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Why is the public directing their anger at the individual asylum seeker that arrives at the shore…

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AnotherNC12345 · 17/09/2025 10:54

… rather than the smuggling / trafficking gangs that are responsible for the journey?

I think it’s very extreme to put all of the blame and the anger at the individual that arrives, rather than the people responsible for orchestrating the whole process. These individuals are often ‘sold the dream’ and hooked in by organised crime groups who direct them to the UK. I’ve looked at sample routes from different parts of the world (screenshots may be pending) and these are complex and would need local people, as well as law enforcement, customs officers and other government officials to turn a blind eye involved in smuggling across multiple borders.

It’s no secret that these crossings likely cost a lot of money, and I think it would be safe to assume that refugees would often be in crippling debt to the OCGs who will put pressure on them to pay it back, by threatening them and their families and I would go as far as to say they could then be coerced in to further committing crimes when granted asylum in order to pay back their debt.

These OCGs are likely involved in other trafficking / crime, not just of asylum seekers but likely drugs, weapons and sex as they have the connections across those borders.

I think it’s very unlikely that an asylum seeker is sitting there looking at all the European government websites and shopping for a country with the best benefits package and approaching a trafficker with a brochure like they’re picking a Jet2 holiday. But this is the narrative that’s often put us and fuelled in the media.

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to have a better system and want to control our borders better on a whole, but this sheer anger and blame placed at the human in front of us seems very misplaced, when they were likely manipulated in to thinking they can have a better life in this particular country and not another, and the problem is way way bigger than an individual.

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MrsSkylerWhite · 18/09/2025 22:20

smallpinecone · 18/09/2025 22:17

We should do them a kindness then and make sure it’s never an option available to them.

Or alternatively put in place safe, legal routes. The human thing to do.

Youdontseehow · 18/09/2025 22:19

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/09/2025 22:09

They are not in the uk illegally!

Seeking asylum, however you arrive, is legal. Your case is then assessed.

If it is considered valid, you are granted leave to remain. If it is not, you are reported.

It’s really not that hard to understand.

My husnsnd’s surgeons were very unlikely to have arrived in the UK via small boat. My point was that, however people arrive here, they are more likely than not to contribute to the betterment of the UK.

come on now - you cannot seriously believe that many, if not most, of those on the small boats are genuine asylum seekers and not economic migrants? Nobody can be that naive surely?

smallpinecone · 18/09/2025 22:17

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/09/2025 22:15

You’re very, very fortunate that you have never had to weigh up the value of your life. Whether attempting to cross a dangerous channel might be worth the risk.

Just try to imagine for a moment thinking the life you are trying to leave behind you is so terrible that you would choose that possibility, drowning.

We should do them a kindness then and make sure it’s never an option available to them.

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/09/2025 22:15

PurpleNurple23 · 18/09/2025 22:09

Okay? Probably still better than a warzone. If we didn't lay out the red carpet for them they wouldn't want to come here. I wouldn't risk death on the channel. We don't have to take them in.

You’re very, very fortunate that you have never had to weigh up the value of your life. Whether attempting to cross a dangerous channel might be worth the risk.

Just try to imagine for a moment thinking the life you are trying to leave behind you is so terrible that you would choose that possibility, drowning.

TheLivelyViper · 18/09/2025 22:13

You aren't responsible the majority of people aren't. I also agree that government shouldn't be cutting as much foreign aid, even where they do it, they need to be thoughtful about it. At a time when conflict, war, terror, violence is getting worse is not the time. Even for example with USAID, they cut funding for things already bought, so for example they bad already bought lots of boxes of the pastes and food they use specifically for malnourished children, these were in a warehouse about to be sent, the flight wasn't being paid for my USAID. But they stopped the funding and as the food, pastes etc were USAID property they didn't give it to them, they let it rot in a warehouse for 2 months, it is now unusable and that is a complete waste. Money which had already been appropriated by Congress as well, which is the legal process in the U.S.

What I would say is the only thing seperating you from being a refugee is luck. Luck that you were born in a safe and somewhat prosperous country. Luck that a dictatorship hasn't taken over, that a terrorist group doesn't displace you. Luck that a tyrant doesn't invade your country, luck that you don't endure famine or violence from your own military, or attacks of sexual violence on mass (DRC currently). If you were one of these people you'd likely want that empathy and it's not far fetched that the UK could be in that position and you may want the empathy of other countries as well. As I said the East of Africa, 5.7 million refugees whilst having their own issues of 18 million internally displaced people, which if far more dire. Again the West of Africa has taken 2.55 million refugees as well. The MENA region around 16 million, so it's quite unfair to say that other nations or regions don't do their part or offer their country up for these people.

Even in comparison to France who took around 150k last year and Germany 220k, whereas we took 100k. Technically only 39k were accepted however the Home office lacks so many staff that it the amount of claims taking months and years for them to even get through simple steps and that means lots of people claims who may not be accepted, are still being processed for way too long and then decisions can't be made on whether they can stay or not. Which is also a major issue.

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/09/2025 22:09

Youdontseehow · 18/09/2025 22:01

Hmmm I wonder how many of them paid people smugglers to get them to the UK in a dinghy 🤔

Like many, I am not against controlled migration of skilled workers and their families who make a net contribution to the UK, learn English (if they didn’t already speak it), follow UK laws rather than medieval cultural practices and generally make a positive contribution.

Not the same as those coming over illegally in small boats, being net takers and contributing very little to society/community whilst reaping the benefits of being in the UK illegally.

They are not in the uk illegally!

Seeking asylum, however you arrive, is legal. Your case is then assessed.

If it is considered valid, you are granted leave to remain. If it is not, you are reported.

It’s really not that hard to understand.

My husnsnd’s surgeons were very unlikely to have arrived in the UK via small boat. My point was that, however people arrive here, they are more likely than not to contribute to the betterment of the UK.

PurpleNurple23 · 18/09/2025 22:09

AnotherNC12345 · 18/09/2025 20:03

It was lovely for you because you’re not an asylum seeker.

Many years ago I stayed in a hotel on the outskirts of Paris. That wasn’t so lovely. They’re treated like trash.

Okay? Probably still better than a warzone. If we didn't lay out the red carpet for them they wouldn't want to come here. I wouldn't risk death on the channel. We don't have to take them in.

Youdontseehow · 18/09/2025 22:01

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/09/2025 20:59

We have unfortunately had to spend a great deal of time in Blackpool Victoria hospital in the past two years, much of it in A&E as my life threateningly ill husband (top bracket tax payer) was triaged and eventually admitted (in the very worst case 58 hours in a plastic chair in A&E) was assessed.

His surgeons, doctors and HCAs when he was finally admitted (after intravenous antibiotics for sepsis - third time I’m three years - in an overcrowded side room) were overwhelmingly immigrants. Thank god for them.

Hmmm I wonder how many of them paid people smugglers to get them to the UK in a dinghy 🤔

Like many, I am not against controlled migration of skilled workers and their families who make a net contribution to the UK, learn English (if they didn’t already speak it), follow UK laws rather than medieval cultural practices and generally make a positive contribution.

Not the same as those coming over illegally in small boats, being net takers and contributing very little to society/community whilst reaping the benefits of being in the UK illegally.

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/09/2025 21:15

38thparallel · 18/09/2025 21:03

In the very worst case 58 hours in a plastic chair in A&E.

Bloody hell that is shocking. How many people lose their lives from being left in a chair for 58 hours when seriously ill?

There were three people who had been there longer than we were. I’m really not making it up.
He was admitted three times over four months. The first wait wait was 18 hours when taken in by ambulance. The second was 32 hours and the last was 58 hours.

He had very complicated symptoms and because of his medical history I think they were looking into the wrong things initially.

Turned out his gallbladder was “nephrotic”. Not something anyone was looking at because he has a very rare genetic condition, which was what the staff focussed on.

Basicalky, it was dead, gangrenous, tissues had attached themselves to his liver and kidneys. Consultant (Bulgarian, bless her for ever) told us it was very, very difficult. But she did it, after three surgeries.

Sorry. tMI. But he’s cooking my dinner now 😁

smallpinecone · 18/09/2025 21:08

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/09/2025 21:03

Of course not. But you would still be Spanish.

So you agree with me - it’s a technicality.

38thparallel · 18/09/2025 21:03

In the very worst case 58 hours in a plastic chair in A&E.

Bloody hell that is shocking. How many people lose their lives from being left in a chair for 58 hours when seriously ill?

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/09/2025 21:03

smallpinecone · 18/09/2025 21:02

It’s a legal designation, sure. Technically so.

But I couldn’t claim to be Spanish by ethnicity, that I was just as Spanish as anyone born there, with ancestry spanning hundreds of years. It wouldn’t be true, would it?

Of course not. But you would still be Spanish.

smallpinecone · 18/09/2025 21:02

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/09/2025 20:33

But that legal designation is very important! (as is grammar, apologies for beginning a sentence with but).

It’s a legal designation, sure. Technically so.

But I couldn’t claim to be Spanish by ethnicity, that I was just as Spanish as anyone born there, with ancestry spanning hundreds of years. It wouldn’t be true, would it?

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/09/2025 21:02

SleeplessInWherever · 18/09/2025 20:42

I have genuinely just taken to the internet and read all about this story, after your comment.

I think I’m a bit flabbergasted that I could even find it on there. Not because I didn’t believe you, it’s just crazy to me for some reason!

What a sad, and impressive history.

I was flabbergasted too! The most important thing though is that my mum was. She has completely changed her opinions.

I imagine that there are millions of British people with similar stories.

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/09/2025 20:59

Youdontseehow · 18/09/2025 20:20

But it’s not “free” though! It is “free at the point of delivery” but paid for through taxation. It’s not a bottomless pit of “free treatment”.

You may be surprised to know that translators are paid more per hour than an average nurse (qualified approx 5 years). I spent an hour on the phone to a father last week via a translator only for him to deny his daughter treatment because “his daughter will not have sex”. All in the cost for that one hour would be about £60 - multiply that by thousands and that’s how much NHS money is being spent on what was a waste of time.

Many fathers will also not let their DC be vaccinated (although they’ll let them have vaccines if required by governments to go “back home”) so our communities are at increased risk of viral outbreaks, TB because children are not getting protected.

Why come here if you are going to reject modern medicine?

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We have unfortunately had to spend a great deal of time in Blackpool Victoria hospital in the past two years, much of it in A&E as my life threateningly ill husband (top bracket tax payer) was triaged and eventually admitted (in the very worst case 58 hours in a plastic chair in A&E) was assessed.

His surgeons, doctors and HCAs when he was finally admitted (after intravenous antibiotics for sepsis - third time I’m three years - in an overcrowded side room) were overwhelmingly immigrants. Thank god for them.

Cosmicbroccoli · 18/09/2025 20:52

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 17/09/2025 11:36

Because they make the choice to come. They pay the smugglers. They claim the benefits and take the hotel rooms.

You can’t claim benefits if you’re in an asylum seeker in temporary accommodation i.e hotels. You can only claim benefits once your claim has been processed and you are given ‘leave to remain’, “ refugee status” to get this you need to prove that you are a refugee not an ‘economic migrant’. While you are waiting for your claim to be processed and in temporary accommodation such as a repurposed hotel if you are provided with meals you are given a allowance of £9 per week which will need to cover all the other basics such as toothpaste soap etc

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/09/2025 20:43

smallpinecone · 18/09/2025 12:51

At no point did I describe you as such.

Show me where I did.

I know. I realised quickly I’d made a mistake and rightly apologised. Sorry, again.

SleeplessInWherever · 18/09/2025 20:42

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/09/2025 20:29

No, sadly he owned her.

He was James Wedderburn, son of Sir John Wedderburn of Blackness Castle who was hung, drawn and quartered as a Jacobite on 28th November, 1746. Her name was Rosanna (her mother was nicknamed “tally Amy, which potentially explains me 🤣)Their son was named Robert. He somehow managed to travel to England to seek recognition from his Scottish family. They turned him away. He then travelled to London, published a book called The Horrors of Slavery (still in print, Amazon) and joined forces with abolitionists like Wilberforce. I am immensely proud of him.

My mother was a dreadful racist until she spent a year investigating our family tree and completely changed her thinking. I am also immensely proud of her.

This is why I abhor racism.

I have genuinely just taken to the internet and read all about this story, after your comment.

I think I’m a bit flabbergasted that I could even find it on there. Not because I didn’t believe you, it’s just crazy to me for some reason!

What a sad, and impressive history.

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/09/2025 20:40

LittleBitofBread · 18/09/2025 12:51

Yes, I was going to say this. It's not so hilariously unusual at all. Ella Al-Shamahi in Human, which you referenced and which is excellent, I agree, makes the very good point that we all have a different 3% of Neanderthal DNA, which means they're actually still very present. I found that slightly mind-blowing, and quite moving.

It was mind blowing, wasn’t it? We’ve basically been presented with the idea of Ug who bashed people with a club and grunted for decades.
Turns out they made art, carefully collected and sewed (sewed!) the feathers of beautiful birds into ceremonial gowns, made and wore jewellery and had ceremonial burials. I expect more will be discovered over the years.

On top of that, they were absolute masters of their environment.

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/09/2025 20:33

smallpinecone · 18/09/2025 12:20

If the Spanish government granted me a passport (which they wouldn’t, because I’d have to be born there) - would that make me Spanish?

As Spanish as those who were born and educated there, who’s ancestors have lived there since time immemorial?

Of course not. It’s a legal designation, nothing more.

But that legal designation is very important! (as is grammar, apologies for beginning a sentence with but).

smallpinecone · 18/09/2025 20:33

MsJinks · 18/09/2025 20:18

I can’t see where he was a known terrorist? His bios would have given that detail up.
As they say he was here illegally sounds like his asylum claim was rejected and either he was waiting appeal, or a removal, but that’s not stated precisely.
What he did was abhorrent and he is at least jailed, unlike many rapists, and is subject to a deportation order.
However abhorrent I don’t think this means that the entire Egyptian male population are rapists. I don’t think it means all asylum seekers are rapists.
I am actually not trying to get people onto my way of thinking re immigration- though some may be surprised - I’m hoping for humanity to other humans ie/ don’t shout at them outside hotels, attack them. And this is becoming more and more not ‘just asylum seekers’ because it’s now taken as more or less ok by many to do that to them, so it’s spreading to other people that look to some as if they may not be ‘British’.
I do also despair at the misinformation- for example though this awful individual is subject to a deportation order due to his crime, normally failed asylum seekers/other failed applicants go under a removal notice. They also aren’t illegal whilst pending a claim/appeal. It’s like a starting point for a maths problem being 2+2=5 - it is just a wrong starting premis and spoils a lot of debate around this as it seems deliberately obtuse, and like these people are so unimportant it just doesn’t matter how we term them. None of this is good for any of us and our society.

I think that’s what’s referred to as suicidal empathy.

He's a convicted terrorist. He's a member of an organisation fundamentally opposed to Western/British values. He's illegally entered the UK. He's made a claim for asylum, despite already having been granted asylum in Turkey, where his wife and child live. He's already been put up in a hotel for 2 years waiting for his asylum claim - which should clearly be rejected by any sane person -to be processed. While the judicial system has been navel gazing for two years, he's raped a woman in a park and now he's in prison for that.

What part of that story leads you to believe we still need to exclude any lingering danger that his application gets judged based on unfair assumptions about him? He is a proven liability and he has absolutely no business being in this country at all. The fact that the system still hasn't figured that out means the system isn’t fit for purpose at this point.

Papyrophile · 18/09/2025 20:32

And @TheLivelyViper I really don't feel responsible; the situation is not of my making. I can agree that refugee camps are shit places to end up, and yes, I feel very sorry for people who need them. I am happy to send a financial contribution to relieve the awfulness, but my sympathy stops well short of inviting them home.

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/09/2025 20:30

ColdSalads · 18/09/2025 12:51

Makes sense given his forehead.

Rude

🤣

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/09/2025 20:30

Talky Amy, not Tally. Bloody predictive text again!

smallpinecone · 18/09/2025 20:29

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/09/2025 20:14

Interesting and knowledgeable personal experience, thanks for that. If I were you and someone asked me what nationality I was, I would say French/German or Dutch because that is what I had chosen to be and that nation had accepted me as such.

Different perspectives I suppose.

Thank you.