Hubby wants to do a 6 week holiday alone

Will you miss him, or will you just bored not having him a around to keep you entertained?

This really isn't a good idea. The Camino isn't about staying in luxurious places and having someone tag in on bits of it

It's a pilgrimage route. It's about the ascetic experience of difficult walking and staying in basic accommodation. A non-hiker trying to tag along would cramp his style hugely.
He will be 'in the zone' and if OP wants to be involved, joining him sat the beginning and/or end of the trek should be the limit.

I’d love to do the Camino. Even if you’re not doing it for reasons of faith, it’s supposed to be an amazing spiritual experience. I couldn’t / wouldn’t stop my OH doing something like that, if we had the resources/money for them to do it.

You haven’t got young children to care for, so it wouldn’t bother me in the least.

You'll have 6 weeks of just being able to please yourself what you do and when.

Sounds good to me.

You can go with him though - Northern Spain is gorgeous, you can be the backup car and see the sights, he can stay in more luxurious places with you, even if it's for part of the time, you could set out each morning and do the first 100m, buy the pinxos for him to have with his evening wine!

Husband should go

You plan something you want to do yourself

Very upset? Because he wants to do a hike? My partner goes away for at least a month each year to see family in his home country. I wouldn't dream of even suggesting he didn't go. Obviously he invites me but tbh I use the time to spend with my own family and friends when I'm not working.

He’ll resent you for constraining him. If I was with someone for only 2 years and they were behaving like this I would be extremely put off.

As a 1 off, for a specific purpose that is not a family style holiday then why not? It is a long time to be apart and I would absolutely hate it myself and I’d miss my DH dreadful but why not? There is no opportunity cost to the time in terms of time off from work so I think you need to just suck it up and let him have the experience.

Ah, I understand you. My husband is 66 and we've been together 7 years and married for three. I'd be really upset if he wanted to go away for 6 weeks without me. I'm still in the loved up phase of my marriage and would be quite hurt too. I was widowed 13 years ago and I don't want to be on my own again. Funnily enough with my first husband who I was married to for 25 years I wouldn't have minded him going away. I would have coped no bother. So I get it.

Yes, I think you can are being selfish. Nowadays you can be in touch daily via WhatsApp, phone or email, it's not like you'll be sitting around waiting for letters.

Maybe he feels like this is a great chance to do such an epic walk while he's still fit and healthy? We never know what's around the corner in life.

Perhaps you could fly out and meet him for a few days at one point on the hike? Thar way you get a holiday out of it too.

Of course he should go. He’s not getting any younger. Surely you’ll be fine for 6 weeks. I’d be encouraging my dh to follow his dreams. Especially at his age any no work/ childcare commitments.

Just reading the title of the thread I thought "hell, no" straight away. Reading that is about doing El Camino and not going to Thailand I think why no? if he likes it.

Let him go - if it's something he longs to do, he needs to do it now. At 69, you never know what's round the corner for your health. Reframe your thoughts "it's only 6 weeks". Spend it doing the things you like to do. If you can't think of things, have a reset. Find some hobbies/groups/activities of your own. This will see you well in the future.
Send him off with a smile and well wishes. He'll live you for it.
I've took early retirement and I'm doing all sorts if activities, without DP, and benefiting hugely from doing so.

you should be so delighted that he wants to achieve this! It is so important as we get older that we embrace challenges and do them while we can. Think how happy he will be when he achieves it. I agree go out and meet him and celebrate with him.

Yeah, this. I really hope he goes.

I saw your title and was prepared to say absolutely not but actually given you’re ages, lack of responsibility for children and the specific nature of the Camino you’re being unreasonable.

how would you feel if your DH refused to “let” you do something you really wanted to because he didn’t want you to be away for 6 weeks? Not just at this point in your life but ever? That feels pretty unreasonable.

If she doesn’t go, I will!

You say you’re not a hiker but is there any reason you couldn’t do some of it with him? If not, this might be a good opportunity to get fit!

He’s obviously in good shape Sk why wouldn’t you want to be able to keep up with him as you age?

Definitely selfish to ask him not to fulfil his ambition.

I am not a long distance hiker so I can’t join him.

you could go with him and do the last 2 weeks with him or the last week and the middle week - then go off sight seeing France and Portugal are nearby how about a week walking - a week on the algarve and the last week walking with him?

How will he be managing the trip? I gather people normally stay in hotels so just meet up with him in one of more of the hotels and do your own thing in between.

He is 69! He may not have the ability to do this type of hike for much longer.

he is an individual, not an extension of you. Of course he should be able to go.

Sounds fine to me. I wouldn’t let my husband do this as we have two small kids. But as your age I don’t see the issue. I would probably join him for some of it. You sound quite needy. He has one life to live. Why can’t you let him go?

Sounds like you have a healthy relationship. I actually think him wanting to do this is strong evidence of this. He wants to do something that is a life achievement. Could you not fly out a couple times? Walk some bits with him? If he wants to do it by himself send him of with your best wishes and support his personal goal I'd say. Sounds like it has no financial or logistical impact on you.

I’d seriously consider ending the relationship if someone didn’t let me do this at aged 69, with no DC at home.