Husband touched a kid to reprimand them on school trip

Im guessing you don't work with children?

It’s funny, my own daughter is leaving cubs and I was debating if I keep volunteering once or twice a month to lead a session. Honestly managing the safeguarding stuff and dealing with the parents are the bits that put me off continuing when she won’t benefit from it. So much effort to volunteer and so much disdain and judgement from people who don’t/won’t help out.

I think this thread may have convinced me it’s just not worth it.

I'm sorry you're getting a hard time on here - it's not as if you were the one who bopped her on the head. If I were her parent I'd ask the school what happened, and if my child was distraught about it, I'd follow up with some more questions. I very much doubt that the police would have any real interest in this - I know someone whose partner was given a caution for literal child abuse images on his phone, so a tap on the head feels very unlikely to register. Plus there are plenty of witnesses who can attest that he didn't smack her in the face. Try not to spiral and obsess over this - you have done nothing wrong, you are not in trouble, your husband needs to handle this like a grown up but he is not going to go to prison of lose his job. Probably best he stands down from school trips / school activities and just attends the absolutely essential things.

I completely agree with you. Some of the reactions on this thread to how the OPs husband dealt with this brat are quite bonkers.

This ..

What is a colour run?

Absolutely she should not.

What is a colour run?

But it would be some parents reaction which is why only idiots volunteer with kids. Parent gave up a day to help a trip, some other child's little shit messes around, untraining adult then taps childs, then police involvement. No one in their right mind gets involved in this shit if their not paid to.

I have a photo of my daughter and niece from July with their teacher after a colour run, one is sat on her knee and she has her arm around the other, they are both 6. Are people saying the teacher shouldn't be doing that?

Absolutely this. There is so much overreaction on here. He only tapped her get her attention after she had already been told to stop. I would be very annoyed with my child if someone had to tell her off on a school trip.

I would be angry with my child for acting up. Total overreaction and this is what puts people off from volunteering. Call the police - what for? I am assuming he tapped the head because he was leaning over. Don't waste police time fgs.

That isn’t what OP has said at all rage baiter

It is stressful working with young people. I have been told "don't be alone in a room with teenagers", then i am told to do something alone in a room with a teenage student. Evem though i have been told not to do that.

I have to message our students on our school messaging app. I don't really like doing that. The students sometimes say something jokey to me. And i have to be so careful about what i write back.

Some of our students take photos of us as we walk around

A female student complained about our security guard. I honestly believe he didnt do anything as this student had made up.lies about other male staff.
Our security guard was fired straightaway. No investigation.

Our lovely female teacher was fired because she gave a student a lift home in a storm
She was really nice and she told the school straightaway what she had done. She got fired.

I want to work with adults in my next job! Less pressure

The child really shouldn't have been behaving like she did, but your DH shouldn't have tapped the child on the head. Nor should he have nodded off when he was meant to be there 1-2-1 with your child.
He didn't handle the trip well.
Let's see what the Head has to say on the matter

That would be a complete overreaction. He shouldn’t have tapped on the head but a quick word from the HT reminding about code of conduct is sufficient. The child was being annoying. Maybe they won’t be again! We really are not doing our DC any favours these days.

Let's hope you're not on the panel with your biased attitude based on no evidence at all then.

Provided it was just a tap and not a wallop on the head, I'd be shaking your husband's hand for actually giving the little shit short sharp shock.
She had been asked to stop several times. Why did she think she was above adult instructions?

Fucking hell, I've just been trying to help constructively and I was supportive and reassuring previously about the actual real-life impact on your family.

But I'll back off if you're going to be defensive. And I'll delete my posts as clearly you don't need them or the suggestions that I thought might be genuinely helpful in resolving with minimal impact on your family.

Sorry

I agree with this 100%. If my child needed to be tapped on the head due to misbehaving, I'd be annoyed with my child. Nothing wrong with discipline.

@booneymil you are wrong, there are several reasons you can physically make contact with a child in a school. However, as the OP already knows, a child being annoying is not one of them.

OP - I really think he will just be spoken to and told he can no longer chaperone. I very, very much doubt the police or anyone else will get involved. It will be embarrassing for you at the school gates though.

But is the range of views/expectations that means an adult is foolish to make any contact with someone elses child, you only need one crazy parent and a compliant sucks up time. You can't just brush it away as the view of crazy parent. This is why I would never volunteer my time to help other peoples children. I only interact with the children of my trusted friends or when the parents are there. There are too many crazy people out there.

I’ve been on lots of school trips.
I’ve had to tell kids off when they’re misbehaving. Including kids right in front of me on the coach. I’ve swapped kids around cause they egg each other on and just better to separate.

I’ve never once touched a child to get their attention. I wouldn’t say there’s anything wrong with this, I’d touch their arm etc if I needed to get their attention and was struggling. A tap on the head is such a weird thing to do. I think it probably was a little slap - tapping on the head to get attention doesn’t even sound like a thing a person would do. Though slapping them is, though obviously wrong. It’s much more plausible. It’s just too weird to tap someone on head.

I’ve seen grandparents on trips and they manage not to fall asleep on the coach despite their old age. It all reflects very badly on him. It looks like in his very entitled manner he fell asleep, then woke with a start and slapped a girl on the head for being naughty / mucking around. It’s certainly the most plausible scenario.

I doubt they’ll ban you , but I expect he won’t be permitted on school trips or allowed on school grounds.

🤣my mistake! I’m multi tasking is my excuse

No one likes to be touched by a stranger. If you would not like it, do not do it to a child