Hubby wants to do a 6 week holiday alone

Originally I was going to say no to him. But thinking about it you can keep in touch easily these days and perhaps do something or a few things of your own and or meet him at the end.

YABU, What's the point in being retired if you can't pursue your passions and interests? If you had young children I'd understand entirely but it's not like he's leaving you in the lurch.

Let him go and do something nice for yourself while he's away.

Every relationship is different, and fair enough some people would be fine with their partners doing this. But I think you're getting a lot of hate OP! I'm sure there are plenty of people who wouldn't want their partners going away for such a long stretch either! Hardly outside the scope of what would be considered "normal"!

If you have the money, I think a previous posters idea about meeting him for a week, three weeks in, might be good? Only if you'd be comfortable travelling there and alone. If he does end up going, I'd want a discussion about how it can't be the new norm to have six week holidays from each other.

Assuming he is retired and doesn’t have limited holidays then I do think YABU for all the reasons above.

I get that you will miss him, he will miss you too I’m sure but that doesn’t mean he shouldn’t do it. Can you join him for say a week a couple of times? Or the middle 2 weeks?

On a personal note, I do dislike this idea that some folk have that we seem to cease as individuals when we couple up and can't possibly be apart for a few weeks. He's 69. He's worked all his days. He just wants to have an adventure while he still can. It might turn out to be a good thing, you can pursue stuff that you've always wanted to do in those 6 weeks.

Could you not fly out and join him for a week half way through?

Why not meet him half way (literally). Catch up with him at various points on the journey and have a bit of a holiday yourself. It does seem a shame to stand in the way of something that he obviously feels is important for him,

This. You could go but it’s not your thing. Doesn’t stop him going.

Sounds terribly selfish. You're not an invalid or looking after small children so why can't he live his dreams now while his health is still good enough. He won't be able to do that for many more years.
If you had a dream trip you wanted to go on before you die you'd be really pissed if he said no. Also you sound clingy and immature. I think a bit of space to remember who you are and what you like doing on your own will be good for you both. Have your own adventure then fly out to meet him and share the stories.

It doesn't count as walking the Camino if you do it in stages - anyone can do that; the challenge is that you do it all in one go!

Let him go ! It’s his dream ! And you dont have the same responsibilities now.

Why is it taking the piss? It doesn’t sound as if he’s leaving the OP to pick up his share of childcare or other responsibilities. The Camino isn’t a piss up, nor is it something that could be done in a weekend if the OP’s DH got his finger out. It’s not like he’s just disappearing for 6 weeks for the hell if it, it’s a tangible thing that he’d like to experience/achieve. How is that a piss-take? The OP doesn’t participate in that hobby which is entirely reasonable, but why should her DH miss out on an achievement which is known to be a pinnacle of that type of hobby because she doesn’t do it?

I would be upset too because my husband and I spend a lot of our time together but if he wanted to do the Camino I would let him, it's a spiritual journey for a lot of people.

I have one question , how did yous meet

I feel sorry for you OP. My 1st instinct was that I wouldn’t like it to be honest but reading the other comments I think I may need to look at why it would bother me. I would just tell him that you’re sorry you objected, it’s just that you will miss him but you see it wasn’t fair. At this point you’ll both feel crap if he doesn’t go.

I do doubt some are reading between the lines though, I doubt he puts as much effort into doing the things with you that you like or planning lovely activities that you can access. Maybe I’m wrong but things like this sometimes upset us and we can’t put our finger on why and you’ll likely do that over time.

He's 69 so it's kind of now or never. This is such a famous distance walk, friends who have done it have loved it. Could you go over for a few days at the beginning and the end?

It would be really selfish to prevent him from doing this.

As others have said, it’s not a holiday. It’s a deeply personal, spiritual experience which is unlike anything else, and at nearly 70 he knows it’s now or never. It’s not like he’s going off to spend 6 weeks lying on a beach by himself.

Id be applauding him, not trying to stifle him

I love the “why bother getting married “ stuff. You aren’t joined at the hip when you marry. If she’s in a partnership, and knows of his love of hiking, she shouldn’t be holding him back but supporting him, just as he should with whatever she wants to do, and her dreams. Because this is clearly his dream.

I have no idea if OP is also retired but if she is - you spend an awful long time together when you’re retired. Plenty of time to be together afterwards and before

I'm not surprised. He might just realise he would be happier on his own.

She is being incredibly selfish.

I'd get in all my favourite ready meals and watch Hells Kitchen USA every fucking night baby

I couldn't see the issue really. I'd quite like to have the house to myself for 6 weeks!

And I think it's a long enough time that I'd really miss DP by the time she got back. And I kind of see that as a good thing, absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that. I love DP, but we've been living together for almost 20 years, I quite like the idea of an absence long enough that I'd get that giddy feeling that I'm going to see her again soon.

Just go do your own thing for 6 weeks.

Your poor dad, and all of you. Horrible disease. I'm so glad he had that incredible experience.

Many people dream of doing the Camino at least once in their lives. It's not just another hike, it's something really special and plenty of people prefer to hike it alone.

Your husband may not have many years left in which he's fit enough to do it. Personally I wouldn't want to get between someone I love and an achievement like that.

Perhaps you could spend some of the time doing a trip that would be meaningful to you.

so I don't derail, just finally wanted to say to @Twodogsonthecouch how fabulous that you've seized the day/s, both times.

Huge congratulations, such achievements are totally worth commemorating with your awesome tattoo.
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