Curfew for live-in nanny?

all the more reason to turn voting on 😂

You can't give an adult a curfew; utterly ridiculous.

A needs to be quieter but B is unreasonable.

As long as the nanny doesn't wake anyone up, her nights off are hers. B is being unreasonable. A nanny is not an au pair, expected to become/be treated like part of the family.

If B thinks this is reasonable then she is probably sympathetic to keeping your employee’s passport in a safe and not paying well. She wants a skivvy.

Having actually worked as a live-in nanny...

Even back in the mid-80s it was expected that a nanny might not get back until 11pm.

I had to come in quietly, and I wasn't allowed to bring my then boyfriend into the house (though had the relationship lasted long enough for my employers to meet him, that might have changed).

B is absolutely bonkers. She will find it hard to keep a nanny (or even employ one if the terms are made clear at interview), unless the agency can rustle up a time-traveller from 1900 or before.

Sorry I don't understand.
Surely B when she offered the job had the right to stipulate conditions of employment. It's her house and she should have the right to say when non family members can come into it.
I accept that if this wasn't made clear when she offered the job there's not a lot she can do about it afterwards
Personally I would hate to have a stranger living in my home and would never have employed a live in Nanny anyway. It's forfeiting all privacy in your own home. I would hate to have strangers letting themselves into the family home after the family were in bed.

It's a contract of employment for a childcare professional, not one for indentured labour.

If she wants to go out anywhere and stay out all night, returning in time for her shift to start, she's perfectly entitled to do so, much less be kept to a stricter curfew time than most 14 year olds.

They do know that they've employed an adult childcare professional in 2025, not bought themselves a 12 year old girl from the workhouse, don't they?

A is right.

Coming home at 11pm is a complete non issue. B needs to remember that they have a live in Nanny, not a slave.
If I were A, I'd be looking for a new job...

The nanny is entitled to do as she pleases but she should be careful not to wake anyone up.

B is unreasonable if you have a live in nanny they are entitled to their own life. If not employ a live out nanny.

A should be hanging in her notice pronto and let the agency if she was hired through one know why. Completely unreasonable to give a curfew, it would also be unreasonable to give a grown up child a curfew too - in by dinner time, ridiculous!

Expecting a single adult to be in by dinner time each evening is utterly unreasonable. However if A coming in is actually waking the household, that can’t continue. If anyone coming in at that time would disturb the household, B needs to give up on providing accommodation or she’ll have to pay the nanny for the hours where she is dictating where the nanny can be (and employ them on that basis).

If B could cope with someone who was more careful than A about coming in, then she needs to fire A (assuming she’s followed a fair process trying to get her to be quieter) and hire someone who can do the job without waking the household.

B is being ridiculous providing the nanny is being quiet when she comes in.

B is totally unreasonable

B is wildly controlling and unlikely to keep a slave, er, nanny for very long.

And B will need to be the one to stand before an Employment Tribunal and explain themselves if this was attempted to be enforced.

With a live in nanny they have set hours and the rest of their time is theirs. They get less pay because they have the perk of free accommodation.

if B wants A to be in the house at certain times she needs to pay her for those hours

i I suspect B wants the free help with the kids tbh

This.
The nanny is entitled to do what she wants on her time off and 11pm isn't late.
B seems to have a distorted sense of entitlement

Well I don't.

My feeling is it's B's house. She is the one paying the wages.
She has every right to stipulate what time she considers a reasonable one for the nanny to come home.
But
This should have all have been made clear when the job was offered. So that if A didn't like the working conditions she should have refused the job.
A and B don't sound as though they are compatible for this live in employer/ employee relationship.

B is wildly unreasonable and I have to wonder if this is the only area in which they act extremely controlling.

A can do better... someone tell A it doesn't have to be like this!

B needs to realise that A is her employee, not her slave. Is that even a question? are you B, OP?

What would B have A do on their evenings off? Stay in their room? Would going to the movies and coming in at 9:55pm be ok?

B needs to 1. Get a grip or 2. Employ a daily, live out of the home Nanny.

This.