To think my DHs little gambling habit is actually a massive problem

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Aaromroad · 18/09/2025 11:12

Hi all

We only moved a few weeks ago and I wanted a fresh start but I have just seen £200 gone from our account. DH says it was nothing to worry about and that it was just a bet on last nights football. He says everyone does it and I am making a fuss. I dont think I am. £200 is not nothing when we are trying to get settled and pay bills.

He calls it a hobby. I call it a problem. He has promised before that he would stop and here we are again. Im sick of feeling like I am the one who has to watch every penny while he shrugs it off. The worst bit is he acts like Im the one nagging when all I want is for us to have some stability.

Am I being unreasonable to think this is more than just a flutter and that I need to put my foot down before it gets worse

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GucciBear · 18/09/2025 11:17

First thing I would advise us to separate your monies. If he wants to lose his own funds, up to him but please safeguard yourself! Another thought if this turns out to be a serious habit, can you somehow safeguard yourself in order that you are not responsible for any debts of his?

Outsideitsraining · 18/09/2025 11:17

Jeez. That’s massive. He’s minimising your very real concerns too. Not good OP.

dairydebris · 18/09/2025 11:17

Can you easily afford £200?

Because if you can- possible problem, more info needed.

If you cannot easily afford £200- definite problem. And putting your foot down is unlikely to work, he'll just hide it more. Consider splitting up.

purplecorkheart · 18/09/2025 11:16

I have a few friends who gamble. That would be a large bet for them. The ones who don't think that are the ones who have a problem.

TokyoSushi · 18/09/2025 11:14

For most 'normal' people, with 'normal' finances, that's a huge bet! A little flutter would be a couple of ££ a year on the Grand National or whatever.

So I'd say yes, it's a problem.

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