Hubby wants to do a 6 week holiday alone

Yeah … still unreasonable, sorry.

Can you articulate why exactly this upsets you so much? What you feel it’s jeopardising, or why it’s too long to be apart? Is there other stuff going on that makes you feel insecure, or that he’s not prioritising your feelings/relationship?

If it’s a bucket list thing for him but not something you would want to do I think you’re being selfish to not let him go. He’s not going to be young enough to do it for ever

Maybe you could go along and sleep nights with him in the accommodation but do the hike parts in a taxi or something? I don't know what the camino is, so if that is a daft suggestion, just ignore me.

It’s an amazing walk though and I can see why he wants to do it, a real challenge. Why not take the ferry to Santander and meet up with him half way then again at the end visiting places interesting to you - Salamanca I can recommend

YABU.

You are an adult, stopping him from experiencing life (while he’s healthy enough to do so) because you’ll miss him is selfish IMO.

I'm another who would wave him off with good grace.
I think you are being selfish. Sorry. x

I just think if you can’t support your spouse to follow a dream then it’s not great really

I don't see anything wrong with this trip. He's probably proud of himself that at his age he is still fit enough to make such a long trip. You don't have young children to look after, you haven't mentioned any big event he would miss, I would happily send him on his way to fulfill his wishes (I almost said "dream" but that sounded to OTT).

My husband goes away for a few months each year (not for work), it's fine.

If a thread was about a husband making his wife lose out on her trip of a lifetime just because the time frame fell outside of his acceptable limit, he'd be called all sorts.

Yabu. My dream is that I’m still healthy and fit and have the money to do wonderful things like this when I’m retired. Very luckily for me, I’m single so don’t have anyone saying no I can’t do anything. I would honestly rather be single than be ‘not allowed’ to do stuff like this.

Am I right in assuming he is retired, with no caring responsibilities? Are you fit & well enough to take care of yourself at home for 6 weeks?

If so, I would absolutely let him go. It sounds like a once in a lifetime trip - exactly what retirement is for in my humble opinion. If he doesn’t go now - when can he?

It’ll be an amazing trip and if it’s on his bucket list it would be unfair of you to stop him. If you don’t want to do it with him then he will have to do it alone.

The Camino is a religious experience for many people, a pilgrimage. It isn't just a jolly and it is really hard on the body. Let him do it while he feels he can.

Too long to be apart? From an almost 70 yr old man who otherwise spends his entire life with you? What exactly are you worried about? Why can’t you be happily alone and fill your time productively for a relatively short period of time (in the grand scheme of things)?

Sorry OP, but YABVVU. To stop him doing something so personal at a time of life when he may not get another opportunity because it’s ‘too long’ is very selfish (and horribly clingy).

What are your interests @Piratecatcher?

I’m confused as to why he can’t. You don’t have any responsibilities together and you can’t do it. How else can he fulfil his dreams?? Seriously you’ll miss him sure but what else is there. It’s controlling and a little unfair to make him give up on doing something because it doesn’t involve you. Life is short. Why stop him.

Is it bad that I'd be getting a suitcase out of the garage and asking DH what he needs to take... Honestly OP, it sounds an amazing thing to do and I'd let him go but the condition is that you then do something amazing together.

It wouldn’t be the same in stages I don’t think

but could you go out and do a day or two with him - not on a hilly bit!!!and then you could do a long weekend at the end

For me it depends if he is retired. If so then you've got the rest of the year to spend quality time together. So id be pissed off if he did it everry year but a one off is ok. If he is still working then that's all his annual leave and means you don't get any down time together all year then I'd be very upset

It was this one @AmyDuPlantier

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5032932-2-weeks-to-go-to-my-big-solo-adventure-and-starting-to-lose-my-nerve?

no young children, no caring responsibilities, no job (I guess retired at 69). Just let him have this adventure! Do you have health issues/disabilities which mean you cannot cope on your own? If not, yab massively unreasonable.

There was a thread on here last year where a woman did the Camino on her own, and her family were wonderfully supportive.

Maybe worth a read OP.

Could you plan a project or a holiday that you really want to do but he wouldn't enjoy, for at least part of the time he would be away? Travel out to meet him in the middle of his trek? If he's resentful because you say he can't go the bad feeling between you could last longer than 6 weeks.