Hubby wants to do a 6 week holiday alone

If you were left “holding the baby” or this would have an impact on your joint finances or use up all of his holiday allowance meaning you couldn’t do anything together at a later date I would understand but given your age and the fact you’ve said your children are adults I assume you’re both retired meaning holiday allowance isn’t an issue and that your financial situation is comfortable. It’s not as if you’re going to be worrying about how to pay the bills because he’s taken so long off work.

I see no issue with him wanting to do this.

I understand you’ll miss him but life is short and the Camino is a special trip and a bucket list one for many people. 6 weeks isn’t too long in the grand scheme of things and I’m sure it is a good thing for your relationship to support each others dreams. My husband went to perform at the Edinburgh fringe for a month and it was hard but I knew it was important to him and that ultimately it was good for our relationship to support each others dreams, especially before we had kids and other responsibilities which would have made it too challenging. Retirement is the perfect time to do an extended trip like that. Perhaps you could go over to meet him after and have a few days together to relax and catch up. Or meet him at the end and do a couple of days hiking together.

Gosh I would be planning my own 6 week adventure. I can understand you might miss him but tbh I think it shows confidence in the relationship and life is short. I will want to travel more than my dp when I retire

My dad went trekking in the Himalayas in his 60s. It was for about a month. Don’t think my mum was the slightest bit bothered.

Let him go, marriage is not about living in each others shadow!

I follow a couple who youtube about their retirement and the travel they do. But sadly the husband has just died very suddenly at 70. You just never know how long you have and it should be made the most of. What are you doing with your retirement?

My dad died at 59 and I always felt sad for him that he didn’t get to enjoy retirement after working so hard and raising the family for all those years. Let your DH go while he is fit and well, Plan some wonderful stuff to do yourself while he is away,

This. Take yourself off and meet him on the way during it. The Camino is a bucket list thing for some and it takes time. He will have a great sense of achievement. You do something for you next. My husband plans to do this and I would wave him off.

Yes, he can. I have friends who are older than that - two over 80- who do far more adventurous hiking (and other things) than the Camino and they get insurance. But it does cost a lot more the older you get, so doing it as soon as possible is a sensible idea.

OP explained that they have only been together 7 years.
I think he should still go, but maybe helps to explain her reluctance a little bit.

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I think it’s fine , it’s not every year and the Camino is a bucket list adventure for a lot of people . I’m sure you’ll survive .

“Letting” him? Gosh - he’s 69! Maybe he thinks time is runningbout (fitness, mobility) to get his bucket list done. Breathtakingly narrow and self-focussed of you. Surely you can do your own project during that time that he isn’t interested in? Sounds a bit claustrophobic to me.

Yes you are. I imagine at 69 you two have probably been together for at least 30 years? Can the man not have six weeks alone after this long. It's only six weeks not months!

I would have no problem with this. It would be different if you were at an earlier stage of life and he was leaving you with small children.

I have been married much longer than you and believe that time spent apart is quite valuable, both as individuals and as a couple, because you get a new perspective on many aspects of life and a chance to re-evaluate

I’d love to have the house to myself for 6 weeks! What bliss. Wave him off.

why don't you join him after 2 weeks?

Can he get insurance for this, given his age? That would be my concern.

That’s something I plan to do when I’m retired. DH doesn’t have a problem with it. Equally I don’t have a problem with his plans to ski more.

Marriage doesn’t mean being joined at the hip.

For many it's a religious experience. He is 69, only X number of years left. Why can't you meet him part way or at the end? YABU. He isn't going to visit the fleshpots of Thailand.

you sound hard work. Jesus!

If he is physically able to do it then I don’t think it’s reasonable to make him feel guilty/ask him not to go.
It’s 6 weeks out of entire year, you don’t have young children etc and the time will fly by.
Make a plan of some trips that you want to do, day trips, catch up with friends, theatre trips etc and the time will fly by.
If I had been with a partner for 7 years, and had already done my child rearing, work and all that chaos that brings and they tried to stop me doing a trip of that length that would give me so much joy, it would make me rethink the relationship I’m afraid.

I think you should find a way to make it work. You could go for part of it? You could consider going for all of it and not doing the hiking if it’s not your thing. I think if he wants to go for the experience etc and it’s not a case of him wanting time away from you per se, you should find a way to make it work.

My mum resents trips my dad does and it’s horrible. I don’t see why you can’t do things like this when you’re married.. especially if you’re retired and there’s not much going on! What would you / him be doing normally in those 6 weeks?? Id also be considering what’s the best use of the time!

YABVU

Let him have a travelling life experience.

My DH went away on a trip for nearly 5 weeks in much earlier stages of our relationship than 7 years. i’m so glad he went.

You’re being an advert for staying single right now.

Unless you rely on him for care or physical help in a way that no one else can cover, I don’t get the issue.