Birthday treat for reception class

MrsNA · 2025-09-17T18:36:01+00:00

My daughter’s 5th birthday is coming up and she really wanted to take some cupcakes for her class but we’ve just been notified that the school policy no longer allows cake to be bought in. I was wondering if anyone can suggest anything else she could take In, I was thinking some story books as a favour.

Sundaymorningcalla · 18/09/2025 19:14

nomas · 18/09/2025 18:09

What a sour patch post

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21st century problems

nomas · 18/09/2025 18:09

Sundaymorningcalla · 17/09/2025 19:54

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What about the coeliac, diabetic and other ics?

Or they could put up and shut up.

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What a sour patch post

KsbskGVDKDbs · 18/09/2025 17:59

As an EYFS teacher - please no haribo! Only the strawberries are halal / veggie and we always end up with upset children not understanding why they can’t have the other sweets. I also teach in a very multi cultural school and there are never enough strawberries for all the children that need them.

Stickers are a good idea! Or the party bag style mini toys e.g. mini bubbles, balls etc. This doesn’t exclude any children due to their dietary needs.

phoenixrosehere · 18/09/2025 17:45

I did fruit kebabs using cake pop sticks for my son’s class after cakes were not allowed.

If you go on Pinterest, there are plenty ideas for them.

I was planning on doing them again, but waiting for confirmation if it is allowed for his year group.

Superscientist · 18/09/2025 17:39

MayRecollectionsVary · 18/09/2025 17:30

Small packs of haribo are the done thing at my child's school, the strawberries are vegan so any children with dietary requirements can have them.

It's a bit of a sweeping generalisation that vegan means any children with dietary requirements can have them! My daughter has a nightshade allergy and as tomatoes and paprika are used as "natural colouring" she can't have red sweets!

friskery · 18/09/2025 17:31

How about stickers or bubbles?

Lemonbaytree · 18/09/2025 17:31

MayRecollectionsVary · 18/09/2025 17:30

Small packs of haribo are the done thing at my child's school, the strawberries are vegan so any children with dietary requirements can have them.

Unfortunately some haribos contain wheat.

youalright · 18/09/2025 17:31

What do others do its a school its someones birthday nearly every day

MayRecollectionsVary · 18/09/2025 17:30

Small packs of haribo are the done thing at my child's school, the strawberries are vegan so any children with dietary requirements can have them.

Mulledjuice · 18/09/2025 17:28

A packet of seeds or a daffodil bulb or two to plant.

Guineapigdrama · 18/09/2025 17:26

Don't bother just tell your child it's not allowed.

Lemonbaytree · 18/09/2025 17:24

R0ckandHardPlace · 17/09/2025 21:50

Why can’t coeliac or diabetic kids eat Haribos?

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Some haribos contain wheat!

Sunnyscribe · 18/09/2025 06:35

ladycarlotta · 17/09/2025 21:43

I agree with you in some scenarios but in my child's class there are plenty of kids whose families don't do playdates, don't have birthday parties and don't accept invites to other people's. I actually appreciate that this way every child can be included with a little gesture like a sheet of stickers or a lolly. Makes it a slightly less "us and them" scenario than only celebrating at parties which the same groups of kids attend or don't.

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Yes I think playdates and parties are important if the child wants them and if you can afford them.

And yes I can see how it would be making an effort to include parents and children who aren't as involved with those things as much. I think stickers is nice like someone mentioned previously, simple, cheap, and not bad for your teeth!

Mumof2under4 · 17/09/2025 22:33

Sundaymorningcalla · 17/09/2025 19:54

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What about the coeliac, diabetic and other ics?

Or they could put up and shut up.

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Why don‘t you suggest a helpful alternative for the OP to consider that you’d find more inclusive? Or is the real problem that halal is a consideration?

SErunner · 17/09/2025 22:19

We were asked specifically not to buy sweet treats and were encouraged to buy a book for the classroom instead, which they can write their name in. I thought it was a lovely idea.

NoSuchThingAsAFreeHoliday · 17/09/2025 22:15

Thank god this wasn’t a thing when my kids were little. Why does everything have to be so bloody extra all the time.

Rachie1973 · 17/09/2025 21:56

Our school most parents just do small bags of Haribo.

R0ckandHardPlace · 17/09/2025 21:50

Sundaymorningcalla · 17/09/2025 19:54

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What about the coeliac, diabetic and other ics?

Or they could put up and shut up.

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Why can’t coeliac or diabetic kids eat Haribos?

Superscientist · 17/09/2025 21:50

Favouritefruits · 17/09/2025 21:16

My youngest son has a milk allergy and when he was younger I used to give the teacher a bag of his treats thst could be given to him when things he couldn’t have were being given out. It made sure he wasn’t left out. Just a thought for you incase your Dd feels a bit left out

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Unfortunately her collection of allergies means there aren't really sweets she can have. They have to specify the colouring and flavouring as some for allergens count as "natural flavouring" so we don't know if a product is safe or not.

Namechange2700000 · 17/09/2025 21:47

Superscientist · 17/09/2025 21:02

My daughter has just started year 1 and we have only had it once and the parent sent the packet on the WhatsApp group just before school thankfully. My daughter has 20 allergies so it's quite complicated.
Briefing my daughter on the walk to school (having only just seen the message) that she mustn't eat any of the sweets that X offered her was not what I needed on the school run!
Thankfully the teacher stepped in and said it wasn't allowed and we didn't have to panic.

We have had one incident where they made biscuits in class which had dairy and egg in them. They made them for another purpose and didn't plan for the children eating the biscuits! My daughter didn't pick up that the butter was butter and not the dairy free butter but knew as soon as the egg went in she couldn't have it. She came home crying asking why they put egg in the biscuits so she couldn't have them. They got a ticking off by the head for that and it has been requested that they run recipes by me in future so I can offer alternative recipes

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What a shitty thing to do.

Beatmeonthebottomwiththewomansweekly · 17/09/2025 21:47

Traditional in our school is a book for the school library (or nothing).

Superscientist · 17/09/2025 21:46

Holidaytime86 · 17/09/2025 21:43

The teachers didn’t even plan on the children eating them and yet still you complained. No wonder teachers are leaving in droves…

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They didn't plan on the kids eating them when they made them but they gave them to eat as once the kids had made the biscuits they obviously wanted to eat them!

Lemonbaytree · 17/09/2025 21:44

We usually send in things like skittles and cater for allergies and dietary requirements. I get people are being kind sending things in like cupcakes but I hate it when my kids get left out and it's cruel. They get sad and I usually have to buy something after school so they have something. One has a severe allergy and the other is vegetarian.

Holidaytime86 · 17/09/2025 21:43

Superscientist · 17/09/2025 21:02

My daughter has just started year 1 and we have only had it once and the parent sent the packet on the WhatsApp group just before school thankfully. My daughter has 20 allergies so it's quite complicated.
Briefing my daughter on the walk to school (having only just seen the message) that she mustn't eat any of the sweets that X offered her was not what I needed on the school run!
Thankfully the teacher stepped in and said it wasn't allowed and we didn't have to panic.

We have had one incident where they made biscuits in class which had dairy and egg in them. They made them for another purpose and didn't plan for the children eating the biscuits! My daughter didn't pick up that the butter was butter and not the dairy free butter but knew as soon as the egg went in she couldn't have it. She came home crying asking why they put egg in the biscuits so she couldn't have them. They got a ticking off by the head for that and it has been requested that they run recipes by me in future so I can offer alternative recipes

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The teachers didn’t even plan on the children eating them and yet still you complained. No wonder teachers are leaving in droves…

ladycarlotta · 17/09/2025 21:43

Sunnyscribe · 17/09/2025 21:31

Do nothing. Please do nothing. Excessive consumerism and celebration culture has already set the parenting bar too high. Stop feeding the monster!

I agree with you in some scenarios but in my child's class there are plenty of kids whose families don't do playdates, don't have birthday parties and don't accept invites to other people's. I actually appreciate that this way every child can be included with a little gesture like a sheet of stickers or a lolly. Makes it a slightly less "us and them" scenario than only celebrating at parties which the same groups of kids attend or don't.