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School drop off C U next Tuesdays

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ItsOnlyRainFFS · 17/09/2025 09:00

My primary school is right in the middle of a residential area. Loads of side road parking but for some reason a significant proportion of parents insist on trying to park right outside school gate. And when it rains it’s chaos! They will drive at 30mph, park across driveways, reverse right in the middle of the path crossings to obtain some holy grail parking space that saves them an extra 30 seconds walk. They are barely looking as they drive like lunatics to then drop their precious 5 year old outside the gate all the while risking hitting other kids. Year 5 and 6 are allowed to walk alone to school and I really get scared for them when I see this chaos. The biggest risk to these kids walking home alone is not some random stranger danger but bloody other parents driving!
I don’t get it!
AIBU to think these parents are total next level of C U next Tuesdays? And how the hell does anyone get them to stop being so selfish and reckless.
For info I work full time and regularly school run is a stress on top of work commute for me! I leave a couple mins early and account for parking a 1 min walk to school. It’s not exactly rocket science. I just don’t get the thought process that I need to park outside the school gate to hell with everyone else.

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MinecraftMum40 · 17/09/2025 21:38

I live less than 100 steps from local primary school. The parents are a nightmare-so many live within 5-10 minute walk yet they insist on driving round (often speeding) and park as close to the school gates as possible. I worry about the older kids being hit by one of their cars constantly too. The sit blasting music, have their engines on and part across gateways. School constantly remind parents but they just ignore.

Danikm151 · 17/09/2025 21:31

We’ve had a child actually knocked over outside the school as he was crossing the road by a guy going at speed.
thankfully he survived but some people still drive like lunatics at speed right by the school.

MyDeftDuck · 17/09/2025 21:22

Redpeach · 17/09/2025 19:14

That is the point of them

🥱

80smonster · 17/09/2025 21:16

The school should be communicating and checking that considerate parking is maintained. This is actually most annoying for people who live near the school and are inconvenienced each day. I’d take down the number plates and pass to the school. It’s their job to make sure parents are parking correctly and so that children aren’t endangered. Get down to the school office to have a word.

Bellyblueboy · 17/09/2025 20:55

I like beside two schools. The most considerate and careful drivers are the 17 year old students.

i once saw a dad mount the pavement to avoid a queue of traffic! Outside his child’s primary school!

I get it’s the only action most 4X4s get - but bloody hell the driving is insane!

thankfully I leave for work at 7:30am and get home at 7pm so I only get to witness the Mathew when I am off work!

Livelovebehappy · 17/09/2025 20:36

I live very near a school, and unfortunately it’s as you describe. The thing is, it’s usually the big shiny new cars where the parents act like idiots. The ones driving the little 10 year old ford fiestas seem to be the more sensible and respectful. I had a woman parking across my drive every time there was a drop of rain last term. She lives about five minutes down the road, so generally walks, but drives up on rainy days. I told her politely at first not to park across my drive. I then had to be firm and told her not to block me in even if she was ‘only going to be five minutes hun’. But no joy - just eye rolling and blanking me. So the first day this term I stuck a piece of paper on her windscreen with butter telling her not to park across my driveway. She was stood there when back at the car for twenty minutes trying to clear the butter from her windscreen, because of course butter is a bugger to get off glass without smearing. It worked though. She’s someone else’s problem now.

Nanatobethatsme46 · 17/09/2025 20:30

Drivingbuttercup1 · 17/09/2025 12:25

We live on the next street from the school, 5 minute walk, yet my neighbours will still drop their 6 year old off in a car.

You can tell some of the dads spend a lot of time at the gym. Ffs put the muscles to good use and park further down the street and walk!!!

I know someone who lives in the same street our school is on who drives her child to school every day and they are always late too
We manage to walk 40 mins to get to school on time in 5 years never been late once and we leave the house before 8am
I dont understand how people can be so unorganised

Nanatobethatsme46 · 17/09/2025 20:28

rainylake · 17/09/2025 16:16

I asked our local councillor this question, and the answer is that parking wardens can't issue tickets to someone parked on a double yellow until they have given them 10 minutes grace. That is enough time for someone to take their child into school and back, so most people won't get a ticket and it's not worth the attendant's time then coming.

The only solution is to make the area a 'no loading' or a 'no stopping' zone as opposed to just a normal double yellow. But that costs councils money so they are slow and reluctant.

We have a no loading/no stopping zone outside our school but does anyone pay attention . No
They all stop there to chuck their kids out before driving off
Pure laziness

Nanatobethatsme46 · 17/09/2025 20:23

Agreed, we live a 40 min walk (each way) to school
I dont drive and we walk in all weathers every single day of the school year
I cant count the number of times we have almost been run over by parents swinging to mount the pavement to park, not paying a bit of attention to the people who are walking to school
Only yesterday a parent who actually lives in the street the school is on, swings his car right i front of where we are walking on the pavement to reverse into his drive
These parents are selfish ,lazy and downright reckless
My child is year 5 so now allowed to walk into and out of school alone and even walk home alone if i let her.
No bloody way

Widower2014 · 17/09/2025 20:18

ItsOnlyRainFFS · 17/09/2025 09:00

My primary school is right in the middle of a residential area. Loads of side road parking but for some reason a significant proportion of parents insist on trying to park right outside school gate. And when it rains it’s chaos! They will drive at 30mph, park across driveways, reverse right in the middle of the path crossings to obtain some holy grail parking space that saves them an extra 30 seconds walk. They are barely looking as they drive like lunatics to then drop their precious 5 year old outside the gate all the while risking hitting other kids. Year 5 and 6 are allowed to walk alone to school and I really get scared for them when I see this chaos. The biggest risk to these kids walking home alone is not some random stranger danger but bloody other parents driving!
I don’t get it!
AIBU to think these parents are total next level of C U next Tuesdays? And how the hell does anyone get them to stop being so selfish and reckless.
For info I work full time and regularly school run is a stress on top of work commute for me! I leave a couple mins early and account for parking a 1 min walk to school. It’s not exactly rocket science. I just don’t get the thought process that I need to park outside the school gate to hell with everyone else.

Get the school to get the council parking warden out

OpalPandas · 17/09/2025 20:16

I’ve been on maternity leave for most of DD’s first year in reception and now Y1 so have been able to walk daily. I reported the ridiculously dangerous driving to the head a few months ago which did result in a school wide email. Our school has a couple of car parks and a pub we can use but it doesn’t help it’s up a big hill no one can be arsed to walk up, with tiny (and at some points nonexistent) pavements with few dropped curbs. I’ve knocked on people’s windows before to ask them to move but many times I’ve had to get the pram in the road. For our school what’s worse is the number of people dropping kids off and picking them up with no car seats and in many cases totally unrestrained. Again reported a couple of grandparents who ran a red light with three or four kids in the back literally hanging out the windows, no way could they have had any sort of seatbelts on, and sadly it’s not unusual to see that on the commute. The biggest school in our area (90 kids per year) has very little parking but is opposite a petrol station and people park at the petrol pumps and abandon their cars at drop off/pick up - the entitlement! 😂

Thingyfanding · 17/09/2025 19:58

Always the cunts in those discovery monstrosities. They probably live in a 2 up 2 down on a housing estate - god knows why they need something that size.

Newusername3kidss · 17/09/2025 19:54

You are definitely not being unreasonable- we live opposite a school and it’s utter bloody carnage. There is playing of parking within a couple of minutes walk but people are lazy fucks. Constantly block us in and something driving up onto the kerb at speed where kids are walking . I had a go at a guy yesterday as he literally nearly ran into a kid and he genuinely looked baffled as to why ramming up on a kerb at a ZEBRA CROSSING was unreasonable. The only kids important in the world are theirs - it’s a worrying state of affairs for the world.

Letskeepcalm · 17/09/2025 19:47

Newbutoldfather · 17/09/2025 09:04

And the Chelsea tractors who leave their engines running outside!

Hardly considerate of a school environment.

But so many will vote that you are right and continue to think that they are the exceptions to the rule.

I agree. A lot of people just don't see them selves as the problem

Shayisgreat · 17/09/2025 19:35

I haven't rtft but as someone who cycles with my ds, I agree that there are a lot of inconsiderate arseholes driving their children to school. It can be really scary!

tommyhoundmum · 17/09/2025 19:26

ItsOnlyRainFFS · 17/09/2025 09:00

My primary school is right in the middle of a residential area. Loads of side road parking but for some reason a significant proportion of parents insist on trying to park right outside school gate. And when it rains it’s chaos! They will drive at 30mph, park across driveways, reverse right in the middle of the path crossings to obtain some holy grail parking space that saves them an extra 30 seconds walk. They are barely looking as they drive like lunatics to then drop their precious 5 year old outside the gate all the while risking hitting other kids. Year 5 and 6 are allowed to walk alone to school and I really get scared for them when I see this chaos. The biggest risk to these kids walking home alone is not some random stranger danger but bloody other parents driving!
I don’t get it!
AIBU to think these parents are total next level of C U next Tuesdays? And how the hell does anyone get them to stop being so selfish and reckless.
For info I work full time and regularly school run is a stress on top of work commute for me! I leave a couple mins early and account for parking a 1 min walk to school. It’s not exactly rocket science. I just don’t get the thought process that I need to park outside the school gate to hell with everyone else.

Our local council has banned driving in the primary school street at drop off and collection times except for those living there

LlynTegid · 17/09/2025 19:26

I would not use the words the OP did.

Unfit parents who endanger the lives of their children and others, who should be banned from driving for a very long time, if allowed to drive again at all. It is not the fault of the school.

Redpeach · 17/09/2025 19:14

MyDeftDuck · 17/09/2025 19:07

Of course not 🙄

That is the point of them

Redpeach · 17/09/2025 19:14

JustMeAndTheFish · 17/09/2025 19:01

What on earth is a CU next Tuesday? Weird.

You've parked like a cu next tuesday

vitahelp · 17/09/2025 19:11

Speckly · 17/09/2025 18:39

I have special “You’ve parked like a cunt” stickers for this type of behaviour and enjoy slapping them on a side window 🤣 Bought them online and they were worth every penny! It’s incredible how entitled and lazy some people actually are!

Love this, if they’re big stickers I’d stick it right on the windscreen so they have to mess about peeling it off

MyDeftDuck · 17/09/2025 19:07

Redpeach · 17/09/2025 15:59

Not the schools who are part of the school street scheme

Of course not 🙄

JustMeAndTheFish · 17/09/2025 19:01

What on earth is a CU next Tuesday? Weird.

lilkitten · 17/09/2025 18:45

Our school has a specific drop-off car park, better than most schools, but people will block people in, drive the wrong way round it, anything to make it quicker for themselves. I stop to let children cross at the islands nearby, but will get beeped by other parents for stopping (exactly the kind of drivers I'm trying to stop them getting hit by - it baffles me that they care for their own children but not for the safety of other children)

Speckly · 17/09/2025 18:39

I have special “You’ve parked like a cunt” stickers for this type of behaviour and enjoy slapping them on a side window 🤣 Bought them online and they were worth every penny! It’s incredible how entitled and lazy some people actually are!

Chinsupmeloves · 17/09/2025 18:28

softlyfallsthesnow · 17/09/2025 16:03

On the plus side, I always know what time it is by the sudden, multi blaring horns in our road. How stupid do you have to be to sit in a gridlocked stationary car and think the fifteen cars in front of you will magically vanish if you press your annoying horn. Maybe don't drive into a suburban side street in the first place and instead, tell your strapping, secondary aged child to walk a few hundred yards.

I share the pain with all points made so far, especially the idling engines for up to an hour. Polite requests often met with abuse.
As a teacher, I've always said that parents would drive up the school steps and into the entrance hall if they could.

Sadly so true

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