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Black people don’t really matter but the loss of Charlie Kirk is a tragedy.

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QOrion · 14/09/2025 15:11

I posted this in response to a short thread on Feminism and Women’s Rights but I want more people to see it. I want to have my say, even if I’m late to the conversation, and even if most people don’t care. I don’t expect many replies but maybe I’ll make some people think about what I’m saying.

I guess none of you are black. It’s the only way you can go out of your way to highlight this man’s ’virtues’. I don’t believe anyone is born bad or is irredeemably bad, I guess that’s my Christian upbringing, but I also don’t understand the deification of this man and the need for many people on this website to paint him in the best possible light. He’s not the first public figure to be shot and killed, even this year. If those deaths were even mentioned on Mumsnet, they certainly weren’t given much attention.

I’d never heard of Charlie Kirk before he was shot and his death had little impact on me. I have serious issues in my own life, people are shot and killed in America every day and there is a lot of suffering going on around the world, a lot of atrocities committed. It didn’t seem to be an incident that affected me in any significant way, even when I discovered his position on transgender ideology. I share essentially the same position on transgender ideology with many people I don’t want to be associated with.

Then I read his comments about black people. I can’t wax lyrical about how Charlie Kirk was ‘decent’ and ‘respectful’. How, ‘Isn’t it nice he gave his political opponents a platform’. And I can’t feel any kind of kinship with people who, knowing what he’s said about black people, still feel compelled to highlight his good qualities.

Let me be clear: I don’t believe he should have been killed. I don’t even support the death penalty in any circumstance, so I can hardly support Charlie Kirk being killed. But I am learning, not for the first time, that Mumsnetters in general, and users of this subforum (FWR) tend to ignore black people and our concerns, until we are useful. Whether that is taking cases to court when much is made of the claimant’s ethnic heritage (why?) or the perennial ‘transgenderism is womanface, it’s offensive like blackface’.

You have no idea and I think it is possible you will never understand just how much slights about my ethnic heritage cut deep. Slights to my womanhood are pretty trivial in comparison. I think this is something white women will never understand. So, you go on singing the virtues of Charlie Kirk. We’ll be here the next time you need to exploit us for your own purposes.

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Locutus2000 · 15/09/2025 16:39

Plastictreees · 14/09/2025 22:38

Yes it’s full scale delusion. I am assuming Hanlon’s razor…

Occam's razor would suggest there's a lot of plastic grass around.

BollyKnickerz · 15/09/2025 16:35

Hoardasurass · 15/09/2025 12:49

Hello all the raped and trafficked white girls from Rotherham are outcomes of anti white racism! Same with all the white candidates who weren't hired by the RAF or police because they are white
You now seem to be asking for me to name individuals who have been harmed when before you explicitly asked for socital harms, so which do you want?
You can try and dismiss/ignore the harms of anti white racism to socital cohesion all you want but you do so at the peril of everyone, when the inevitable backlash happens and we get a reform government dont say we didn't warn you

Excellent post. Thanks for speaking the truth. It really does need to be heard.

Bushmillsbabe · 15/09/2025 16:34

5128gap · 15/09/2025 13:05

I asked you to show me a pattern of white people being dismissed by racist POC. I would expect you do to this by listing individuals this had happened to, but because I asked for a pattern, I would expect you to be able to list significant enough numbers for it to be a pattern. Or if that would be too laborious, then the statistics showing the numbers of cases would suffice.
I strongly suspect we may get a Reform government, but that the reason for that will be the failure of successive governments to address class and wealth inequality, leading to a rightfully discontented WC, who have been thrown scapegoats to hide the real cause of their disadvantage. This worries me.
If you want me to also worry about anti white racism, you need to prove to me it exists. A start would be your evidence that white WC boys underachievement is caused by being white in an anti white society.

I also worry we will get Reform government, which will be helpful for no one. But in a vacuum of discontent, misinformation and extremism thrives.
Vast numbers are disconnected across all areas of society , WC people who feel they can't get support/housing/jobs, the 'squeezed middle' who feel they are working harder and harder for very little benefit to their families, 'higher earners' who feel penalised by an increasing tax burden.

I don't think the underacheivement of white working class boys is due to racism, otherwise it would also apply to white girls too. It's a much wider issue around curriculum suitability, reduced ambition, gender roles changing and adjusting to that and probably a whole range of other reasons.

But to say that no white person has ever been on receiving end of racism is untrue, however it's not well reported on or publicised for fear of being shot down with 'you can't experience racism, your white' type comments. It's like pretending something doesn't exist will make it go away.

My husbands family are Irish, and they experienced significant racism when moved to England 'no blacks, no Irish' signs were commonplace. And discrimination can occur within people of same skin colour but different ethnic origins - Ireland for example remains quite insular in rural areas, with people from outside Ireland excluded from jobs, certain areas etc, the attacks of eastern European immigrants in Northern Ireland.

People go on the attack when they either feel superior/untouchable, or when they feel inferior/threatened/scared as a defense mechanism. My daughter received racist abuse because families in her class were scared she would 'corrupt' them - as a 5 year old wearing shorts in summer she was called 'white trash' 'slutty' etc and children whose families believed girls should be fully covered wouldn't play with her, even when weather got cooler and she was more covered again.

AliceMaforethought · 15/09/2025 16:23

Please don't scold the OP. Part of what she is objecting to is forced teaming and opinions coming as a package.

Tandora · 15/09/2025 16:07

QOrion · 15/09/2025 15:09

It’s not a hit and run. I had the time and motivation to engage with the thread yesterday when I posted it but no-one was interested for quite some time. I will be able to organise my thoughts and respond later on. Sorry, today has been busy with things I can’t put off and my iPad misbehaving is not helping the situation.

I just re- read your OP and noted the stuff about trans people.

YANBU at all in what you are saying about white people and their praise of CK who was a racist man.

It’s really disappointing to see your comments / prejudice about trans people.

QOrion · 15/09/2025 15:09

It’s not a hit and run. I had the time and motivation to engage with the thread yesterday when I posted it but no-one was interested for quite some time. I will be able to organise my thoughts and respond later on. Sorry, today has been busy with things I can’t put off and my iPad misbehaving is not helping the situation.

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JHound · 15/09/2025 14:35

Oh hold on - I see this thread is a hit and run by OP.

Got it.

KimberleyClark · 15/09/2025 13:12

nomas · 15/09/2025 12:33

So 2 people? Whilst I disagree with them, 2 people is hardly indicative of the 'left celebrating' his murder.

Look at the comments of Biden, Obama, Harris, Starmer et al - all of them condemned the attack.

Whilst Trump and Musk tweeted crap like 'The left is a party of murder' and 'this is left violence'.

And completely ignored the violent attacks and threats there have been against Democrat politicians.

5128gap · 15/09/2025 13:05

Hoardasurass · 15/09/2025 12:49

Hello all the raped and trafficked white girls from Rotherham are outcomes of anti white racism! Same with all the white candidates who weren't hired by the RAF or police because they are white
You now seem to be asking for me to name individuals who have been harmed when before you explicitly asked for socital harms, so which do you want?
You can try and dismiss/ignore the harms of anti white racism to socital cohesion all you want but you do so at the peril of everyone, when the inevitable backlash happens and we get a reform government dont say we didn't warn you

I asked you to show me a pattern of white people being dismissed by racist POC. I would expect you do to this by listing individuals this had happened to, but because I asked for a pattern, I would expect you to be able to list significant enough numbers for it to be a pattern. Or if that would be too laborious, then the statistics showing the numbers of cases would suffice.
I strongly suspect we may get a Reform government, but that the reason for that will be the failure of successive governments to address class and wealth inequality, leading to a rightfully discontented WC, who have been thrown scapegoats to hide the real cause of their disadvantage. This worries me.
If you want me to also worry about anti white racism, you need to prove to me it exists. A start would be your evidence that white WC boys underachievement is caused by being white in an anti white society.

Haemagoblin · 15/09/2025 12:59

Chillyourbeansweeman · 14/09/2025 20:20

Could you link the whole interview/s please. Some context would be helpful.

What would the possible context be that would make those remarks acceptable? Unless you are suggesting he didn't say those things?

Bushmillsbabe · 15/09/2025 12:56

nomas · 15/09/2025 00:13

Are you serious? George Floyd was killed by the police. The very people who have sworn to uphold the law and protect citizens.

A white police officer knelt on his neck for over 9 minutes.

It doesn’t matter what George had done, if you accept the police can kill anyone they want, then you may as well hand the country over to despots.

Where did I saw the killing of George Floyd was acceptable? I clearly said that both killings were wrong

The point was that both were people who seem to have been martyred in death, and any conversations about their actions prior to being killed seem to be being silenced in the name of 'respecting the dead'. And that it's possible to both show respect to a person/their family and disagree with their views or actions. Although some comments (not yours) on this thread seems to show otherwise.

BollyKnickerz · 15/09/2025 12:55

JHound · 15/09/2025 12:33

I think people like that are impervious to facts.

I think that's a sly dig.

You'll be on the wrong side of history one day.

Hoardasurass · 15/09/2025 12:49

5128gap · 15/09/2025 12:32

Most of your post is conflating actions with outcomes. I asked you for evidence of harm (outcomes), not for actions you believe will cause harm.
The only outcomes you have mentioned are people being removed from college courses and dismissed from jobs. Forgive me if I don't simply accept your word for it, there has been a great deal of confusion of opinion and evidenced fact on these threads, so can you provide proof of a pattern of behaviour of white people being dismissed as a result of the racism of POC?
The achievements of white working class boys is also an outcome. But again, can you provide me with the evidence that links their poorer outcomes to their being white, and bring rooted in racism against them, as oppose to being rooted in social class and wealth inequality for example?

Hello all the raped and trafficked white girls from Rotherham are outcomes of anti white racism! Same with all the white candidates who weren't hired by the RAF or police because they are white
You now seem to be asking for me to name individuals who have been harmed when before you explicitly asked for socital harms, so which do you want?
You can try and dismiss/ignore the harms of anti white racism to socital cohesion all you want but you do so at the peril of everyone, when the inevitable backlash happens and we get a reform government dont say we didn't warn you

SpaceRaccoon · 15/09/2025 12:41

So, can you explain why you are linking the views of a black woman in the UK and those who agree with her that CK was racist, with the circumstances that caused the death of a white man at the hands of another white man?

Wtf are you asking me that when I did nothing of the sort, but the OP literally started a whole thread about it?

malificent7 · 15/09/2025 12:38

Well he was a white supremacist. Too bad he was shot but I don't think his views were great l.

JHound · 15/09/2025 12:33

Tandora · 15/09/2025 12:21

What the hell is this utter poison you are spouting.

White victims get way more attention that victims of colour - why do you think it is that all the most famous missing children cases of white children, whereas the majority of children who actually go missing are black and brown? Look at how much coverage the terrible case of Sara Everard and how much publicity and outrage there was.

I think people like that are impervious to facts.

nomas · 15/09/2025 12:33

Hoardasurass · 15/09/2025 12:23

I gave you names and you dismissed them but here's some
Here's the article about the councilor
Councillor resigns after sparking fury over Charlie Kirk post https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-15088951/Councillor-resigns-sparking-fury-Charlie-Kirk-post-saying-brought-assassination-himself.html?ito=native_share_article-nativemenubutton

And the one about bob vylon
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/world-news/2025/09/14/bob-vylan-inciting-pogrom-amsterdam-charlie-kirk-idf/

Then theres people like Sophie Molly and those who are being sacked left right and center but no you demand that I go trolling through blue-sky and list off the names of everyone who is celebrating the death of Charlie Kirk but that's ok because I asked for evidence of anything racist that he said instead of taking your word for it, even after I explained why that evidence was needed.
So no not irony just me not being willing to engage further with disingenuous posters like yourself

So 2 people? Whilst I disagree with them, 2 people is hardly indicative of the 'left celebrating' his murder.

Look at the comments of Biden, Obama, Harris, Starmer et al - all of them condemned the attack.

Whilst Trump and Musk tweeted crap like 'The left is a party of murder' and 'this is left violence'.

5128gap · 15/09/2025 12:32

Hoardasurass · 15/09/2025 12:09

Ok socital harms just a few for you
Rotherham and all those "white trash" little girls who were labelled as prostitutes etc (quote from a police report).
The RAF's illegal positive discrimination hiring practices, same with the police system for hiring and advancement.
The two teir policing of the internet.
The way casual anti white racism is excused.
The one way colour blind casting of only white historical figures.
The denigrating of British history.
The rewriting of history to falsely claim that the British started the slave trade/transatlantic slave trade both lies (slavery goes back atleast as far as ancient mesopatainia (sp) and the Portuguese started the transatlantic slave trade and the Spanish expanded it).
I could go on but it would take to long but when people can and are fired and kicked off collage courses for disagreeing with enforced critical race theory training or the horrific micro aggression racism of saying happy Christmas to a non Christian and white working class boys do worst in education there's a huge problem with the harms of anti white racism.
The fact that you want to change the agreed meaning of racism to excuse anti white racism and push the racist critical race theory and are being enabled to do so is also harmful to all in society both white and people of colour as it speaks hate and encourages devision

Most of your post is conflating actions with outcomes. I asked you for evidence of harm (outcomes), not for actions you believe will cause harm.
The only outcomes you have mentioned are people being removed from college courses and dismissed from jobs. Forgive me if I don't simply accept your word for it, there has been a great deal of confusion of opinion and evidenced fact on these threads, so can you provide proof of a pattern of behaviour of white people being dismissed as a result of the racism of POC?
The achievements of white working class boys is also an outcome. But again, can you provide me with the evidence that links their poorer outcomes to their being white, and bring rooted in racism against them, as oppose to being rooted in social class and wealth inequality for example?

Hoardasurass · 15/09/2025 12:23

nomas · 15/09/2025 11:13

Do you see the irony in demanding evidence of CK's racism but then when you're asked for some of the names of the people you say were celebrating his murder, you suddenly clam up and say 'I won't be engaging further'.

I gave you names and you dismissed them but here's some
Here's the article about the councilor
Councillor resigns after sparking fury over Charlie Kirk post https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-15088951/Councillor-resigns-sparking-fury-Charlie-Kirk-post-saying-brought-assassination-himself.html?ito=native_share_article-nativemenubutton

And the one about bob vylon
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/world-news/2025/09/14/bob-vylan-inciting-pogrom-amsterdam-charlie-kirk-idf/

Then theres people like Sophie Molly and those who are being sacked left right and center but no you demand that I go trolling through blue-sky and list off the names of everyone who is celebrating the death of Charlie Kirk but that's ok because I asked for evidence of anything racist that he said instead of taking your word for it, even after I explained why that evidence was needed.
So no not irony just me not being willing to engage further with disingenuous posters like yourself

Councillor resigns after sparking fury over Charlie Kirk post

Mr Kirk, a married father of two, was struck in the neck by a single bullet while speaking about mass shootings at a university campus in Utah yesterday, with a manhunt still underway.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-15088951/Councillor-resigns-sparking-fury-Charlie-Kirk-post-saying-brought-assassination-himself.html?ito=native_share_article-nativemenubutton

Tandora · 15/09/2025 12:21

BollyKnickerz · 15/09/2025 12:14

It's absolutely a race crime.

Not a popular profile of a victim. The liberal left like black and brown victims to flex their virtue signalling. In fact, the liberal left like black and brown perpetrators too - they'll soon find excuses for them.

It's very uncool to be white. That video should be all over Mumsnet with rage from posters. But oh no. Let's keep having these "white bashing" threads rammed down our throats. And still the liberals will get on their knees to be whipped

What the hell is this utter poison you are spouting.

White victims get way more attention that victims of colour - why do you think it is that all the most famous missing children cases of white children, whereas the majority of children who actually go missing are black and brown? Look at how much coverage the terrible case of Sara Everard and how much publicity and outrage there was.

5128gap · 15/09/2025 12:17

LayerCakeOfStrangers · 15/09/2025 11:36

As for Iryna Zarutska, i don’t care what anyone says, if she was the only black woman on a bus full of white people, who was stabbed by a white man then bled to death as white people watched and her killer said “I got the black girl”, there’d be total uproar and demands for bloods. There’d be riots. Nobody would be making excuses for her killer. But apparently racism only works one way

Edited

If your argument that racism only works one way rests on your speculation as to what would be the case in a scenario that has not occurred, then you should not expect to garner much support, other than from the choir you're preaching to. Views are changed with proof and evidence. Do you have any proof that racism only works one way? Or are we once again failing to understand the difference between opinion and fact?

JHound · 15/09/2025 12:15

BollyKnickerz · 15/09/2025 12:14

It's absolutely a race crime.

Not a popular profile of a victim. The liberal left like black and brown victims to flex their virtue signalling. In fact, the liberal left like black and brown perpetrators too - they'll soon find excuses for them.

It's very uncool to be white. That video should be all over Mumsnet with rage from posters. But oh no. Let's keep having these "white bashing" threads rammed down our throats. And still the liberals will get on their knees to be whipped

This is hysterical!😆

BollyKnickerz · 15/09/2025 12:14

TreesTreesBeesBees · 15/09/2025 11:26

I think the small amount of coverage that story generated compared to Charlie Kirk might help illustrate he didn't get the coverage because he was white as alleged but because he was famous. Very famous especially with younger people. His coverage wasn't because he was white since this young white woman barely got a mention and she was also white.

Her tragic story is being discussed more. A white refugee from Ukraine stabbed by a madman for just being white. 'Ive seen the uncut video, he said he ended that white 'b' life and walked off. A race crime.

It's absolutely a race crime.

Not a popular profile of a victim. The liberal left like black and brown victims to flex their virtue signalling. In fact, the liberal left like black and brown perpetrators too - they'll soon find excuses for them.

It's very uncool to be white. That video should be all over Mumsnet with rage from posters. But oh no. Let's keep having these "white bashing" threads rammed down our throats. And still the liberals will get on their knees to be whipped

JHound · 15/09/2025 12:10

BollyKnickerz · 15/09/2025 12:04

100%

There has literally been evidence posted here showing this is not true but also the CCTV has no sound.
The claims of what he said have been created on social media.

Hoardasurass · 15/09/2025 12:09

5128gap · 15/09/2025 10:54

No, that is a very over simplified definition of racism, that comes from the same mind set as those who believe misandry is the equal opposite of misogyny.
Hatred for a group is just the first part of the equation. To translate that into harm, the hater needs power over the object of their hatred. So while all hatred of a group based solely on their membership of that group is equally wrong, the impact of that hatred is not equal.
If you disagree, I'd be interested in your examples of the harm being caused to white people as a group, by the racism you believe they experience from POC. And I don't mean an anecdote about a white person treated badly by a black employer, I mean at a societal level.

Ok socital harms just a few for you
Rotherham and all those "white trash" little girls who were labelled as prostitutes etc (quote from a police report).
The RAF's illegal positive discrimination hiring practices, same with the police system for hiring and advancement.
The two teir policing of the internet.
The way casual anti white racism is excused.
The one way colour blind casting of only white historical figures.
The denigrating of British history.
The rewriting of history to falsely claim that the British started the slave trade/transatlantic slave trade both lies (slavery goes back atleast as far as ancient mesopatainia (sp) and the Portuguese started the transatlantic slave trade and the Spanish expanded it).
I could go on but it would take to long but when people can and are fired and kicked off collage courses for disagreeing with enforced critical race theory training or the horrific micro aggression racism of saying happy Christmas to a non Christian and white working class boys do worst in education there's a huge problem with the harms of anti white racism.
The fact that you want to change the agreed meaning of racism to excuse anti white racism and push the racist critical race theory and are being enabled to do so is also harmful to all in society both white and people of colour as it speaks hate and encourages devision

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