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Hubby wants to do a 6 week holiday alone

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Piratecatcher · 16/09/2025 19:59

Hi My hubby age 69 wants to go hiking solo for 6 weeks ..doing the Camino.. I am very upset about it as I feel its too long to be apart and also hurt that he is ok with that.. We have a good relationship usually and adult children. I have happily accepted him doing solo two week hikes in the past but 6 weeks feels too long and I am not a long distance hiker so I can’t join him. We are arguing about it.. Am I being selfish? He thinks I am.

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Brughtonrebel76 · 20/09/2025 19:10

Well if you are so unhappy in you're relationship then do your husband a favour and end the misery you seem to have.

Eddielizzard · 20/09/2025 19:06

Brughtonrebel76 · 20/09/2025 18:59

I don't blame him. Many of us men are sick to back teeth of women and would love to get away from the daily grind of being hen pecked, let him go he will come back a changed man.

I wish my DH felt like you and fucked off for 6 weeks 😂

B0D · 20/09/2025 19:05

I don’t think you should be trying to stop him going.

KindMauveCrone · 20/09/2025 19:01

I understand your sadness. Sometimes people just need some space. Have you considered going for a 4 week cruise with a group ? Good luck.

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 20/09/2025 19:00

Teapot07 · 20/09/2025 18:58

The fact he is calling you selfish when he is the one that is being selfish by wanting to go for six weeks. Pot kettle black.
six Weeks is a long time to be fair. Are you able to compromise and ask can he do 3 weeks instead? Six weeks is a very long time to hike. And also dangerous if he’s going alone.

How is it selfish that he wants to go have a spriitual experience? He’s 69. The man should have enough autonomy to have this experience.

Brughtonrebel76 · 20/09/2025 18:59

I don't blame him. Many of us men are sick to back teeth of women and would love to get away from the daily grind of being hen pecked, let him go he will come back a changed man.

Teapot07 · 20/09/2025 18:58

The fact he is calling you selfish when he is the one that is being selfish by wanting to go for six weeks. Pot kettle black.
six Weeks is a long time to be fair. Are you able to compromise and ask can he do 3 weeks instead? Six weeks is a very long time to hike. And also dangerous if he’s going alone.

amenabel · 20/09/2025 18:57

yabu

BucketOsnacks · 20/09/2025 18:57

6 weeks is nothing!!

Unless it's the school holidays. Then it's a bloody lifetime.

tiredmumof2zzzz · 20/09/2025 18:56

I would find it absolutely suffocating if my partner was trying to stop me from doing a 6 week trip. If it was a year, it would require more discussion but come on, 6 weeks!

BucketOsnacks · 20/09/2025 18:55

but marriage is a partnership and six weeks is a long time to be apart

It really isn't in the grand scheme of things. You won't be married for 30 years and then grow apart in 6 weeks.

Rob343 · 20/09/2025 18:52

If he was going for 6 weeks to Vegas or Ibiza you might have a point.
But a walk like the Camino is a spiritual experience.

Mossey55 · 20/09/2025 18:52

When you say solo do you mean without you but with other hikers . If he is going with others hikers fair enough but entirely solo I’d be worried about safety.
if I were you I would book myself a nice holiday in a 4 or 5 star hotel with a spa and lovely massages and beauty treatments either with a friend or daughter/daughter in law if you have one and have a blast

StarCurator · 20/09/2025 18:45

The Camino, as you will know, is a very special walk, indeed a pilgrimage, and I think that it would be very good if you honoured your husband's wish to do it. It is not necessarily a sign that he has tired of your marriage, but likely a desire to use the time he has left to do something meaningful. One of my sisters walked parts of the Camino on her own after her daughter left home, even though she is very happily married. She could only do two weeks at a time, but now that's she's retired, I imagine that she might go for longer at some point. It has been a very important event in her life.

If a lack of fitness is holding you back, there is plenty of transportation on the Camino; you can have someone bring your luggage between hostels or hotels, take the bus and just walk a bit (or not at all). There is more than one route, but they all go through spectacular countryside, so it could be an exciting trip even if you don't walk, or just come for a short time. Or perhaps you have an ambition to travel somewhere, or a special project you could do at home, or a course that you might take while he's away?

cheekybtch · 20/09/2025 18:44

Shortdaysalready · 16/09/2025 20:02

No you aren't being selfish OP.

And it sounds as though your attitude to his lone holidays has always been very reasonable and accommodating. But 6 weeks is taking the piss.

Is it, though? Just because they're married doesn't mean they're joined at the hip.

Lazytiger · 20/09/2025 18:43

DBD1975 · 20/09/2025 18:37

Lovely, 6 weeks of peace, would he take my husband with him? 😂

Mine too!! We need to set up a group holiday… and then surprise them 🤣

Lazytiger · 20/09/2025 18:41

It’s a spiritual, religious walk so it really wouldn’t bother me. Are you worried he’s not really going alone or are you worried he might get a taste for it and leave you alone frequently?

It’s hurtful when people we want around want to do something without us, but I think this is more a bucket-list trip then a need to get away and at 69 if not now, when?

Teddy1949 · 20/09/2025 18:38

Piratecatcher · 16/09/2025 19:59

Hi My hubby age 69 wants to go hiking solo for 6 weeks ..doing the Camino.. I am very upset about it as I feel its too long to be apart and also hurt that he is ok with that.. We have a good relationship usually and adult children. I have happily accepted him doing solo two week hikes in the past but 6 weeks feels too long and I am not a long distance hiker so I can’t join him. We are arguing about it.. Am I being selfish? He thinks I am.

You have obviously never been a service wife, six weeks is nothing!

Jellyrose20 · 20/09/2025 18:38

You're entitled to feel however you feel about it. I'd be upset, but ultimately it is his life and if it's a difference in interests where you won't join, then it's unfair to say he can't do something he wants because you don't want him to.

DBD1975 · 20/09/2025 18:37

Lovely, 6 weeks of peace, would he take my husband with him? 😂

Mymanyellow · 20/09/2025 18:36

when I was with my ex I wished he would have fucked off for 6 weeks. Guess that’s why he’s an ex.

Suecee15 · 20/09/2025 18:32

I would find it a long stretch, but my guy was in hospital for 3 months when we were in our mid 20s. Id rather he was 'missing' doing something he loved than undergoing major surgery... so given the choice its a no brainer.
Rally your friends abd relatives. Book a holiday yourself and that will break up the time.

Bubbe57 · 20/09/2025 18:23

You say you can hike for two weeks? Why not join him at some point for two weeks? Maybe you’d surprise yourself and go longer. Aim for the middle two weeks and then you’d miss him only two weeks at a time!

heybabeyourhairsalright · 20/09/2025 18:22

Aww it sounds as though you have a great relationship and will miss him. Would it be possible to break the time up by maybe going on holiday for a couple of weeks yourself whilst he’s away?

Jonnybigwallet · 20/09/2025 18:16

Are you worried he may be indulging in "hanky panky" along the way?