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To think this is fraud and do I say something or stay out of it?

263 replies

doitellthem · 16/09/2025 09:22

I have NC'd for this. A friend of mine NEVER has to pay for work on her house...she has a family member who is high up in a business and so all of the work is put through the business. She says they are doing the jobs as favours! surely this is fraud! do i stay out of it or say something (who do i even report to!!)She currentky has a landscper in doing the garden...just so happens to be the landscaper who does the work for said business!

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Bumblebee72 · 16/09/2025 11:42

The level of acceptable of low level tax crime makes my blood boil, just like the level of benefit fraud. I posted on a recent benefit thread that people who commit tax evasion tend not to post about it, but clearly I was wrong - they are all here!

lunar1 · 16/09/2025 11:41

I own a company, I do quite a bit of Botox (not cosmetic) that I don’t charge for when people are really in need, including for one of my employees.

never thought people would assume I was cooking the books. The product is paid for by the company, but I don’t invoice. I’ve spoken with hmrc about it, there are no issues.

SweetnsourNZ · 16/09/2025 11:41

PiggyPigalle · 16/09/2025 11:32

I minded my own business, wish I hadn't.
A house was being built near me during covid by a reputable company. The site manager was giving so much building material away, residents were collecting in wheelbarrows.

I couldn't imagine what all the timber was being used for, then saw one neighbour's small back garden and it looked like a giant Jenga game with all the raised beds.
After covid, the company went bust, obviously losing many people their jobs.
That sort of behaviour can bring an already teetering company down. Bearing in mind the delays in obtaining building material during covid and soaring costs.

When I read of the company going under, I wish I'd reported the manager at the time. As he was that dishonest, what else was he up too.

Not unusual. Quite often happens when the business owner is distracted by a crisis such as a serious illness and leaves a trusted employee to oversee finances.

SeenAtHarrods · 16/09/2025 11:41

do i stay out of it or say something (who do i even report to!!)

A more pertinent question than “Who?” is “Why?”. Why make this your business?

Bumblebee72 · 16/09/2025 11:38

northernlight20 · 16/09/2025 11:35

gosh, this is the classic example why you never tell anyone what you are up to. jealous ppl like the op stick their nose in and fuck it up.

Too right. Last time I tried to rob a bank, I chatted about the plan in the pub with a few friends, one of them had the audacity to inform the police, and we got arrested. We should all just let everyone get on which any crime they like, like in "The Purge".

MyDeftHedgehog · 16/09/2025 11:37

I read it as the family member gets their employees to do the work, pays them but doesn't charge the friend. I'm no expert but I would say it was quite legitimate. A friend of mine volunteers at a local animal rescue and a local building company does free work for them. For small jobs some of their workers give their time free as well.
I think you should probably keep your sticky beak well out of it 😬

GatherlyGal · 16/09/2025 11:37

northernlight20 · 16/09/2025 11:35

gosh, this is the classic example why you never tell anyone what you are up to. jealous ppl like the op stick their nose in and fuck it up.

Yes good point. If you are planning to steal / commit fraud I agree probably best to keep quiet about it.

TenaciousDeeds · 16/09/2025 11:36

She’s very lucky and you are obviously rather envious, but it’s not fraud!!

Franpie · 16/09/2025 11:36

It could be corporate fraud but it could just be unethical. It is extremely common.

What is likely happening is that the contractor does free stuff for the property director of a company in order to be awarded the corporate contract.

I’ve seen this happen time and time again. I’ve never met a property director that doesn’t have a perfect, fully extended house!

northernlight20 · 16/09/2025 11:35

gosh, this is the classic example why you never tell anyone what you are up to. jealous ppl like the op stick their nose in and fuck it up.

Bumblebee72 · 16/09/2025 11:35

GatherlyGal · 16/09/2025 11:32

Except potential tax fraud and also technically untaxed benefits in kind for friend if they are getting work for free in connection with employment.

I'm very confused about why so many people think this is ok

Probably cause they're all at it.

rainingsnoring · 16/09/2025 11:35

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 16/09/2025 11:33

🙄

You clearly don't want to answer the question.

SweetnsourNZ · 16/09/2025 11:34

TheClaaaw · 16/09/2025 11:09

So now you’re saying that a different company is being invoiced for work that has nothing to do with them? Surely they should have controls in place to check their invoices and that these match their purchase orders for agreed work so would notice random unauthorised invoices for work which is nothing to do with them? How do you know that this is what is happening, do you work for Company A?

The relative is probably the financial controller or office administrator.

rainingsnoring · 16/09/2025 11:34

SweetnsourNZ · 16/09/2025 11:31

The 1st thread I ever read on here was a woman who felt bad about getting caught shoplifting baby formula. Everyone ripped her to shreds. You just made me remember that.

So a presumably desperate mother's behaviour is appalling but an employee embezzling company funds and committing tax fraud is apparently okay and the OP is just jealous!

MN can be really odd!

Bikergran · 16/09/2025 11:34

If it's his business, or at least he is answerable for the finances, then it's up to her relative. If it is a publicly owned or international company then I would call it fraudulent, but frankly, if a company doesn't put strict controls in place they WILL get ripped off. Most small building companies do stuff for relatives free or at mate's rates.

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 16/09/2025 11:33

rainingsnoring · 16/09/2025 11:24

What sort of freebies? A company car or tax evasion as described?

🙄

GatherlyGal · 16/09/2025 11:32

HonestOpalHelper · 16/09/2025 11:26

But do they, if contractor B is simply putting in a higher figure to company A for work for company A, and doing relatives work free, nothing illegal is going on.

company A is simply paying more than they need to for the work, and if they don't get alternative quotes that is what can happen.

Unless A's invoice says "Landscaping at 25 Acacia avenue for Dave" they haven't paid for Dave's landscaping.

Now if you could prove Dave had conspired with B to have his landscaping done free if he ensured they got A's work, and B would charge A more, that's fraud - but I'll bet you can't prove that.

Except potential tax fraud and also technically untaxed benefits in kind for friend if they are getting work for free in connection with employment.

I'm very confused about why so many people think this is ok

PiggyPigalle · 16/09/2025 11:32

I minded my own business, wish I hadn't.
A house was being built near me during covid by a reputable company. The site manager was giving so much building material away, residents were collecting in wheelbarrows.

I couldn't imagine what all the timber was being used for, then saw one neighbour's small back garden and it looked like a giant Jenga game with all the raised beds.
After covid, the company went bust, obviously losing many people their jobs.
That sort of behaviour can bring an already teetering company down. Bearing in mind the delays in obtaining building material during covid and soaring costs.

When I read of the company going under, I wish I'd reported the manager at the time. As he was that dishonest, what else was he up too.

SweetnsourNZ · 16/09/2025 11:32

cocoonscriticupgrading · 16/09/2025 11:28

@doitellthem and @Verywindyday

Confused here - so are you saying that company A are being ripped off by company B? But surely Co A know what they are paying for and surely any tax incentive is far less than the bill? So it is hardly a win for them. Co B are merely being paid for works done, and so long as their costs are covered what does it matter who pays?

The ‘friend’ - in what way are they guilty of anything?

I don’t get it.

They could be guilty of receiving if the goods or services are stolen from the company and they know about it.

rainingsnoring · 16/09/2025 11:32

R0ckandHardPlace · 16/09/2025 11:25

No they’re not. We have local restaurants that give out free food to the homeless. There was that well-known plumber who would do free jobs for pensioners. Are they cooking the books? There is no tax advantage to be gained by doing free work, unless your friend was paying in cash for a ‘favour’.

You’re really looking for things that aren’t there. It’s quite snidey.

You need to read the OP's update. This isn't a nice local plumber helping out poor pensioners for free situation.

cocoonscriticupgrading · 16/09/2025 11:31

Katemax82 · 16/09/2025 09:28

Report it to the ministry of nosey parkers

🤣

SweetnsourNZ · 16/09/2025 11:31

Bumblebee72 · 16/09/2025 11:22

It's odd that on Mumsnet, thinking that theft is bad, is just jealously. "oh I'm jealous that I don't steal from M&S but am foolish enough to pay". Something just have a sense of justice and don't like to see people ripped off.

Edited

The 1st thread I ever read on here was a woman who felt bad about getting caught shoplifting baby formula. Everyone ripped her to shreds. You just made me remember that.

OriginalUsername2 · 16/09/2025 11:29

doitellthem · 16/09/2025 09:29

because she is not paying for it...a business is having their books cooked!!

I honestly couldn’t get worked up over this. I’d think “jammy cow!” And that’s about it.

Were you a Prefect at school by any chance? 😜

rainingsnoring · 16/09/2025 11:29

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 16/09/2025 11:22

What we all really want to know is: is Company A who is ultimately paying the bill a public company? Are our council taxes being used to do your mate’s landscaping?

It doesn't matter as the company will still be reducing their tax bill, which means that tax payers are effectively funding the friend's house improvements.

cocoonscriticupgrading · 16/09/2025 11:28

doitellthem · 16/09/2025 11:04

yes this. The relative does not own company A...the job is being carried out by company B and Company A pays...unknowingly!

@doitellthem and @Verywindyday

Confused here - so are you saying that company A are being ripped off by company B? But surely Co A know what they are paying for and surely any tax incentive is far less than the bill? So it is hardly a win for them. Co B are merely being paid for works done, and so long as their costs are covered what does it matter who pays?

The ‘friend’ - in what way are they guilty of anything?

I don’t get it.

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