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Son accused of wolf whistling at neighbours!

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lopperz · 18/09/2025 12:05

15 yo son was at home yesterday when the neighbour opposite banged on the door and confronted son for “wolf whistling” at his wife and daughters! We have the windows open a lot as I run incredibly warm (perimenopause)

Neighbour said he would go to the police if he didn’t pack it in. He got called a creep. He was incredibly aggressive. Sod’s Law that my son was the only one home

I’m VERY upset. I’m in two minds to post the ring camera footage to our local FB page. This grown behaved extremely inappropriately towards a child!

I wfh and am home the vast vast majority of time. Son whistles (we all do) to call the dog over as she’s going deaf. Apparently son tried to explain this but neighbour was having none of it.

My son is on the shy side and no trouble whatsoever. My son is what you might describe as a geek. He is terrified to run into this bully now.

My husband thinks this neighbour has roid rage.

What the heck do I do? I went over to discuss this but the neighbour doubled down. We don’t like this neighbour at all as he is the walking definition of toxic male.

Its insanity.

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bitterexwife · 18/09/2025 12:25

I agree, don’t post on FB. Show to police though

Givemegivemegiveme22 · 18/09/2025 12:24

childofthe607080s · 18/09/2025 12:21

A wolf whistle is a distinct sound and you shouldn’t be using it for the dog as it can make other people very uncomfortable

Come on now

SpanielLife · 18/09/2025 12:24

MissMoneyFairy · 18/09/2025 12:23

You might be better with a high pitched dog whistle, where is the dog when you need to call it in, I'd report any further incidents to the police and stop whistling. Do not post anything on FB, you can show it to the police, don't answer the door to him again.

I would not stop whistling- if the dog is going deaf then that may be the only frequency she can still hear in.

SpanielLife · 18/09/2025 12:23

childofthe607080s · 18/09/2025 12:21

A wolf whistle is a distinct sound and you shouldn’t be using it for the dog as it can make other people very uncomfortable

I think the point is that he isn't using a wolf whistle to call the dog but the neighbour has decided that's what's happening. The problem here is the neighbour not knowing the difference.

MissMoneyFairy · 18/09/2025 12:23

You might be better with a high pitched dog whistle, where is the dog when you need to call it in, I'd report any further incidents to the police and stop whistling. Do not post anything on FB, you can show it to the police, don't answer the door to him again.

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lopperz · 18/09/2025 12:23

childofthe607080s · 18/09/2025 12:21

A wolf whistle is a distinct sound and you shouldn’t be using it for the dog as it can make other people very uncomfortable

We are not wolf whistling…just generic whistle sounds. Not one in particular

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K0OLA1D · 18/09/2025 12:21

Ignore the twat.

You've tried to explain and so has your son. If you are happy he hasn't done it then there is nothing more you can do to appease him!

childofthe607080s · 18/09/2025 12:21

A wolf whistle is a distinct sound and you shouldn’t be using it for the dog as it can make other people very uncomfortable

CunningLinguist2 · 18/09/2025 12:19

"We whistle for the dog to come in. Stick a sock in it and jog on." Done.

hydriotaphia · 18/09/2025 12:18

Horrible but as you have explained the situation I would leave it now and stay out of his way. If he harasses you or your son again you can make a police report.