Hubby wants to do a 6 week holiday alone

The fear is that he may indulge in "hanky panky" along the way?

Wouldn’t bother me in the slightest .

Let him go ! My husband loves solo travel to deserts and mountains and who am I to stop him? He is 78 and shows no sign of slowing down ( ex army officer) , he is still working too , 3 or 4 days a week in Belgium. I take the time to visit friends and even go on holiday, we miss each other and sometimes meet up halfway through, mobiles make it easy to see each other when we want , we chat every day and he shares his amazing experiences, and I enjoy great beach holidays with a girl friend.

It makes our lives happy and content and always some great stories to share .
He would be like a caged tiger if he retired and sat at home so I'm happy to let him do long arduous things without me , the Camino would be great for your husband I did a bit of it with him , and we travelled together in between trips .I firmly believe the old adage " absence makes the heart grow fonder "

Why don’t you agree to meet him half way for another or something? Just to break it up?

I honestly do not think the word selfish should come into this. You feel abandoned which is the way you look at it. Try not to feel like your not important to him and instead think of what you could do in those 6 weeks

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I like horses. DP likes boats. Are you suggesting we should both give up our interests and only do things we both enjoy? Reading and going to the theatre?

I think we only get one life, so if it means a lot him, is a bucket list item, then why would you, the person who should support him, stand in the way? It's a long time, yes, but if he stays to please you, strap in for some resentment. I'd be pushed if my husband said I couldn't do something because it would take me a long time.

@Trillie

umm, what do you think would happen?

@woolydd

totally agree. When you get married you should be by your spouses side all the time and only do stuff that they like doing. I cant believe you think a day out without spouse is ok tbh. I mean what’s the point in getting married if you want to do that??

Not really. He should invite you to stay in a caravan along the hike route so you can meet up every 2or 3 weeks. You're not spring chickens anymore so this time matters more than any other time. We don't live forever.

On the other hand, he's not exactly young enough to prosecute an affair at his age, so let him go.

A supportive wife is a husband's crown and glory and is what will keep him with you until the end.

I really disagree, I hate skiing, my DH loves it, why should he miss out on one of his passions?. I love visiting certain countries my DH isn’t so keen on so I go on my own.

Let him go,op.
Please.

ha ! I would definitely going for a cruise. Alone :)

So if you’re married your entire self and identity is limited to what your partner also enjoys - how limiting for both of you. And why does it need to be so limiting? Your relationship is one aspect of your life - it is not your whole life and self - and why does it need to be!!??

I disagree. My husband was offered an amazing creative job abroad for 6 months and it was hard for me to visit. I didn’t think twice about him going as it has allowed him to live out a dream he has always had. I put my own needs to one side so he can be the best version of himself and got the same response from him when I worked abroad for two months. I believe a decent couple support each other and are ok sacrificing time together because support to be apart does not mean we are not close.

also we have a life outside of each other too which I feel is vital so that these opportunities can happen.

Should have read ‘fly out to meet him at his half way point’

But surely part of the point is doing it all in one hit? It’s supposed to be a challenge!

Exactly. It's a well known and well written about route with villages, hotels etc. He isn't sailing solo around the world.

I’m adding to the chorus of let him. My dad did the Camino solo in his 60s. He also did a long distance solo hike and camp when he was 70 from Canterbury to Iona in Scotland, joining up all the cathedral cities on his way.

I think mum misses him but also quite enjoys the time in her own too!

My personal opinion, but I would not be happy. As a couple I feel you should agree to do things you both like or are amenable to do for your partner. Maybe a solo day out or even a weekend, but six weeks is a step too far.

If time isn’t an issue, I’d float his half way point and have a weeks holiday, he can then recommence and in total you’re only apart for three weeks. Also, you can speak on the phone or even video call.
If walking is something he loves, and unfortunately it’s not something you can join in on, I wouldn’t stop him. We’re all only here for a short time, you’ve gotta do what you love, and in the grand scheme of things 6 weeks isn’t that long. I think stopping him will cause resentment, would he stop you from following a strong passion of yours? Good luck with your decision 👍

He's 69. If he wants to go just give him your blessing. Life is short.

Hi Evie,

thank you for your kind words. Yes, it does vary quite a lot! He’s had it about five years now.

😂 I did wonder that after I posted but couldn't be bothered to edit my post.

But in all honesty that's still hills and hiking all day alone? For six weeks? I can't visualise it.

If it's a well trodden route with easy hike from here to here in a day options then that's probably fine.

If it's wild camping in the middle of nowhere, I don't know. Solo travellers I have met always have a wild story to tell about something that had happened.