To tell my almost 12 month old “no”

It sounds like OP's baby has only just started crawling and getting more mobile so she hasn't needed to until now.

I amn't sure I really succeeded in implementing this when mine were little, but I have read that very young kids won't understand 'no, don't do x' as all they hear of that sentence is 'do x' so you're better off saying what they should do, not what they shouldn't do. So rather than 'don't play with your food' it's 'food is for eating, toys are for playing' or whatever - and either move them or the thing away if needed. But yeah, definitely start redirecting him away from stuff you don't want him to touch or approach now. It'll take a while, but he'll get it eventually.

have not rtft. Why wouldn't you start way earlier than that? to protect them from potential harm?

Teach right from wrong as soon as they have understanding. You don't have to shout or be stern - just a no, move out the way and repeat. They soon learn. It's a natural part of their development to want to explore. You would say no to a baby crawling towards a hot drink and move it out the way. The same goes for the TV.

The ceremony is starting soon, hurry!

Then you keep saying no and moving him away.

You should start saying no when the child first does something you don’t want them doing. Tell them no and then the the it’s away or move the child from the item. It’s not rocket science!

Ignore that poster @scarybuttrue

Sanctimonious dickhead

Allowed...

Like what dystopian society does your brain goto?

Just move him away we used .a noise "ah ah" for no. Just don't turn it into a game for him so you need to keep it short and right away.

How?
Babies are naturally inquisitive it's how they learn and develop. He isn't doing anything wrong!
It's fine to move him away and move things about of his reach and say no. It's not ok to shout or give consequences to him for not doing what you want him to do. He is a baby and curious about the world around him. He has no concept of what you call right and wrong

Well it will not be of any use when he is 21!! What an odd post.

You can say "no" but follow it up with a simple reason.
"No ... don't touch the TV"
"No ... don't play with the toilet paper"
"No.... don't touch your poo"
He needs to know why you are saying "no".
It won't understand it yet but he will gradually learn as he grows.

After you've read the shitty replies OP, just imagine a montage of all these posters making parenting mistakes/having questions. Because without doubt they have at some point!

I have been following Brat Buster Parenting on Insta/Youtube and she says starting gentle discipline (don't punish them/make them cry, but saying "no" and redirecting) can be from baby age, then stepping up to enforcing from about 16months.

I've taught my 6 month old kitten not to climb on the bird cage, so not sure why you havent already started with your human?

There’s always at least one arsehole on every thread

He won’t understand right from wrong - you are a few years away from that but you can do yes and no - and now is a good time to do this.

You can say no and introduce boundaries now. He won’t understand them. That is why you need to remove him from whatever situation you are saying no to. It’s a pain in the arse but part of having a newly mobile child.

If you are consistent, no and remove from the situation, he will learn what no means quite quickly. He’ll then ignore you because he’s testing boundaries but that’s the next developmental stage. As his language develops you can add context - no, dangerous, no, kind hands etc. As they get bigger you can explain more but it’s always good to start as you mean to carry on. It’s confusing if they are allowed to touch the TV (just as an example) and then suddenly can’t because they’re bigger. So if you don’t want your 4 year old jumping on the couch because he’s too big and you’re worried about him breaking it, then your 15 month old doesn’t jump on the couch even though he’s smaller and not doing any damage. Just as an example - I know you wouldn’t actually let your 15m old just on a couch because it’s quite dangerous.

Remember though that kids aren’t linear. So you will have firmly introduced a rule (or think you have) and they’ll get there’s no jumping on the couch for a bit but then it sort of falls out of their head as they learn other things and you have to remind them of the boundary.

If he carries on doing it you remove him and put him somewhere safe like his playpen. Repeat each time he does it. He’ll soon learn.

Of course it's ok to say no OP - he laughs at the moment because it's just a game to him. I would try a slightly firmer/clearer tone and a stern look - calm and consistent. Yes you will need to be like a broken record and yes you will need to remove him 101 times before he starts to get it.

You might be better to remove him and then distract him with something else - you need to make a more fun game that 'I touch the telly and mummy picks me up and moves me'. Something like stacking wooden blocks to build towers and knocking them down perhaps.

I think at this age, it's change their environment, I would expect them to change or understand too much. More like 16-18months I'd start putting in boundaries but would still be massively changing their environment as well to make my life easier.

You need to teach him that “No is a complete sentence” 😜

Agreed. It's gone ridiculous on mumsnet.
I've been here for years but would never be an OP again, it's not worth it.

Not only is it not too early to teach him no, it's essential that you do. You're teaching him that you are the parent and that what you say goes. If you don't teach this, he won't be safe and you will have a nightmare 17+ years ahead of you.

That's what they do.

then in turn you keep repeating 'no' & moving him away. He doesn't automatically understand what word mean, he has to learn that 'no' means he shouldn't do it, THEN he has to decide whether obiding or ignoring is more rewarding!

your job is to make doing as he's told more rewarding, without rewarding the unwanted behaviour

try things like saying 'no' ( in a firm voice) moving him away and asking (in an excited/fun tone) if he wants to 'do a favoured activity like 'play with the blocks'