Hubby wants to do a 6 week holiday alone

I'd think all my Christmases had come at once if my husband buggered off for 6 weeks.

It wouldn't bother me. I'd relish the time to be free to do as I pleased for an extended period. (But in reality I'd be more likely to do it than him.)

I do understand your feelings OP, but at 69 he might not have many opportunities for this sort of intense, gruelling multi-week trek. Maybe he wants to do it while he is still fit and able as a one off adventure?
I think YAB(slightly)U.

I’m really sorry to read that your instinct is not to encourage him to go and enjoy. Is there a drip feed coming which will explain your feeling?

I agree. It is more than a hike

It does sound a long time so I can see your argument. However, please let go of his coat and give him your blessing. You can use it as bargaining if you ever wanted a long holiday without him.

Re frame this.

Is there a way you COULD do this with him?

Not necessarily walking, but meeting up with him along the way.

If a trip which I think has a meaningful part to it and I do think even if its 6 weeks, its one of those things, that you should try and find a way to enable him to do it. Its not like a jolly somewhere.

I did the Camino a few years ago after a cancer scare.
It can be a really big experience and doing it continuously is different from doing it in stages.
There are some really interesting places on the way. Would it work for you to spend two or three weeks staying at eg Pamplona, Santiago de Compostela and another interesting place on the route? You wouldn't have to hike. There are even organised trips where people go with a lot of support so you might be able to visit several places on the way without any hiking.
Even if your husband wanted to stay in pilgrim hostels most of the time he might find a few nights in better accommodation worthwhile.
Have you seen the Camino film (Emilio Estevez, Martin Sheen)?
Apologies if this is all irrelevant to you. I hope you work it out between you.

This is amazing for him, he's obviously trying to get some things checked off his bucket list as he gets older.
My friends partner has just been away solo for 6 weeks, there was no resentment, just something he wanted to do.
My cousins husband travels all over the world in the army for months on end and they are an amazing couple.
This doesn't have to be a negative thing, I wouldn't feel good if I stopped someone doing something they would love to do just because I didn't want to be away from them for long. Think of the stories he will have for you and definitely plan your own adventure.

Let him go! How selfish to grudge him this time for something so special. Xxx

It’s unfair to suffocate other people into not doing things they really want to do for no other reason than ‘you don’t want him to’.

At his age he needs to do those bucket list things. Six weeks is long but give your head a wobble and let him go.

All I know of the Camino is from the book Two Steps Forward https://amzn.eu/d/iddJQcC I know it’s fiction but it did seem to me that there were people who did parts of it, or who didn’t necessarily hike the whole way.

To me it would depend on whether the trip would adversely impact the ability to spend time travelling together, as that’s what I hope to do in retirement with my DH. But I think I would definitely try support him to do it.

Just asked DH if he fancies the Camino and he said yes. Let him go OP.

Last year I was made redundant and went off to SE Asia for 3 weeks mainly cycling. Left DH and DS18 at home. They were pretty happy 😳.

Either join home for sections or a nice holiday at the end, or do your own thing.

Why woukd you want to stifle his opportunities? Life is for living.

YABVU OP. Thus sounds like a bucket list experience, the sort of thing you can only do when you’re retired. Why would you stop him doing this? The fact he’s 69 and wants to take on a challenge like this is pretty incredible.

Unless there is some drip-feed coming about your health or disability or being in the middle of a nightmarish building project, or some other reason why you cannot cope for six weeks without him, then yes, you are being selfish.

The camino is a once-in-a-lifetime thing to do, he is not getting any younger, and by the sound of it he would happily do it with you if you were willing or able.

Trying to stop him going would do far more damage to your relationship than six weeks apart.

Can you fly out to meet him mid walk ... maybe he could take a few days off walking x

If he's retired YABU

@Piratecatcher 's thread title is: Hubby wants to do a 6 week holiday alone.

Except that's not really true. He wants to do the Camino trail and you have said you cannot join him as you're not a long distance hiker. His only option therefore is to do it without you

My partner has done part of this walk previously and wants to do the full walk once he retires. I’ve never been much of a hiker tbh and it means a lot to him, we will still likely have a DD in school too still by then and I’ll be working FT so we have discussed taking a holiday where we will meet him before and after. I have no issue about it tbh.
Could you arrange to meet him in parts and maybe have some nice trips yourself, maybe a way around it.

If I was in a situation where a spouse was fighting me to make me give up a planned life dream just to sit home with them, it would be divorce time. Without hesitation.

Is it taking the piss? Something he’s desperate to do which she won’t participate in? It’s not like he has kids to look after 🤷‍♀️ it’s only 6 weeks.

You get one life. Let him live it!

I would miss my partner but would be very happy to support him in doing this. You don't have to be tied at the hip just because you are married.