Hello, I'll try and keep it short..
Me and my partner separated a few months ago as he had multiple affairs which resulted in a pregnancy on the last fling and I was done with it. We have 3 young children and I tried to keep it together, but essentially the relationship had run its course.
When we separated and still living together, i heard him on the phone to his sister (he had her on loud speaker in front of me whilst watching the tv) and she said that it was my fault that he was playing away as i obviously wasn't putting out enough or doing the things that he must like. I was absolutely heartbroken and disappointed that as a woman she could think that. I'm not perfect but I did everything and more for that man while he lived a free exciting life filled with multiple women. Eventually I had enough money and self respect to finally leave him and I was living in peace at last.
Fast forward to now and his family wants to come and stay, they live a few hours drive away. His sister asked if she could stay with me and initially I thought it would be okay but the more I thought about it the more uncomfortable I felt knowing what she has said about me, and she doesn't know I know.
I told my ex I was going to tell her I would prefer if she stayed with him and his mum but he's said there is no room and it will be my fault she can't come and see them any more if I don't allow her to stay in my home.
I was taken aback as I wasn't aware there wouldn't be room for her anywhere else and now I feel compelled to let her stay even though I'm so hurt by what she said. Help!!! Am I being unreasonable to say no?
Thank you 😊