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Hubby wants to do a 6 week holiday alone

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Piratecatcher · 16/09/2025 19:59

Hi My hubby age 69 wants to go hiking solo for 6 weeks ..doing the Camino.. I am very upset about it as I feel its too long to be apart and also hurt that he is ok with that.. We have a good relationship usually and adult children. I have happily accepted him doing solo two week hikes in the past but 6 weeks feels too long and I am not a long distance hiker so I can’t join him. We are arguing about it.. Am I being selfish? He thinks I am.

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ApricotCheesecake · 16/09/2025 20:08

Personally I'd be fine with my DH doing this if he wanted to after he retired.

museumum · 16/09/2025 20:07

Is he retired? If so I would miss my husband but understand this is something he really wants to do. If you were a hiker and he didn’t invite you it would be hurtful but you’re not so he either does it without you or not at all. Life is for living and early retirement an opportunity to fulfil dreams like this while he still can.

CountryQueen · 16/09/2025 20:07

He can’t do it with you, if he could then I’m sure he would.

Id be so upset if my husband of decades ruined my chances of fulfilling a dream for the sake of 6 weeks in front of the bloody telly.

Give your head a wobble and find someone to go away with for the middle 2 weeks maybe?

PicaK · 16/09/2025 20:07

That's an amazing trip. 6 weeks out of 52 doesn't really sound too bad. Surely you can fly out mid way through and then meet him at the end.
You sound a bit set in your ways. He wants to travel and explore - I'd let him.

BadActingParsley · 16/09/2025 20:06

I’d happily say yes to this and would hope my DH would if I wanted to. I’d miss him but if it was something he really wanted to do…

girljulian · 16/09/2025 20:03

Why don’t you want him to go?

My dad when he retired did an 8 week cycling tour of France. We tracked him on Life 360 and he had the time of his life. I’m so glad my mother didn’t object because he developed MND shortly afterwards and now he can’t walk.

suffedpeppers · 16/09/2025 20:03

My husband went to Himalayas for 6 weeks and I really didn’t mind at all.
The Camino is an amazing experience and many people go solo .
My friend did it about this time last year and really got a lot of positive energy from the experience.

Shortdaysalready · 16/09/2025 20:02

No you aren't being selfish OP.

And it sounds as though your attitude to his lone holidays has always been very reasonable and accommodating. But 6 weeks is taking the piss.