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School drop off C U next Tuesdays

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ItsOnlyRainFFS · 17/09/2025 09:00

My primary school is right in the middle of a residential area. Loads of side road parking but for some reason a significant proportion of parents insist on trying to park right outside school gate. And when it rains it’s chaos! They will drive at 30mph, park across driveways, reverse right in the middle of the path crossings to obtain some holy grail parking space that saves them an extra 30 seconds walk. They are barely looking as they drive like lunatics to then drop their precious 5 year old outside the gate all the while risking hitting other kids. Year 5 and 6 are allowed to walk alone to school and I really get scared for them when I see this chaos. The biggest risk to these kids walking home alone is not some random stranger danger but bloody other parents driving!
I don’t get it!
AIBU to think these parents are total next level of C U next Tuesdays? And how the hell does anyone get them to stop being so selfish and reckless.
For info I work full time and regularly school run is a stress on top of work commute for me! I leave a couple mins early and account for parking a 1 min walk to school. It’s not exactly rocket science. I just don’t get the thought process that I need to park outside the school gate to hell with everyone else.

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Chinsupmeloves · 17/09/2025 18:26

Unfortunately this seems to happen everyday IME. It's pathetic, lazy and dangerous. Double yellow lines, hazard warnings, don't mean a thing to them.

The first time I experienced it I was shocked and disgusted. Those who arrived early and just waited on the hazards, speeding idiots, parking double and over driveways etc.

When I didnt have to drop off early at BC I used to park nearby and walk DC.

It's crazy

sgtmajormum · 17/09/2025 18:25

Live directly opposite the KS1 entrance to a primary. The insane parking I've seen over the years is next level. Some parents park up at 2.10 when the school doesn't finish until 3.05. Utter batshit madness.
They could park round the corner, a 2 min walk away but would rather park up for nearly an hour!

RitaFromThePitCanteen · 17/09/2025 18:01

Withthecorner · 17/09/2025 16:17

Sadly, no. Life changing injuries.

Parking is just another sign of a selfish society who take a risk because it suits them, rather than keeping children safe.

Horrendous. That poor child.

Redpeach · 17/09/2025 17:00

rainylake · 17/09/2025 16:08

Our school is part of a school street scheme, and as I said upthread, it hasn't stopped the chaos, it has just pushed it into the streets immediately surrounding the school street area.

I supported the introduction of the school street, but personally I find it worse now because there is a lot of doglegging around previously quiet side streets/three point turning to avoid the cameras. When combined with people pavement parking and stopping at corners, it means that there are a lot of very dangerous junctions now where small children are stepping out between (illegally) parked vehicles just where lots of cars are suddenly turning. Also, it's now awful for everyone in all the streets around the school, not just for the street the school is actually on.

The drivers involved do not give a shit. They care about not having to walk 5 minutes extra more than they care about potentially injuring or killing their child's classmate.

To be fair i have seen that happen, but i have also seen it work very successfully

Koolandorthegang · 17/09/2025 16:58

Yep. I live next to a school. There are jagged yellow lines clearly marked “do not park here” outside the school and double yellow lines too. The school is on a narrow bend with no visibility around the corner. Selfish arsehole parents ignore it all and park in these zones. It’s a secondary school too so I have no idea why their precious teenagers aren’t capable of walking a few minutes if they parked further away. I’ve often not been able to get by to get to my house because of these selfish cunts on more than one occasion. Give me strength!

NotSmallButFunSize · 17/09/2025 16:51

ToeSucker · 17/09/2025 10:34

Not intentionally trying to play devil's advocate but there is a status element to this. You might notice the most frequent offenders are parents who are senior on the School Association etc. It's largely about being seen and being seen in a position of importance. These parents also often use it for professional networking. I did it myself for years.

Not the case - at our school the biggest dick drivers are also the parents LEAST likely to ever chip in to help at PTA events etc, yet they always turn up to enjoy them with no thought for how the event actually is put on.

Just total selfish fuckwits in every way

KnottyKnitting · 17/09/2025 16:32

Yup total twats. But not new. My DDs are late 20s and it was the same when they were in primary school. One of mine was nearly brained by some entitled twat who not only parked on a corner, on a double yellow, on the pavement but also swung the door of her Chelsea tractor open with no consideration for the kids walking past and nearly knocked DD flying. When I had words she was totally unapologetic and quite indignant saying she had to get to work.

Next time I saw her, she was arguing with a traffic warden who had been called to the school after loads of complaints from neighbours near the school. Traffic warden wasn’t having any of it and wrote her a ticket. Sweet sweet karma!

Withthecorner · 17/09/2025 16:17

RitaFromThePitCanteen · 17/09/2025 11:06

@Withthecorner That's absolutely horrifying. Was the child OK in the end?

Sadly, no. Life changing injuries.

Parking is just another sign of a selfish society who take a risk because it suits them, rather than keeping children safe.

rainylake · 17/09/2025 16:16

LidlAmaretto · 17/09/2025 16:13

This happens at every school. It's ridiculous. I don't know why councils don't just get wardens to ticket them every single time until they stop. They would make their salary up in no time!

I asked our local councillor this question, and the answer is that parking wardens can't issue tickets to someone parked on a double yellow until they have given them 10 minutes grace. That is enough time for someone to take their child into school and back, so most people won't get a ticket and it's not worth the attendant's time then coming.

The only solution is to make the area a 'no loading' or a 'no stopping' zone as opposed to just a normal double yellow. But that costs councils money so they are slow and reluctant.

LidlAmaretto · 17/09/2025 16:13

This happens at every school. It's ridiculous. I don't know why councils don't just get wardens to ticket them every single time until they stop. They would make their salary up in no time!

rainylake · 17/09/2025 16:08

Redpeach · 17/09/2025 15:59

Not the schools who are part of the school street scheme

Our school is part of a school street scheme, and as I said upthread, it hasn't stopped the chaos, it has just pushed it into the streets immediately surrounding the school street area.

I supported the introduction of the school street, but personally I find it worse now because there is a lot of doglegging around previously quiet side streets/three point turning to avoid the cameras. When combined with people pavement parking and stopping at corners, it means that there are a lot of very dangerous junctions now where small children are stepping out between (illegally) parked vehicles just where lots of cars are suddenly turning. Also, it's now awful for everyone in all the streets around the school, not just for the street the school is actually on.

The drivers involved do not give a shit. They care about not having to walk 5 minutes extra more than they care about potentially injuring or killing their child's classmate.

softlyfallsthesnow · 17/09/2025 16:03

On the plus side, I always know what time it is by the sudden, multi blaring horns in our road. How stupid do you have to be to sit in a gridlocked stationary car and think the fifteen cars in front of you will magically vanish if you press your annoying horn. Maybe don't drive into a suburban side street in the first place and instead, tell your strapping, secondary aged child to walk a few hundred yards.

I share the pain with all points made so far, especially the idling engines for up to an hour. Polite requests often met with abuse.
As a teacher, I've always said that parents would drive up the school steps and into the entrance hall if they could.

Redpeach · 17/09/2025 15:59

MyDeftDuck · 17/09/2025 12:43

It is probably chaos around every school in the country to be honest. Your best option is to approach your council and suggest a survey regarding road safety during the times of school pick up and drop off…….i agree, it’s only a matter of time before a child gets injured or killed and that will be one child too many. Speak to the HT and get them on board too.
Why people cannot walk a short distance just amazes me…….i know the weather is often a factor but what price do we put on a child’s safety just because of a drop of bloody rain???

Not the schools who are part of the school street scheme

guestusername · 17/09/2025 15:45

I lived opposite a primary school for many years. The number of people who’d park ON my driveway, never mind across it! There were single yellow lines with waiting restrictions and that part of the street was one way which was ignored all the time. The abuse we’d get when we needed to get on/off our drive was off the scale.

People would start parking more than an hour before pick up so they could get a good space. I remember there was a van belonging to a painter/decorator who’d do that and I just happened to be at my parents house one day when he came to give a quote for some work. I recognised his van as a long term parking person and told him that he wasn’t getting the work from us, even though he’d given a very good quote, and the reason was that I knew he would down tools by 2pm so he could come and park outside my house for the school run and we’d never get a full days work out of him 😂

You'll never, ever change the entitlement of these people

BumpyWinds · 17/09/2025 15:44

vitahelp · 17/09/2025 10:47

So they are here then but why are none of them posting to explain their reasoning? I wonder..

Because they know it's selfish but don't give a shit and know they would be criticised to the ends of the earth if they admitted it.

But to those that do it and are reading this and not posting to admit it - you're selfish gits! The world doesn't revolve around you and you're not more important than anyone else!

Pickingmyselfup · 17/09/2025 14:59

I drove this morning because it was pissing down with rain. It was busier which is to be expected but the parking was even worse today. Several cars parked on a bend on double yellows, cars fully on the pavement all for the sake of saving less than a minute.

I choose to park outside a row of houses further away because it's easier to park for a start and it's legal. I'm still dryer and saving more time than I would be walking and not much wetter and saving barely any more time than if I were to park like a knob. I'm sure someone will be annoyed that I'm parking outside of their house but much better to do that and risk annoying someone than getting a ticket.

Now it's dried up I'm walking because it's good exercise and I really need it!

mamagogo1 · 17/09/2025 14:39

secondar School parents are even more entitled, apparently it’s ok to stop on a main road without even pulling over and let your child out - there’s 1200 students, a rainy days this selfish behaviour causes 1-2 mile traffic jams and the school don’t even care, they don’t reply to my and other’s emails. I have to go past every day because the shortest way to work (6 miles quicker) turns next to the school. It’s semi rural so many do need to come by car, the school need to allow parents to drop off round the back, they locked this entrance!

Justploddingonandon · 17/09/2025 14:33

Sweetleftfood · 17/09/2025 13:36

It's rife amongst the hugely popular schools with minute catchment areas around us. Funny that you will have to live within 0.4 miles to the school but it's vital that you drive there. I don't believe for a minute that everyone just have to drive the kids to school and then drive to work.

At DD's school with a similar catchment there's a sizeable number who have got their first child in then moved away knowing they can get the rest in on sibling priority. They cannot possibly account for all the cars at drop off though.

5foot5 · 17/09/2025 14:07

CopperTray · 17/09/2025 09:09

Things never change. My children are adults now but went to a small primary where the pub at the bottom of the road made it quite clear that they were happy to allow parents to park in car park for school drop off and pick up. It was about 100m from school gates- yet everything described in the op still happened. Unbelievable

Yup. My DD is nearly 30 and this sounds very similar. In our case there was a church just round the corner with a big car park which was made available for parents to park in. Didn't stop selfish idiots driving as close as possible to the school gates. Also, despite numerous requests from school and occasional visits from PCSO, many would still park on the bus turning circle. This meant when the school bus arrived it couldn't pull in properly and ended up blocking the road which led to further traffic chaos.

I get that some parents were going to work. So was I! With planning it was still possible to park considerately and walk the rest of the way.

Cattenberg · 17/09/2025 13:40

Brefugee · 17/09/2025 12:15

she was, unfortunately, killed. So that is why it is a particularly hot topic. it's a good while back now, but meanwhile outside that school the road is actually blocked with locked bollards and the residents have to get out and unlock them to get to their houses. Naturally they are all annoyed at this, but it is to protect the children so they have to lump it.

The road was "access only" already prior to the accident so the car shouldn't have been there, but only when there was a police officer checking it, people behaved properly.

Absolutely devastating (the woman didn't see jail time unfortunately, but she and her family moved away)

Horrendous. Poor little girl and her poor parents. All because of some selfish woman in an SUV who thought she could ignore the rules.

Theroadt · 17/09/2025 13:37

MrsRobinsonsHandprints · 17/09/2025 09:23

Cunt, cunt, cunt.

Either say it or don't. Alluding to it is worse than using it.

Or just use another word altogether 🤷🏻‍♀️

Sweetleftfood · 17/09/2025 13:36

It's rife amongst the hugely popular schools with minute catchment areas around us. Funny that you will have to live within 0.4 miles to the school but it's vital that you drive there. I don't believe for a minute that everyone just have to drive the kids to school and then drive to work.

Skybluepinky · 17/09/2025 13:34

No idea why anyone would chose to drive their kids to school unless they have additional needs.

BooseysMom · 17/09/2025 13:33

MrsRobinsonsHandprints · 17/09/2025 09:23

Cunt, cunt, cunt.

Either say it or don't. Alluding to it is worse than using it.

😆 I was actually trying to work out what C U next Tuesdays meant as I'd never seen it used until now!! Now I know and yeah just say cunt. It's a great word.

LEWWW · 17/09/2025 13:29

Our local has no car zones between hours of school pick up/drop off, isn’t enforced though so it doesn’t stop anyone, it’s literally hell on earth, parents in cars regularly driving on pavements because of the traffic and not wanting to wait, been several collisions, it’s one long main road and it backs up the whole road for an hour, no busses can get through or anything. Absolutely ridiculous.

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