My exes and finances

Ermm why aren’t you working full time OP? Regardless of this maintenance issue? Your DDs are old enough, you could also be working weekends?

legally there’s nothing you can do as if he’s not working you aren’t ‘owed’ anything, surely if he’s at home full time he can offer wrap around and holiday care for his daughter though so you can work?

Your children are at school all week. I don’t blame your ex for not working tbh. At least he isn’t relying on tax payers to find him.

Contact CMS or a lawyer to see if you actually will be entitled to anything.

Your youngest is 7 and both children spend time with their fathers. You should be working fulltime. How on earth can you afford to live on 15 Hours pay a week ?

His new wife doesn’t have to pay for you or previous children

you do have a point op that it’s unfair if a NRP becomes a sahp with a new whole family as then their first child could miss out as CM reduces.

but, your whole attitude stinks.

1. you can work more than 15 hours a week and you know it
2. you are not a single parent. You’re a coparent near on 50/50
3. your ex clearly had an accident at work, and is a sahp, so it is frankly horrible of you to describe him as lazy or incapable.

but, what are you doing with all your free time? You must have loads. Every other weekend completely free, the other one just with a 15yr old who is presumably independent, only 3 hours work a day.

here’s an idea - you better yourself. Work towards a better job, do more hours. Be a good role model for your girls rather than just expecting their fathers to cough up.

He already has her 3 /7 nights. If he had her 1 more night per fortnight it would be 50/50 and he wouldn't legally have to pay you anything.
He's allowed to be a stay at home parent if that's what works for his family . He also already pays for clubs so I guess that's something. Some dads don't pay maintenance or anything like clubs.

His money he's due to get is HIS. Not for you to get your hands on. He may want to out some in trust for DD. But again his choice.

You could work more hours plenty do it. It seems you would rather handouts. You're very lucky to get a high amount from the other father. Again some get nothing

You have a 15 and 7 year old so both out at school Monday-Friday, you could work more than 15 hours a week. You also have every weekend that you could work as your youngest is with her dad all weekend and your eldest on the weekends she’s not with her dad is old enough to be home alone while you work.

Your ex has care of your daughter 3 days out of 7 so very nearly 50/50 at which point you wouldn’t be eligible for any CMS anyway. The fact that he’s not working and therefore has no income means that unfortunately he is not liable for any CMS payments for the 1 day a week extra that you have with your daughter.

You are not going to receive any of the compensation payment, that just isn’t going to happen. I would argue that it would be good if he were to set some of it aside in an account for your daughter for future planning like university fees or a house deposit, but he isn’t obliged to.

You have a 7 year old and a 15 year old.....you can absolutely work more than 25 hours.

Those in glasshouses and all that!

This is ridiculous. You have every weekend free plus your dc are at school all day. You're barely working at all but expecting your exes to bankroll your lifestyle.

Your ex has your dd one night a week more than you do, but he has her at all day at the weekends whereas she'll be in school for big chunks on the days when you have her. So it's not far off 50/50 at all. He isn't earning and he doesn't owe you anything. However, you could ask him to do one more night every fortnight and then it will be 50/50.

Jesus wept! I don’t know why I read the original message in Vicky Pollard’s voice

@Exandstress
Can you increase your hours?

I have 2 children , am a single mum and work FT. Just saying

It really doesn't though , her attitude is disgusting, her only interest is the money

That’s really shitty. Ops attitude towards her ex being unable to work and feeling that she deserves a pay out is cheeky but ‘babies for money’ just makes you sound like a twat.

Urgh. This is why single mums get judged so harshly.

You co parent.

Why can’t you work any more if your kids are in school full time? Especially with one a 15 year old and one at her dad’s every weekend. You could work virtually full time and make up that missing £250 easily. Unless you can’t be bothered because it would mess with your UC 🤔

You can work school hours, weekends, and you can pay for childcare. It’s not his problem you want to rely on his money rather than earning more of your own.

Wow 👌 you really got it made haven't you lol babies for money 🤣 perfect example of why soooo many men dont want any kids anymore lol

You are not a single mum. You co parent. Your attitude is appalling all round

Then go moan to CMS about it. Compensation for a work accident that’s resulted in him not working isn’t owed to you though. Why ruin your coparenting over it?

I’ve fixed some typos for you

How though? He has received this money for missed earnings. How can what my daughter owed be considered missed earnings? It works out at £4500 based on what my daughter missed out on.
He said the money is for payments he’s struggled with over the past 18 months which should surely include my daughter. I have rent and other bills to pay as well.
He said it’s not his fault that he was in an accident at work but it’s also not my fault. I feel like he’s treating my daughter unfairly.