Hubby wants to do a 6 week holiday alone

Me too! Ditto ‘wind your neck in’. Both only ever seen on MN, by me, anyway.

PS - could you perhaps meet him for a small part of the trip half way? He could have a short break from walking?

Sorry, I think you are being a bit unreasonable. I am assuming that he is retired so has plenty of time and also that money is not a major issue (seeing as you don't mention it). So the only issue seems to be that you don't want to be apart that long, and also that you are offended that he is ok with being apart from you that long. I think it is OK to prefer him not to go, but I don't think that is sufficient reason to make him feel bad about going. And if your relationship is good generally and you still enjoy spending time together, you shouldn't read too much into him wanting to do this alone. Surely you have had and will have enough time together too.

I'd be perfectly happy with DH doing this, and am considering a long adventurous solo trip myself soon. I would be amazed if DH had a problem with it.

It seems a little controlling. I think you must be more worried about what he is doing than you are cracking on. If he is seeing someone else he will do it anyway. If he is doing what he says and you stop him you risk him leaving. Many people are away from partners for a period of time.
Are you very dependent on him? Organise some nice things to do. Make phone calls to family and friends. Read some books. Watch what you like on tv. Go for a swim, a run, the gym. Have a weekend camping. The time will fly.

What is it exactly that makes you feel like this? Do you have trust issues? Do you think you'll feel lonely? Are you perhaps jealous he's living out a dream? Absolutely no judgement but definitely worth exploring what exactly the issue is so you can communicate this with your partner.

I’d wave him off cheerfully. I’d love to do a solo trip like that and would hope my husband would be supportive.

Also - the house to yourself for 6 weeks - bliss

He's not got a great deal of mobile years left let him enjoy a 6 week hike you don't have small children to worry about .
Would you prefer he just sat around doing sweet f all instead ?

I wonder if the OP will be back to give an update, since the balance of opinion on here is so firmly in her DH's favour?

I hope the fact she posted was a sign that she was prepared to accept that she was being unreasonable, not just looking for support for her position. That doesn't usually seem to be what happens, though.

OP, have you had another chat with your DH and said that on second thoughts, it's a great thing for him to do, and maybe you can fly out to join him for the last couple of days?

If this is his dream he needs to do it now while he is fit and capable.

If you love him, support him.

It’s a particular challenge, physical, psychological, maybe spiritual.

If he was jetting off solo for 6 weeks in Thailand you’d have a point.

I would admire a man who does this.

You are a grown up, you can manage without him for 6 weeks.

No - not in this scenario, I can't. They have no dependants, she hasn't mentioned any health issues. No wonder her DH does not appear empathetic.

I'm sorry, but no - missing someone and feeling lonely is not enough to deny your significant something they are clearly very passionate about - and may not have the opportunity to do again.

Surely you just meet up with friends/do hobbies/book a trip during the time he's away.

Sorry - not read the whole thread in case I've lost anything here. Mine does the same. I feel it's a safe mid-life crisis. I also want him to do the things he can do while he's fit enough to do it. I travel out and join him for the stages of hikes I can do, or for a long weekend and he has a break with me.

More importantly its made me focus on what's important to me, I now also get the breaks I need and he can take over the 'air traffic control' job.

Stay sane and good luck!

My DH is that age and I'd just let him go on the basis that it's the sort of thing that might be on a bucket list, very specialised. I wouldn't be happy if he went somewhere to do nothing in particular without me for six weeks, but this feels different.

I personally would be thrilled if my OH went off for six weeks, but OP is clearly upset. Enough to post on MN, about the arguing and her husband's disinterest in her feelings. She will miss him. She might worry about his safety. She might feel lonely whilst he is away. Can you genuinely not understand people feeling upset about things you personally wouldn't?

I’d happily let mine go and would try and go away myself in the middle, either alone or with a friend.

I am sure you can find a solution for this. He can do it and you can join him for the last couple of weeks? If you don't fancy hiking for that long, you can just meet some days at certain points in the camino.

My husband is 68 and would love to do this - but realises he needs to get in training. I would be glad he is fit, healthy and engaged enough to want to do it! If retired, why the hell not? You could fly out to join him mid way / at the end? If it's totally unaffordable or something, then fair enough.

Six weeks sounds like a long time and I understand where you’re coming from. But if you organise a couple of mini breaks and a few treats for yourself the weeks would soon pass. And I wonder if you said no to him would he resent it forever?

I wonder what is it that makes you feel you cant be with him for six weeks?

I think for me it depends on what your reason is for not wanting him to be gone for 6 weeks? Is he your carer, would you struggle to manage practically without him? Or is it just that you would miss him? If it’s the latter then surely you need to not be selfish and let him go. My husband and I have loads of separate hobbies and a few joint ones too, and we would absolutely not stand in the way of the other one doing a big one off trip like this (and we have young-ish children still). But then we are both quite independent people.

You could fly out and meet him for a few days half way?

If there isn't any responsibilities (young children) and you can afford it then it'd be awful to stop him going. You both only have one life and you should do whatever makes you happy if finances and responsibilities aren't a consideration
Can't you meet him for a night or two in the middle of his walk and then again at the end you could celebrate with him?

My partner and I both love distance hiking and running, but if one of us becomes incapable of doing such things I’d absolutely expect the other still would.

Don’t you have your own friends and hobbies to keep you busy for a few weeks?

Very selfish! Why not plan things you want to do alone whilst he’s away. I honestly struggle to understand such needy women.

God, how I hate the expression 'give your head a wobble' 😫!

Can only speak for myselfI would absolutely let my husband go. He has a right to do things with his one and only life that are important to him. Walking the camino for some is a spiritual growth experience, a once in a lifetime thing. Your kids are adultmaybe plan something for yourself during that time?