Hubby wants to do a 6 week holiday alone

Its 6 weeks not 6 years. Support his adventures even if you don't wish to take part. Its extremely selfish to try and stop someone elses dream. I hope he goes anyway.

Life is short. Let him go or he will resent you. My DH and I have always travelled independently as well as together due to career breaks. I once went away for twelve weeks and he six another time. We need to keep our cups filled.

That's an amazing trip. 6 weeks out of 52 doesn't really sound too bad. Surely you can fly out mid way through and then meet him at the end.
You sound a bit set in your ways.

The Camino is a massive thing. And as a fellow 69 year old I totally understand the need to fulfil a dream like that while he can.

I went on long haul backpacking trips on my own when I was in my late 50s/early 60s. It was my late husband who suggested and encouraged it. He knew I wanted to have the independent backpacking experience, and backpacking was never going to be his thing.
My trips were only 3.5 - 4 weeks, but he didn't resent being left at home, he was proud of me.
He didn't get to live to fulfil his own dreams. He didn't even get to retire.

Don't be the reason that your DH doesn't get to fulfil his dream @Piratecatcher .

If you don’t have children to care for or the responsibilities of work, I don’t see a problem with this.

This is the time in your life when the two of you are free from that grind but still have your health. It’s a narrow window and you both need to take the opportunity to check off the items on your bucket lists while you can.

Hardly! Namely to make sure he was ok hiking alone and had arrived safely as opposed to fallen somewhere. Meet ups, because crazy as it sounds I like my DH and maybe OP does too, and an opportunity for her to have a weekend break!

They've only been together for 7 years they didn't bring them up together. It would be sad if op got her own way. Some people are like that possessive. He's worked hard all his life why shouldn't he do the things he enjoys.

I don’t see the problem. You don’t have jobs or childcare to juggle between you which would be the main limiting factor. It sounds like an amazing trip. I’d hate to think I couldn’t still do things like that even if I was married.

I would hate my DH trying to stop me doing anything as amazing as a Camino, not that he would.

Surely you can find things to do while he's away? And then don't be miserable or resentful when he returns. Make a cake to celebrate his return and enjoy hearing all about it.

What a sad view of marriage you have.

I have been married for 25 years and with my husband for 30 years. We are certainly a partnership but that doesn't mean that we have to be constantly joined at the hip. I love that he would support me to do stuff for myself and never want to stand in my way, and I would absolutely support him from following his own dreams and ambitions.

You talk about having responsibility for the happiness of the person that you're married to. Surely that extends to supporting them to fulfil their goals? And in any case, what kind of person could be genuinely happy if they knew that they had guilted their life partner into giving up on something that they really wanted to do? I would feel awful about causing my DH to miss out on something important to him.

You can’t really stop him doing it and arguing with him about will either make him begrudgingly stay at home with you or go anyway but it won’t be as enjoyable for him and you’ll still be pissed. It’s a lose-lose. He’s your husband but you don’t own him. If it’s a dealbreaker for you then let him know that, but 6 weeks in the grand scheme of things is really nothing and I can’t imagine I would ever feel it was reasonable to fight with someone about this.

What has she got to be concerned about Google where he is going to. It's not Thailand. He's 69 and this could be his last opportunity. It's nice to see an active pensioner who doesn't want to sit there gazing at the television, talking about mundane things. I used to work in care it's sad to watch. Some residents can't get up to put a cup in the sink and they could. I watched pensioners fade away and take pills for depression. He makes getting old sound exciting.

He sounds amazing, he must be so fit to do that, let him fulfil his dreams OP life is too short

How controlling.

When you first met him Pirate what length trips was he doing? Did you discuss it then what sort of trips he had planned in future? My DH has a very active obsessive and expensive hobby too. 2 weeks and lots of mini breaks for it is my limit and he’s always known that. I don’t personally find that selfish obsessive hobby attractive in a partner and have always been clear I support his hobby but not at the detriment to the kind of relationship I want or to the point where I keep house whilst he travels solo - I would rather be solo! So for him to try change that would very much annoy me and cause issues. I think your DH should be open to compromise and should care what you think and feel. You are entitled to have the relationship you want too.

If I was him and married to you I’d go anyhow.. he’s your husband not your property, he can actually go without your permission, but it would be nice I guess if you were happy to have a DH with a fab sense of adventure.

Really?

The only reason it’s taking the piss is if they can’t afford it.

They’re not joined at the hip and no longer have dependants.

It sounds like you’re in different phases. Are you retired also ?

Do you have something special planned for the dates he's away? Something you don't want him to miss? Or you just like having him around?

Don't stand in the way of someone else's dream.

It might even be good for you to spend time without him

She's the one being self centred.

I'm sorry but the camino is on a lot of people's bucket lists and I'm not surprised he wants to do it. In fact I want to too!!

Can you go with him? If you don't want to walk or cycle you can easily get in between locations by car or take public transport and meet along the way. It would be great. I was at the rioja end of it this summer. Go!

Yes marriage is a partnership but it is not a prison. I love my relationship but when DH goes away I get quite excited for the time to myself. He once went away for two months. It was bliss and though I missed him we talked a lot and it was fine. Not being ok on your own when no young kids are involved is weird to me.

Well it’s something that he really wants to do and you are welcome to join him but as you said you are not a hiker…..so you expect him not to go because of that…..can you not go out there and join him for part of it

Marriage is a partnership and you support each others dreams - the thought of making him miss out on a wonderful life experience for the sake of 6 weeks is selfish

and 6 weeks isn’t really that long for what will be a one off trip

if you share hobbies and can do these things together then great but if you don’t want to do the same things then you need to give each other the freedom to pursue your own hobbies and support them

I don’t like that some posters are saying she should let him go. My view of marriage is that it’s not up to either party to ‘let’ their partner do or not do something.

Back to the issue, if my DH had wanted to do something like this, I would have helped him pack. To be 69 and have such a zest for life is amazing.