My husband and I both married, both have children from previous marriages. We've been married for 5 years. Whenever his DC have needed his help and support he always helps out , they live local and pop in all the time. Here's my aibu, I have never spoken to his ex and never will, I know she's not a nice woman from things she has said and done to my dh in the past. I have no desire to communicate with her and have no need to. Recently she had a stroke. However I feel that helping with everything DC related is fine. However helping her out with her personal stuff is too much, I've told my husband this and it upset me. He said he realises and he won't help her with personal stuff.
However I recently found out that he went behind my back and helped her fill out some forms. He doesn't know I know and I feel like he actively lied to me and betrayed my trust. My head's a mess and I don't know if I can trust him . How can I deal with this going forward