Hubby wants to do a 6 week holiday alone

I think you're being selfish. Six weeks is nothing. He's 69. Do you really want to deny him this? Just because you are 'not a long distance hiker' does not mean that he isn't, or that he should give up this part of himself and sit at home with you.

Grow up.

Life’s too short not to do the things you really want to do. I often think that compromise means no one gets to du they would really like. If it was me, I’d be on the hike but as it’s you who doesn’t like long likes, why not fly out and join him for a short part of it?

If you have a passion for long hiking adventures it’s hard to ignore. At 69 I would be proud and wish my DH well and of course let him go. 6 weeks will flyby. Can you do a yoga or spa retreat or something?

Oh my God....does he want my husband for company??? 6 weeks of peace and quiet and the bed to myself would be a dream come true 🤣

Soldiers leave their families for months. He's never going to be able to do something he really wants unless u are in tow and u don't want to do it.

Does this particular hike take 6 weeks to complete? Could u go to the destination and have a hotel holiday whilst he does his hike? I get it's a long holiday but I also feel for people that can't do a passion cause another won't let them.

When he is away, sell up, move and don't tell him where you moved to.

OP, YABU (or maybe he is) to talk about walking the Camino. There are many, many variants of the Camino de Santiago, depending on where the original medieval pilgrims started from. You (he?) presumably mean the Camino Francés from St John Pied de Port, as that's the one that is popular with UK TV documentaries with celebrities and US films. Other Caminos are available.

I can proudly say I walked the Camino de Santiago. (It was the Camino Inglés from Ferrol, which took me 7 days, when I was 60). My boyfriend (plus others) came out for a superb pre-Camino holiday and walked for a bit when I officially set off. They then left me to it. It was a brilliant experience.

My only other comment is that the idea of meeting in the middle is not something I'd have wanted. Beginning, yes, obvs. End, yes. Once you're in the Camino zone, no.

Do you think you are over reliant on him for companionship etc? If you had young children then I think that would be unreasonable but you don't.

Enjoying life while you are still able is important. You can't live tiny lives in each other's pockets. Maybe you need to find things you are passionate about too.

Overall, I agree that if it’s something he’s passionate about, let him go or he could become resentful. However, if he’s done multiple solo trips and now wants to do this extended trip, I’d be questioning how much time he wants to spend alone and whether he’s going to spring something else on you next like a round the world cruise.

It’s fine if you also do trips together and get quality time as a couple generally but if not, that should be addressed. To keep you both happy, he could definitely offer to shorten the trip even slightly to 4-5 weeks or suggest extending by a week or two so you could also have your own holiday together and you could feel partly included.

She will miss him even more and be even lonlier if he thinks fk it divorces her and goes off to do all the things he's wanted and she's emotionally manipulated him out of over the years

OP, please let him make this choice like the independent adult he is. Adults are allowed to pursue their interests independently, he only gets one stab at life and at 69 there won't be a better time for him to undertake this. It'll nourish him for years to come and he'll be able to look back on it and feel satisfaction, and be happy that you supported him.

Why not plan your own solo holiday, or one with friends? I can't understand people who want to live in one another's pockets all the time. Go on a painting holiday, a yoga retreat, learn a language abroad, cookery course - go out and LIVE! Then you will both have new experience to talk to one another about.

And yes, he'll resent you if you stop him going. Why on earth would you?

Sorry, if I've missed something, or if you have any physical limitations, but have you considered training so you can go too, even for a part of it? I've explored lots of things I had never done before (mountain biking, trekking, camping) in my 50s with my (new) partner. I was nervous and even broke a limb at one point, but it feels to liberating to be trying new things and keeping one's mind/body active and engaged.

Please let him go and follow his dream. Life is so short. Don’t let resentment build - it’s a waste of energy and life.

For the Camino I would be happy for DH to spend 6 weeks. It's a very special thing.

Is it possible for a compromise so he doesn't do it all at once? Maybe two sessions of three weeks?

Or go out and meet him for a weekend part way through.

Alone, or with mates? Are you worried about something?
Sounds like he wants to fulfill a dream before it's too late. Why prevent that unless there was an unacceptable element of danger?

I don't think you're being unreasonable but I think you'd better let him please himself if he's really set his little heart on it.

I honestly wouldn't care about this and while I'd miss DH I'd quite relish the time to please myself for a while. If it is something that means a lot to him to complete and it's not something where it's suitable or appropriate for you to do it together then I don't see the issue. You are not lovestruck teenagers, you should be able to manage six weeks apart without it dooming the relationship.

You can speak regularly and facetime so it's not as if he's going completely AWOL with no means of contact for the whole time.

sounds like an amazing trip. I don’t understand why you would want to stop your DH potentially fulfilling a dream? If you had young children or had to factor in work holidays, etc that would be different. Find somewhere nice to stay towards the end of his hiking trip and meet him at the finish. Life is too short

I can understand how he’s gone from two week solo to wanting to do the Camino as it’s a bit of a Mecca for walkers. Idk how you should feel but I’d be worried I might get too accustomed to living without him!

I don’t understand why you think 6 weeks apart is too long?

You might miss each other but that’s not a bad thing.

I think it’s a lovely idea and i would be getting excited for my DP and thinking if there’s anything similar I would like to do for myself.

He is 69, and life is short, especially ‘fit to hike for 6 weeks’ type of life. He should go. Everyone should spend their life after children have grown, living. Do everything you want to that you can afford to. You never know when everything changes and he will surely resent the missed opportunity if you stop him or make him feel guilty. If you cannot go with, then you find something of your own to do. You should be glad he is able enough.

It depends. A friend of mine did it in one stage, 900 or so kilometers and she would not do it any other way as that is how she planned and felt to do it. So looks like he might feel the same way?

So this is rather different, but 28 years ago I had been with my boyfriend for about 3.5 years and were living together in the UK. I wanted to do a PhD in California (Stanford, to be precise). Yes I could have done it in the UK, but for various reasons I thought Stanford would be the best place. I received all sorts of negative comments and dire warnings about the impossibility of a trans-atlantic relationship for the length of an American PhD, including from my mother and a professor. My boyfriend was entirely supportive and never once made me feel bad or guilty or applied any pressure at all. We enjoyed 4.5 years travelling between UK and California, but typically spent periods of 6 weeks apart between visits. We got married part way through and i was pregnant with our first child by the time I returned. We are still happily married. If he hadn't responded that way, I doubt we would still be together today. Such a contrast to my previous jealous possessive boyfriend who threw a ridiculous fit when I wanted to spend once summer during my undergrad travelling by myself. Compared to my transatlantic PhD, 6 weeks is absolutely nothing. Celebrate the fact that he wants to do this and love him for it. I think its amazing!

Come on OP. Let the man live out a dream while he still can!

I’d be ok with that but would want to be planning my own jaunts too…