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Family member asking for favour after they royally f***** me over

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gunnermartin · 16/09/2025 11:48

I’ll keep it brief but my parents did something monumental after years of bad behaviour's that caused me to cut complete contact with them.

In turn because my parents have money my sibling decided to side with them as they are funded for a lot of things by my parents. Sibling hasn’t spoken to me for two years since despite me reaching out to say I’d like to explain and maintain a relationship, to the point my family didn’t get invited to siblings wedding or even told it was happening.

Sibling has now reached out to ask for all my details (address which no one has, job role, where I work etc) regarding being background checked for a job.

AIBU to say no, put it all down as unknown?

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PearlClutches · 16/09/2025 11:54

Crap typing but you get the gist 😂

PearlClutches · 16/09/2025 11:53

I would be very suspicious why they needed such specific details about you to get job checked themselves. At the very least ask they why they needed such specific those details about you because her prospective employers won’t be asking for them.

Gizlotsmum · 16/09/2025 11:52

As they don’t know that information they will have to put unknown. I wouldn’t worry ignore unless you want a relationship with them but they clearly only want what they need from you. So I wouldn’t help at all

Overtheatlantic · 16/09/2025 11:52

She made her bed…

Lafufufu · 16/09/2025 11:52

Nah fuck that.

I'd do approx zero to assist

Chamomileteaplease · 16/09/2025 11:51

Apart from anything else, ie a distinct lack of loyalty towards you, giving her this information may make you vulnerable in some way. You will lose your safety from her and your parents.

I wouldn't give it no. She has a cheek.

NoahDia · 16/09/2025 11:51

Just ignore it rather than putting it as unknown.

ThejoyofNC · 16/09/2025 11:51

I'd have a hard time not telling them to get fucked.

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