Hubby wants to do a 6 week holiday alone

Honestly I agree with this! If your kids are adults and him being away isn't adding unfairly to your workload then have a great time at home surely? If miss my husband, probably a lot but wouldn't hold him back from a once in a lifetime thing

I think if you’re off having the adventure of a lifetime over that length of time and not experiencing it with the person you chose to spend your life with I’d feel horrible.

But why? - surely there are some things that are solely for you - as an individual.

I’m so happy to be single. You seem like you want to possess your husband. How could you stand in the way of him doing something that he really wants to do? He will resent you for it.

OP is long gone isnt she?

Ive read her (3) posts

Im guessing someone has already suggested that she fly out and get transport along the route and meet him at designated stops etc? So she doesnt walk it but she is there for bits of it, have dinners together etc?

I would say this as well. Why 6 long weeks. I dream of going back solo for the whole summer in the old country but really....will never do it

Meant to say, YABU

You need to let him go and enjoy the trip or he will resent you, it's not too much to ask and you could do a bit of the walk with him if you want to join. "Happy Spouse Happy House!" I don't understand why you would try to block this?

Good on him. Really don’t see the problem here.

How is he being selfish? He wants to do an amazing adventure, one that takes 6 weeks to do, and which you don’t want to join him on. You’re not sharing childcare so I can’t see that you’ve any reason to try and stop him. Sounds controlling tbh…

And if you can’t be bothered to meet up with him in middle/end/both then that is on you.

It isn’t a holiday, it’s a pilgrimage of sorts.
I think you’re being quite selfish, even if you have your reasons.

It is amazing at 69 that he has the health and motivation to do something so wonderful. You should be proud of him and encouraging.

I’d personally think 6 weeks is so much- I knew you’d say the Camino!!! I think if you’re off having the adventure of a lifetime over that length of time and not experiencing it with the person you chose to spend your life with I’d feel horrible.

ps dh has been away 20 days before and that’s a long time in terms of the everyday you don’t experience together.

Well that's a blessing! No doubt you are one of these that asks what men bring to the table and then get debunked.

You’ve (presumably) been okay with two weeks, OP, given he’s done that before, and him holidaying/hiking alone isn’t a new thing. How long would you be happy with? (That’s a genuine question, not me being sarky!) And/or is there a way you could compromise — such as you flying out to join him halfway for a long (non hiking!) weekend? Or is it that you’re hurt he’d be happy to be apart from you for that long (in which case I’m guessing even if you did meet up partway through, that still wouldn’t take away the hurt for you…)
I don’t think you’re selfish; you and he perhaps have different expectations, however. I’d be okay with my DH doing this but that doesn’t mean you have to be.
Is he explicitly saying you’re selfish? I mean, you could equally call him selfish for wanting to do this — so I’m not sure ‘selfish’ is a productive way to look at this…

Let him go. He'll only resent you else and you'll wish he'd gone. It's not like he's going to Ibiza!

It really doesn't matter if other people would or would not be happy for their partner to go on a 6 week trip without them. Evetyone has different ideas sbout what would be acceptable to them.

Yhe only thing that matters here is how you & your partner feel. Previously you've both been happy with 2 week trips apart. 6 weeks is another matter.
I think that a solo trip 3 times longer than his usual solo hikes would've merited a discussion with you before he made up his mind to do it. He clearly has made his decision, even though not already booked, or he wouldn't be so obviously pressuring you.
Ideally, couples should be able to come a compromise, ( 3 weeks 4 weeks?) but I appreciate this isn't always possible.

I have accompanied my DH on work trips abroad far longer than I'm comfortable with, as the alternative was his not going. He absolutely loves his work! How could I say no and then live with his disappointment ?
So, now we're working on a plan to give him the work he wants in more bite-sized chunks, acceptable to both of us. It's a matter of respecting each other's needs. It's not always easy.. I hope you are able to reach a mutually acceptable compromise.

Erm…it’s NOT your thread though, is it?? 🤦‍♀️

My husband does voluntary work as a youth leader and supports teenagers through various Duke of Edinburgh award scheme ,as well as a full time job. He often goes away with his volunteer work many weekends and some weeks too. We sit down when an opportunity comes to see if he can fit it in and if it works for us . Obviously there are some trips that coincide with family commitments and he will always put me and our son and grandson first. However that leaves many many weekends that he is free to undertake these activities. I suspect once he retires he will be away for longer periods and I’m absolutely fine with that. I don’t have the same hobbies and interests as he does, so I see friends whilst he is away both for nights out and weekends away. It works for us.

What are you going on about? For a start the ‘likes of me’ wouldn’t live with the likes of you in the first place and certainly wouldn’t stop you leaving!

I’d be actively encouraging this! What an experience!!

Don’t be ‘that person’ OP, the one who squashes another’s dreams because they don’t share them. It’s not a good look!

Why would my bags be packed? Your comment is the reason iv made my own success and not had the likes of you pull me into such a situation. But thanks for you invalid answer to my thread.

Oh well sometimes the truth hurts.

Have you checked that your bags aren’t packed and by the door? 😆

The OP isn’t coming back. I expect she doesn’t like the answers she’s had.