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Pervy messages from friend

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Theslummymummy · 14/09/2025 19:09

My friend has started sending me inappropriate messages. I've blocked them for now as I dont want to confront them and I dont want to keep receiving them.

We have been friends a long time, we haven't seen each other recently but we do keep in touch. But recently he's upped the ante and been messaging every day, usually just about work, holidays, weather etc

I'd say from my point of view they have come out of nowhere. We were messaging last week and I was saying how I dont think my dog likes meat anymore and he replied "I'd eat your meat" I said "sorry?" and he replied "not in a cannibal way" I was pretty disgusted so didn't reply. I thought he'd got the message because he didn't bring it up again and the next time he messaged was a different topic. Then roday!!! We were talking about Xmas and he said he wasn't going to do anything for it this year other then a work meal out and then he said "I'm not doing anything else unless I'm stuffing you" I was really pissed off he seems to think he can talk to me like this, he then sent 2 more messages to the same tune, which I didn't really read and I just blocked.

Am I in the right? I haven't over reached have i?

OP posts:
NoahDia · 14/09/2025 19:16

Yeah you've totally overreached OP 🙄

Wanderdust · 14/09/2025 19:15

Could someone have got a hold of his phone, how bizarre a long term friend would suddenly talk to you like this! YANBU.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 14/09/2025 19:15

Yuck. He's not funny.
Very immature.

Lostworlds · 14/09/2025 19:14

He obviously thinks it’s okay to be flirty and full on, personally I wouldn’t have blocked straight away but instead pull him up on it. Ask why he’s trying to change he the dynamics of the friendship and point out you’re not flirting with him as you’ve ignored his last few attempts.

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