To not want my daughter near a little boy at school after what I saw this morning?

It is unlikely that he'll lash out in school, he'll probably settle down soon. I understand that it is frightening to witness.
I have been this parent, it's very isolating.

A 6 year old & his own parents. I wouldnt assume that extended to other kids.

Id wait until there was an incident involving another child.

Please don’t try to make this your business, it is not and you sound very judgmental. I’m sure you are very fortunate to have never experienced a challenging, highly likely, very stressful situation with an anxious child.

Yeah, it’s crap. School is such a weird time. Then you leave and are finally in an environment where people can’t just punch each other, scream, chuck chairs etc without serious fucking consequences.

As a mum of two children with additional needs and a one to one for SEN kids, YBUR, big time. Please learn empathy and how to mind your own business before you get a reputation for being a busy body!

What support is in place for the boy is none of OP's business and the teacher wouldn't discuss that with another child's parent. If she says anything to the teacher, which I wouldn't after 1 incident outside of school, it needs to be about her child, not the other child.

For goodness sake. You have no idea how lucky you are.

Tell her to keep away from him. Simple. He has parents/teachers/whoever else to deal with him. His issues are nothing to do with your young gentle daughter so don’t feel bad about telling her to keep her distance.

But school is not just about children learning academic subjects. It also socialises children and non-SEND children have social and emotional benefits from being schooled with SEND children. They learn empathy and patience and realistically as adults they need to know how to respond to and communicate with people of varying levels of ability.

My kid was like that at times when they were younger. I was mortified too. My ex and I were going through a stressful time (separation) and it came out on their behaviour. Most parents ware sympathetic and supportive but a few parents kept their kids at a distance. The problem faded as they went on through primary school and thankfully they have turned out lovely. I'm greatful for the parents who stuck by us. I don't know what the situation is in your case but I thought I would share for information

This^
My youngest has ADHD and absolutely hated school. I was attacked by him verbally and physically on a daily basis. Only me, never DH or anyone else. I was his “safe person”, he knows I love him no matter what.
He’s 18 now and an absolute dream.

It kind of is her business though if it is happening through the school day not just with parents. I think that was what OP meant - to talk to the teacher to get an idea what’s going on and some comfort as to what support isvin place - both for the little boy and also for his classmates who may (possibly) be having their classes disrupted. If she doesn’tvask, she won’t know. From that point of view it is very much her business imho

There's every chance that this child has ASD and is really struggling with the transition from home to school and the separation from parents. It may be why both parents are there. If it is an autistic meltdown then there will be absolutely nothing they can do while it is happening.

We had a child like this in DS's class, he was quiet as anything in the classroom but found the transition into school extremely hard. He didn't attend any parties either.

There are obviously ongoing issues that the school are aware of. I wouldn't say anything to the school unless your daughter is upset or there has been an incident affecting her. There are children like this in most schools.

@EditormediI was in a similar situation where a high needs SEN child was being physically violent towards my kid at nursery. Although I sympathised with the other child and his parents, my place was to advocate for mine. I made this clear with all concerned.

in your situation I would gently enquire with my kid how this kid is with other kids. If this kid did have a tendency to lash out to other kids, and if they had lashed out at my kid, I would most definitely be acting on it and talking with teachers.

Although you saw a snapshot, I would be very surprised if this behaviour didn’t spill over at school so it is something I would closely monitor.

I bet he calmed down and was perfectly well behaved. Maybe he has separation anxiety. Who knows. I’m sure your dad would tell you if he’s naughty in class, my DDs used to sing like canaries about their class, all that went on.

My house is just up the road from a primary school and dozens and dozens and dozens of small children walk past everyday.

Oh, the screaming, shouting, wailing in the morning. The sobbing in the afternoon that they're too tired to walk home.

The school is rated outstanding by OFSTED.

I walk my dog past some playtimes and, oh my word, the children are having an absolute blast! Sometimes they play music in the playground (think Elvis!). They're always happy, a lot wave at me when I go past. Not often, only once every other week or three.

Makes me chuckle every day because my DC wailed and howled and writhed about like rabid dogs on the way to nursery to about year 2. All perfectly normal. They got worse the closer we got.

You're overthinking @Editormedi All normal.

I’ve been a teacher for two decades and have a SEND child. What you’re saying just isn’t true. Most SEND children stay in mainstream school.

And it's a shame that there's no point complaining.

If the DD witnessed this kind of behaviour in the home, it would be classed as she was seeing domestic violence.
But at school, that seems to be ok?

There are many, many children with ASD who can and should be in mainstream school. I was one of them, my daughter is one of them. We mask in school. We also get distressed and have meltdowns in school. As we grow older, because we're high functioning, we learn to mask better, and to keep the insane physical and emotional distress we feel on the inside.

When we are little, and first getting to grips with a level of emotional distress that a neurotypical person could never, ever understand - well, sometimes we get it wrong and it all comes pouring out. That's what a meltdown is. And, when they're over, we experience extreme shame.

To then say to us: oh, you shouldn't be around 'normal' people in a 'normal' school... yeah, that's not OK.

I now understand that many people really don't have empathy or lack the intellectual capacity to imagine a lived reality different to their own. Ironically, those are traits autistic people are often accused of. Double ironically, ASD people like me and my DD do have loads of empathy for others, and so I'm taking your post not as mean-spirited, but as simply unaware of what autism is actually like in real life.

We're not monsters to be locked away.

OP, this kid sounds awfully like my intelligent, gentle, beautiful DD. Please don't judge. Please try to find out more. I know it's shocking to see, if you've never experienced it, but view it as what it is: someone externalising their extreme distress, and who doesn't want to hurt anyone, and is probably at the beginning of a lifetime of learning how to adjust to a world that's not very kind or sympathetic towards them.

If you witnessed someone who shares a classroom with your child kicking and punching and screaming at the school gates it wouldn't cross your mind that your own child could potentially be hurt in school? Pull the other one.

I would have concerns too, but would keep them to myself unless something happened to my child OP. There's a whole lot of speculation on this thread about this child, and nobody knows the real situation. Perhaps he has SEN and is only violent towards his parents. Perhaps he's just a horrible little bully.

Agree.

What on earth do you want from the teacher? Because as a teacher I certainly wouldn't be discussing another child's behaviour with you.
Do you want reassurance that distressed child will always be kept away from your DD? I wouldn't give you that either.

This child's circumstances have nothing to do with you, and you just have to trust the school to do their job looking after ALL of their pupils.

Sen parent here and you would have seen that regularly when I tried to drop off.

It was hell.

The fact parents stood aorund watching is bloody awful.

My kids never hit other children. They just couldnt transition and had little speech at that age

You got a snap shot

What? She can't even come for a bit of support or chat?

Whi gave you the sheriff's badge?

Hopefully this kid won’t turn out like that. But a proportion of every year group do - that is a fact. OP’s daughter will unfortunately witness all kinds of behaviour throughout her school career. This might scare her, she might get hurt, be it intentionally or unintentionally. She might hear terrible language and disrespectful behaviour. That behaviour may or may not be linked to that child’s neurodivergence. Sad for them - super sad for other kids to have to deal with. My point was, this is her reality for the rest of her school career. No point complaining.