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Is this suitable for 11 year olds?

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Tinythumbelina · 16/09/2025 13:24

I am required to teach Y6 about 'consent'. Not in the UK. I have no problem with this. The mandated programme gives scenarios to share with students to use for discussion. Scenario 6 was Hugo and Martin, both 15, are at the movies. H. Kisses M who kisses him back. H then continues to kiss M and M pulls away. H then puts his hands down M's pants. Questions about consent follow. I do not think this Scenario is appropriate for a mainstream class of 11-12 year olds. AiBU?

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Tinythumbelina · 16/09/2025 13:42

Our y6 are mostly turning 12 but still primary school.

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BengalBangle · 16/09/2025 13:42

Well, sadly it does happen. When it happened to me with a boy from my year when I was 10 (he was 9), I just 'let him' and never told anyone about it.

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Tinythumbelina · 16/09/2025 13:40

It's a 15 year old scenario.

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Tinythumbelina · 16/09/2025 13:39

That's what I think. An age appropriate scenario not 15 year olds.

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Tinythumbelina · 16/09/2025 13:38

Yes, it is assault if consent not given

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titchy · 16/09/2025 13:36

Coka · 16/09/2025 13:29

I have an 11 year old and would not be comfortable with this. Specifically the hands down pants part. The kissing part is fine and a good lesson for that age

Agree. While 10 year olds should know about consent, bodily autonomy, sex for procreation and recreation, many will not be aware that hands on the other partner’s genitals is part of recreational sex and there’s no need to describe specific examples of sexual activity. Why not H and M were holding hands, the. H tried to kiss M and M pushed him away. That’s the sort of level of romantic/sexual activity this age group would be comfortable with.

Comefromaway · 16/09/2025 13:32

I actually think that is too strong but because it gives a clear scenario that virtually everyone would see as sexual assault. That age group need to be taught about the lower level consent issues that don't seem so clear cut.

We joke in the UK about the 'cup of tea' video but you know what, all the young people remember it, talk about it etc. My two constantly reference it. Go look it up, it is very good.

Greggsit · 16/09/2025 13:31

UnbeatenMum · 16/09/2025 13:29

Year 6 is age 10-11. Some of them only just 10. I don't think describing sexual assault to 10 year olds is appropriate personally.

Why? Do you think if you ignore it, it won't happen? I think its important for them to know that if somebody puts their hands down their pants they can say no!

NuffSaidSam · 16/09/2025 13:31

I think it's a bit graphic for year six/10 year olds. I'd say year 8/9 maybe, for 12/13 year olds.

UnbeatenMum · 16/09/2025 13:29

Year 6 is age 10-11. Some of them only just 10. I don't think describing sexual assault to 10 year olds is appropriate personally.

TimSamandLulu · 16/09/2025 13:29

YANBU, I have an 11 year old boy and I would not consider this appropriate at all. Way too explicit. Consent yes, in more general terms.

Coka · 16/09/2025 13:29

I have an 11 year old and would not be comfortable with this. Specifically the hands down pants part. The kissing part is fine and a good lesson for that age

Abominableday · 16/09/2025 13:27

Are you teaching them that H has committed an assault and M should go to the police? I mean, what you're supposed to do next with the situation would matter to me.

Mixingitup · 16/09/2025 13:25

Why? I'd argue at 13 this sort of thing was happening when I was at school...and that was 30 years ago.

Woompund · 16/09/2025 13:25

YABU why is it not appropriate?

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