the weekend while at home with the kids.

OP posts:
Teachingagain · 18/09/2025 20:29

5 month old shouldn’t be sleeping on a sofa or in a room by themsleves for that matter.

The article says she feed the baby at 6.30 in the evening and failed to notice he hadn’t woken for his morning feed. Sounds like she hadn’t checked on the baby for at least 12 hours or possibly much longer.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 18/09/2025 20:27

Gosh how sad for the baby and their older sibling 🥺

I was terrified of sids when I had dd. I still am tbh and she is 6.

If this was a married middle class mum who had too much wine, would this be in the news?

Dunno, people love to be nasty on Facebook so I can imagine the comments. Edit - not saying she isn't completely wrong BTW, just thinking of the backlash and the prison sentence