To not want my daughter near a little boy at school after what I saw this morning?

I don't believe they all are, no. I've witnessed some really inadequate parenting of children with SEN.

If he is doing that at six then obviously there are some issues like SEN at play as that isn't normal.

You think those parents aren't trying those things?

Violence must have been upsetting for those other children?
And your poor TAs who had to get them out??
It's extremely stressful for all to have a child like that in the classroom.

Never see girls behaving like that.
The consequences for the girl and her family would be dire, especially so socially.
But every excuse for a boy.
Hitting and kicking and what not, all excused.
6 isn't 2 or 3.

I think many parents of children with SEN would benefit from attending parenting groups. Learning strategies on how to manage their child's behaviour would be massively beneficial for everyone involved. You only need to look on here to see how many parents are struggling and desperately need more support.

Heaven forfend little princess has to be in the company of an SEN child or a child who sometimes gets upset

Why do you think parenting is an issue in some cases with SEN children?

Should they also count themselves "lucky" that someone else's child is causing major problems for their own child?
I do consider myself lucky to not have a child with SEN. Although I do think parenting is an issue in some of these cases.

I think the SEN parent deserves more empathy whilst the rest count themselves lucky they don't have an SEN child.

Ok I'm really confused have I missed a bit where this child is kicking off in class?! All I can see is the OP said she'd witnessed a one off incident with the child’s parents.

As lots of people have said children can behave very differently in the classroom to with their parents.

If OP was to go and speak to the teacher she can't share info about another child's needs or support.

I have taught kids with SEN who have lashed out and 99% of the time the TA and/or teacher have got them out of the classroom so quickly no child was hurt or even had more than 5 minutes of learning curtailed. It has sometimes led to the adults being hit unfortunately. But a good school should have very quick procedures for this. It might not even be relevant anyway as we only have this one off snapshot!

Surprised you didn’t write “your not an intelligent women” tbh

I do agree with that.

It was just the assumption that one incident outside of school - violent thug who needs to be kept away from OP's child.

Of course, he could be incredibly violent to everyone and anyone but he could also be more violent to his parents because they are his safe space and/or he finds the morning transition to be difficult, especially when it's a new term after 6 weeks.

And that's why my advice to the OP was to monitor the situation and basically play it by ear.

If you don't want to be seen as a busybody or judgemental just don't be a judgemental busybody. The parents of this little boy will be feeling much more unsettled than you. Make sure your DD knows she can talk to you about anything that bothers her at school but trust that her teacher knows more about the family than you have learned from a 'snapshot' one morning.

To their child? Absolutely.

Due to one snap shot outside of school which had nothing to do with their child? Not really.

also nobody is thinking how unreasonable it is towards the teacher, if the children have never had an issue with eachother why give her the extra workload of keeping them apart over an incident that has nothing to with ops daughter.

But surely you can't blame a parent for not wanting their child to be around another child who is violent?

Did he also empty his lunchbox item by item & throw it at people? No? My DS1 (now 27) was like this. He is autistic & unable to express how he was feeling in a more rational & “normal” way. I can assure you he never once hit or was mean to another child. It was mainly reserved for me, but occasionally a teacher - but only ever his favourite teacher. That’s generally how it works.

For reference, I have two younger DC who are largely NT & were model pupils at school - just for anyone who’d like to say it’s down to parenting.

Not sure why you would think you need a handhold. Being scared of a 5 year old who carries no threat to your daughter or yourself is laughable. Try walking a day in the parents’ shoes.

So it doesn't work both ways then? That's what I thought.

Isolating SEN children and their parents can and does have negative effects too.

You're not an intelligent woman are you?
You've completely missed the point of this thread, and gone rogue.
I won't be engaging with you as your level of understanding is beneath me.

Well the difference here is that it's the child with SEN that is having a negative effect on others. That's the difference isn't it. If your child's behaviour is negativity effecting others, then yes I think you should absolutely show some empathy to those effected.

Children are still learning, all children. Adults aren't.

Again though, why are parents of children with SEN expected to understand but not to have the same in return?

Depends where you work doesn’t it. Not everyone works in a nice cosy little office. People who work in bars, pubs, hospitals, on public transport, in prisons and as part of emergency services absolutely can’t demand to never see violence can they?

My reference to adults expecting to not witness violence was in relation to the work environment. Adults should absolutely be shielded from violence in the workplace.

If I saw your toddler hitting you in the face, I would feel incredibly sorry for you and wonder where you'd gone wrong.

People on this thread who are talking about tantrums are way off. A toddler having a tantrum is one thing, a 6 Yr old boy physically attacking his parents is quite another.

Anyway regardless of what anyone else thinks OP is concerned about her child. And that is what she has come here to post about.