Husband touched a kid to reprimand them on school trip

Complete nonsense. I taught in School Nurseries and Reception.

Very young children in a nursery is different. You have to pick the children up to change their nappies or whatever.

Once they get to school age, it is different. We are not allowed to touch children in any way in my current school. It was the same in the last school that i worked in

To me it was just a thoughtless tap? Not inappropriate touching of a child! How can it be a police matter?

Snoozing while sat next to his child is not a problem either is it? Surely he’s not required to be sat watching him every second?

Your husband has learnt the hard way why only idiots volunteer to do things involving other people's children. There is no upside and just risk. Next time the school needs to send a TA to be the 1-2-1 for your child.

Quite. What a sad world.

I was recently sitting next to a screaming child for two hours on a plane. Is it ok for me to tap that child on the head?

Honest to God, you can see from the reactions on here why we have so many feral kids in this country!

I've worked with children both as a nursery assistant and as a volunteer with Beavers and Squirrels. Absolutely no issue with hugging a child. There'd be problems if I took them into a room alone and hugged them, but a quick hug or letting them sit on my lap or whatever in a public space with others around is of course acceptable.

He tapped a child on the head and we're talking about assault charges?! WTAF. C'mon people get a grip, he's not going to be arrested and convicted of assault. A telling off from the school, sure but beyond that would be a massive overreaction. And he dozed off on the bus? So what? Big deal! He was there for his own child only, if he has a nap, what does it matter?!

Assuming it was just a tap on the head. How would being tapped on the head be harmful? Genuine question.
How could it be a safeguarding or police matter. I just don’t get it.

Meanwhile children are actually being abused.

I can say that if my kid was acting up on the bus and purposely annoying someone else, I would absolutely be fine with an another adult tapping them on the the head and telling them to stop. I would not see it as abuse.
An unpopular opinion on here but I think the girl probably didn’t like to be told off.

Sitting still for an hour? At least being told off for it, not being treated like the survivor of a dastardly attack on her person!

This^

I was responding to someone asking what punishment the child got for her “misbehaviour”.

Oh no, I get ‘the rules’, what I think is ridiculous is the extreme nature of responding to some very real concerns.

As I said upthread;

Capital punishment is not OK, I agree, not being able to tap someone in order to get their attention is ridiculous and leads to further problems down the line. It villainizes adults trying to manage poor behaviour and enables young people to continue with this.

Abuse is a very genuine concern, the response of no one touches a child to offer comfort or support is awful and harmful down the line.

You can definitely tell the people who have worked with children, from the people who have not worked with children.

"Would you not just hug an upset child."

Eh no because we would be fired straightaway.

It wasn’t a punishment. It was getting her attention to ask her to stop
If it was that big of an issue people would have noticed and she would have reacted there and then.

I wonder how many teachers were on the bus and where they were sitting.

It’s an important issue in terms of gaining the truth of the matter OP

Jesus, I’m glad my kids are grown-if my kid was misbehaving and an adult tapped them
on the head and said stop it, I wouldn’t have a problem with it-especially if it were another parent.

It's what you have to do these days. Otherwise the parent who raised the violent little shit will complain and you lose your job. The world's gone mad but it's not my rules.

@GlastoNinja I agree with you & they wonder why nobody wants to teach! I don’t know why he can’t have a nap if his child is sitting sensibly. The other child sounds like a pain. To be fair teachers would know not to tap on the head, but he’s not a teacher.

Why was a grown man dozing off on a school bus?!! The worst part is that he got angry at a child for waking him up on a trip where he was supposed to be supervising.

The title is also misleading because "reprimand" sounds like he was disciplining her for something important, or had to touch her to save her from a dangerous situation. He basically hit a child for interrupting his nap on a bus where he was the responsible adult.

Totally unacceptable behaviour from his part. Adults role model how to behave. Excited 10 year olds on school trips are annoying. He should know how to keep his cool.

Personal answer:

depends.
i taught teenagers. I hugged one, once in my whole career of twenty years.

if they accuse you it will end your whole career. I know people it has happened to. I hate not being able to comfort crying kids but I’d hate to go through a police investigation more.

it’s safer to do in situations where there are lots of witnesses but even then…

So when one young child starts hitting, kicking and violently assaulting another, you'll just stand back and watch it rather than touching them to stop it?

Does bus have cctv?