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Advice for approach - son strangled at nursery for 2nd time!

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Boymumma3 · 18/09/2025 19:53

So I had a phone call today from nursery, my son has been strangled for the second time by the same child. The first time was this year but in his old class before he moved up. They are in nursery and only 3 years old!

Am I been unreasonable to request this child to be moved to another class to ensure my child is safe at nursery? I'm am very concerned as this is beyond normal toddler behaviour and it's not just the first time.

They said my son was sat on the carpet and said child went up and stepped behind him and put his hands round his neck.

Any advice how to approach nursery regarding this would be great. They was going to call me back tomorrow.

OP posts:
Ablondiebutagoody · 18/09/2025 20:12

I would teach my child to smack him. In 5 seconds the problem will be solved.

InMyHealthyEra · 18/09/2025 20:04

I’d be asking if they can do 1-1 supervision on that other child or end their placement. If they refuse to agree to their of the above I’d be reporting to Ofsted and social services. Something is happening at home for that child to behave in such a way.

realsavagelike · 18/09/2025 20:03

I work in childcare. I would expect a member of staff to be 'on' the strangler at all times. We recently ended up asking an aggressive child to leave the daycare after they had a designated staff member shadowing him at all times for several months to intercept any aggression and the behaviour did not improve, culminating in the aggressive child shoving another child, unprovoked, off a high piece of play equipment. It was extremely lucky that the child who was pushed was not hurt Every child deserves to have their safety ensured at daycare. I agree with @Overthebow 's advice. The onus is on the nursery to keep your child safe.

Overthebow · 18/09/2025 19:55

That’s awful. I would concentrate on how they will make sure it never happened again to your son, I don’t think you can request the other child be moved but ask them how they will safeguard your DS and see what they say.

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