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Why is the public directing their anger at the individual asylum seeker that arrives at the shore…

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AnotherNC12345 · 17/09/2025 10:54

… rather than the smuggling / trafficking gangs that are responsible for the journey?

I think it’s very extreme to put all of the blame and the anger at the individual that arrives, rather than the people responsible for orchestrating the whole process. These individuals are often ‘sold the dream’ and hooked in by organised crime groups who direct them to the UK. I’ve looked at sample routes from different parts of the world (screenshots may be pending) and these are complex and would need local people, as well as law enforcement, customs officers and other government officials to turn a blind eye involved in smuggling across multiple borders.

It’s no secret that these crossings likely cost a lot of money, and I think it would be safe to assume that refugees would often be in crippling debt to the OCGs who will put pressure on them to pay it back, by threatening them and their families and I would go as far as to say they could then be coerced in to further committing crimes when granted asylum in order to pay back their debt.

These OCGs are likely involved in other trafficking / crime, not just of asylum seekers but likely drugs, weapons and sex as they have the connections across those borders.

I think it’s very unlikely that an asylum seeker is sitting there looking at all the European government websites and shopping for a country with the best benefits package and approaching a trafficker with a brochure like they’re picking a Jet2 holiday. But this is the narrative that’s often put us and fuelled in the media.

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to have a better system and want to control our borders better on a whole, but this sheer anger and blame placed at the human in front of us seems very misplaced, when they were likely manipulated in to thinking they can have a better life in this particular country and not another, and the problem is way way bigger than an individual.

Why is the public directing their anger at the individual asylum seeker that arrives at the shore…
Why is the public directing their anger at the individual asylum seeker that arrives at the shore…
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Vinvertebrate · 17/09/2025 14:14

No xenophobic fear of “brown people” here - I married one and birthed another.

We have idealogues on the left (team “poor souls”, most asylum claims are granted and it’s only 0.3% of budget anyway) vs. realists who think that the first responsibility of a government of any stripe is border control and that the arrival of undocumented migrants requiring bed, board, education and healthcare in their tens of thousands is problematic. More so when services are on their arse, with the declining number of working taxpayers about to be mugged for at least another 20 billion, most of which is just to keep the IMF at bay.

The unpalatable truth is that there are millions of people who would qualify for asylum in the UK - all women in Afghanistan for example, most of the population of Iran, gay people from anywhere in the Islamic world, etc. Self-evidently, we cannot take everyone. The current system is the worst of all worlds: a hunger games-style battle to reach UK shores undertaken (quite reasonably) by men. Some arrivals will inevitably have a history of criminality, but this cannot be checked if they are undocumented.

It’s a fallacy that anyone can “stop the boats” without fundamental law and policy changes, and any anger at the failure of successive governments to do so is misplaced. I would remove any chance of citizenship for these arrivals, after setting up legal routes from outside the UK offering asylum to a fixed number of people every year, depending on our own population trends and economy. This will mean ECHR withdrawal - but as a hastily drafted piece of law implemented in the wake of a humanitarian crisis, it’s not ideally suited to current levels of global mobility or indeed any proportion of economic migrants taking their advice from TikTok and criminal gangs.

And like a PP I can simultaneously be angry about the appalling mismanagement of legal migration under the previous government.

MaturingCheeseball · 17/09/2025 14:13

If it’s not safe to leave certain countries and people have to escape, how come when granted asylum their families are all able to join them straightaway?

AnotherNC12345 · 17/09/2025 14:11

MellowPinkDeer · 17/09/2025 13:37

This is the challenge, why don’t they stay in the first safe country ? Why don’t they stay in France? It’s because our health and benefits system is very very appealing.

and to answer the OP, the individuals are part of the problem because if they didn’t pay the gangs then the gangs wouldn’t exist.

The first part has been addressed throughout the thread.

The latter - I suppose it’s very different when let’s say county lines and international drug traffickers bring crime and havoc in to our country, and without those who pay for a gram of coke on a night out we wouldn’t have the gangs. We then get upset at the traffickers but not their customers?

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Abracadabra12345 · 17/09/2025 14:11

northernballer · 17/09/2025 11:27

Because a lot of people have no critical thinking skills I guess.

This is the new buzz word isn’t it?

MaturingCheeseball · 17/09/2025 14:10

ColdSalads · 17/09/2025 13:52

During threads like this we have to bear in mind that the privileged aren't really affected and thereby can't see a problem and get dismissive, the not so privileged see the degradation of everything up close and personal.

Exactly. I doubt if many on MN, for example, are familiar with Bradford or Luton.

CanSeeClearlyNowTheRainHasGone · 17/09/2025 14:09

MsJinks · 17/09/2025 12:05

I found out yesterday that whilst the cost of asylum seekers seems large (and btw mostly goes to fat cat folk hoovering up defunct hotels) it is only 0.3% of gov’t budget. 0.3%. It will also go down as the gov’t is tightening a lot of stuff up and getting down the backlog.
But that is a negligible amount of budget and nothing is going to improve by stopping it.
They’re a tool right now for either discord, from which very rich bigwigs profit, or a tool for political points and getting people to avoid checking out other stuff.
As to why they come here that has been discussed over and over - in summary - UNHCR, U.K. case law, language, family/friends, helping British army in war zones.
Note only a small number of over 200 million displaced people in the world do, or try to, come here.
Further note - overall migrants are net contributors to the U.K. economy.

Ok, you seem dead keen on arguing the advantages so let's debate this one. I'll accept your stats though i know not if they're correct.

  1. Only 0.3% - except that
(a) that's an ongoing cost (forever on current trends) for just the period during claim, and other benefits are paid out after acceptance (claimants do not suddenly acquire high paying jobs and private sector housing) (b) that's a sum that is not available for other things, such as WFA or 2 child cap, etc (c) taxes continue to rise so it's money that we simply dont have at present (d) those who are sofa-surfing or been ejected by parents aren't getting that money spent on them. (e) successful migrants have always been allowed to them bring family and dependents to join them here. Again a support cost that isn't included in your figures. Everybody was much more chilled about immigration when we all felt well-off.
  1. they’re a tool right now... No. It's not like they've been imported to sow discord. They exist. People have opinions about that fact. You seem to be saying that people having an anti-migrant view are just being duped. Perhaps its you that's being duped.
  1. only a small part of >200 million try to come here. That's a silly argument. It's like saying only 1 of 200k drug addicts burgled your home. The fact it could be much worse doesn't mean people should rejoice.
  1. why they come here is as irrelevant as where I choose to shop or holiday. Unless you want to start meddling with those things to dissuade them. The fact that they prefer the UK to France doesn't seem like a positive reason to accept large scale immigration.
  1. overall migrants are net contributors.
(a) only by a very narrow definition of contribution which excludes their use of existing resources and excludes the projected costs as they age and excludes the cost of educating their progeny etc Don't forget that low paid jobs still get tax credits (benefits) which perversely are then counted as actual wages paid when measuring this. (b) only by the narrow measure of contribution to GDP, not to per capita GDP. And that leaves aside the silly measure that it is whereby if you and I sell something to each other for £100 (effectively swapping goods) then GDP goes up by £200. (c) if immigrants are a net benefit and we allow immigration through regular routes for skilled people, then preventing irregular migration of low skilled people would be better wouldn't it?? (d) it is widely acknowledged that the increase in work force size has suppressed wage growth, particularly in the low skill economy.

I won't even get on to successive governments treating the need to house migrants as "a legal requirement" when actually it is not, thereby providing that feeling of a two tier system.

If >I< lost everything tomorrow I'd be dependent on finding a hostel every night (zero chance) or sleep on the street.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 17/09/2025 14:07

MaturingCheeseball · 17/09/2025 12:19

I simply don’t understand why - and yes, at an individual level, campaigners fight for some pretty nasty characters who have turned up here.

Alarmingly I’ve even seen women defend sexual crimes as being merely misunderstanding of cultural norms here.

Dear God are these women sick or evil.

ColdSalads · 17/09/2025 13:52

During threads like this we have to bear in mind that the privileged aren't really affected and thereby can't see a problem and get dismissive, the not so privileged see the degradation of everything up close and personal.

Sdpbody · 17/09/2025 13:50

Because we are tribal at heart and these people are not like us.

BeHappySloth · 17/09/2025 13:48

Because lots of them are racist and it feels good to have what they perceive to be a legitimate opportunity to shout abuse at a foreigner.

LakieLady · 17/09/2025 13:46

smallpinecone · 17/09/2025 13:33

Is that supposed to be exciting or something?

None of what you describe is positive.

I find it very positive, personally.

I think it's great that people who come here without a pot to piss in, having fled war and/or persecution, get the chance to settle, work, contribute and have a decent life where they're not living in fear.

I'm especially pleased about the Kurdish plumber, there's a dire shortage of plumbers where I live and most of the existing ones aren't taking on new customers. He's really fulfilling a need in a shortage occupation! 😁

MellowPinkDeer · 17/09/2025 13:37

Ablondiebutagoody · 17/09/2025 11:10

Because lots of the public see them as spongers

This is the challenge, why don’t they stay in the first safe country ? Why don’t they stay in France? It’s because our health and benefits system is very very appealing.

and to answer the OP, the individuals are part of the problem because if they didn’t pay the gangs then the gangs wouldn’t exist.

38thparallel · 17/09/2025 13:35

@LakieLady thank you for answering my question.

smallpinecone · 17/09/2025 13:33

LakieLady · 17/09/2025 13:21

Actually, it's 4 out of a caseload of approx 20 refugees I worked with over a period of 3 years while part of a specific project.

All of that sub-set of clients worked though. Some worked in hospitality, others in social care, one as a TA in a local school. And when I needed an emergency plumber over Christmas a couple of years ago, the guy who rocked up was a Kurdish refugee who knew my Kurdish refugee friend!

Is that supposed to be exciting or something?

None of what you describe is positive.

LakieLady · 17/09/2025 13:33

38thparallel · 17/09/2025 13:01

They include a psychiatrist, now working in the NHS in the Midlands.

@LakieLady could a psychiatrist from overseas not get a skilled person visa?

I've no idea, but as a critic of the government in his home country, he might not have felt he had time to go through that process. He and his wife came here for him to attend a professional conference and they applied for asylum on arrival.

I can't remember now what country they were from, but it was somewhere in west Africa where French is the official (or most common) language. I first met them because a local refugee support group had helped them find accommodation in the next road from me and it's the sort of area where people say hello to each other, and one day I translated for his wife, who spoke no English and was trying to buy something in the local shop. Then it turned out that they were being supported by one of my colleagues.

They were a lovely couple, and I often wonder how they're doing now.

ERthree · 17/09/2025 13:31

arcticpandas · 17/09/2025 11:30

I don't think people are angry at asylum seekers for coming. I think they are angry when their housing + benefits are being paid for by the taxpayer.

My family were immigrants as were my husbands family but I am angry that we house and feed anyone that "breaks" into our country rather than going through the legal channels. I welcome immigrants to this country but not illegal immigrants. We have no idea who these individuals are or whether they have a criminal background. You want to live here then do it the proper way.

YelloDaisy · 17/09/2025 13:28

Immigrants want to live here -smugglers dont

LakieLady · 17/09/2025 13:21

smallpinecone · 17/09/2025 12:58

So that’s four productive people, great. Out of thousands of others who aren’t, and never will be, not having the language skills or education necessary.

Actually, it's 4 out of a caseload of approx 20 refugees I worked with over a period of 3 years while part of a specific project.

All of that sub-set of clients worked though. Some worked in hospitality, others in social care, one as a TA in a local school. And when I needed an emergency plumber over Christmas a couple of years ago, the guy who rocked up was a Kurdish refugee who knew my Kurdish refugee friend!

AnotherNC12345 · 17/09/2025 13:14

38thparallel · 17/09/2025 13:11

Why should they pick another African country over a European, Asian etc. one

Because if they were fleeing on safety grounds there are other places nearer. Why do they have to choose Europe?
I don’t think that many go to Asia - not East Asia, anyway. According to Google ‘China hosts about 1,160 registered refugees overall, and while the total number is rising, it remains remarkably low’.

I mean… I’d take poverty in Europe vs poverty in China any day. Their own on the bottom line are severely oppressed.

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38thparallel · 17/09/2025 13:11

Why should they pick another African country over a European, Asian etc. one

Because if they were fleeing on safety grounds there are other places nearer. Why do they have to choose Europe?
I don’t think that many go to Asia - not East Asia, anyway. According to Google ‘China hosts about 1,160 registered refugees overall, and while the total number is rising, it remains remarkably low’.

LakieLady · 17/09/2025 13:08

Gladysknightgottogetaholdofmyself · 17/09/2025 12:24

As it's ever been I'm old enough to remember the following.
Single mums
The unemployed
The Vietnamese boat people
The polish
The Ukrainians
The disabled
And now back too immigrants
The last four are of more recent times.

When I was a kid, that list would have included the Irish and people from the West Indies who came here to work because we had a labour shortage.

JHound · 17/09/2025 13:07

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 17/09/2025 13:03

No, it’s anger at men from who knows where coming here and not showing any respect or abiding by the laws of this country. And before you say it, I know British men can be the same, I just don’t feel we need to accept it from men from other countries allegedly seeking asylum.

Yes and you are angry at them for assaulting women: criminal activity.

I would be angry at men who assault women but that has nothing to do with the topic of people seeming refuge / a better life for me.

AnotherNC12345 · 17/09/2025 13:06

Worralorra · 17/09/2025 12:54

It depends on what you mean by “the public“.

IMO, the worst part of all this is the generalisation by media and the government, of “the public”, who they appear to regard as/confuse with “the Far Right:

Protesting parents of schoolchildren who have been aggressively targeted by residents of migrant hotels for sexual favours? They must be Far Right…

Protesting citizens who don’t want to see flags of other countries being flown proudly, while theirs are removed? They must be Far Right…

Protesting people who are fed up with the services, for which their taxes pay, being siphoned off to house and pay for legal aid for thousands of asylum seekers while they themselves are facing huge CoL increases? They must be Far Right…

Protesting people who want to uphold our ancient laws and not be subjected to suggestions or reality that Sharia law should be applied here with its inherent misogyny? They must be Far Right…

Protesting people who want to keep our traditional culture and customs alive and not have to stop practicing these in case they offend a minority (rather than educate them)? They must be Far Right…

These are “the public” - they have many legitimate concerns about the apparent disregard which the government are displaying towards them, and because a small minority are the Racists that are mentioned by the OP, they are tarring all of those who protest as “Far Right” or worse.

That’s where the anger is really directed - at those that have been elected to tackle these problem.

They, on the other hand appear to be blaming “the public” for their failures instead of addressing their own shortcomings in carrying out the task they have been elected to do, which is to process and integrate immigrants into OUR society.

Instead, they just abandon them, allowing a minority to practice their own preferred and unacceptable behaviours for an overly extended period before those that really want to live here can become net contributors in our society, while sending the economic and unwilling to integrate migrants to a previous safe country through which they have already travelled to get here!

There’s a lot here.

someone upthread has explained that only 0.3% (not even a whole 1%) of our budget goes on asylum seeker aid. That’s a drop in the ocean and eliminating all asylum seekers will not solve COL. Ones that are granted refugee status ultimately then start working and contributing to the economy in the long run.

Not sure what you mean by subjected to implementing sharia law? No such thing has happened here… also, not all refugees are Muslim so this seems a strange point

The anger at the government I agree with

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JHound · 17/09/2025 13:04

38thparallel · 17/09/2025 12:59

For example, in Eritrea, men are often subjected to indefinite national service. Those who try to evade conscription can face torture, imprisonment, or execution. Many Eritrean men flee for this reason.
In countries experiencing civil wars, like South Sudan, young men are especially vulnerable to being forcibly recruited into government or rebel forces. If they refuse, they may face violent reprisals.

@TheLivelyViper
Not every country in Africa has indefinite national service or is experiencing civil wars, so why don’t they go to another African country?

Why should they pick another African country over a European, Asian etc. one?

A foreign country is a foreign country?

LakieLady · 17/09/2025 13:04

MycatLarry · 17/09/2025 12:12

Why don't these "poor souls" get on a cheap flight to Britain instead of risking their lives and paying £££ to people smugglers? Could it be because then they'd need documentation - which they've 'lost'?
We don't have a clue who these men are (but I know they're not all doctors and engineers) yet we're expected to pay to house, feed and provide healthcare for them. It's not difficult to understand why people are resentful.

In the case of one of my former clients, she would not have been allowed to leave her country of origin officially. She had been arrested for opposition to her government's persecution of people from her ethnic minority group and spent 2 weeks being tortured in prison.

She was helped by others who had fled and crossed Europe by a modern-day "underground railroad", and came to the UK in the boot of a car on a cross-channel ferry. But some of the other refugee clients had come here on scheduled flights and then claimed asylum on arrival.

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