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Black people don’t really matter but the loss of Charlie Kirk is a tragedy.

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QOrion · 14/09/2025 15:11

I posted this in response to a short thread on Feminism and Women’s Rights but I want more people to see it. I want to have my say, even if I’m late to the conversation, and even if most people don’t care. I don’t expect many replies but maybe I’ll make some people think about what I’m saying.

I guess none of you are black. It’s the only way you can go out of your way to highlight this man’s ’virtues’. I don’t believe anyone is born bad or is irredeemably bad, I guess that’s my Christian upbringing, but I also don’t understand the deification of this man and the need for many people on this website to paint him in the best possible light. He’s not the first public figure to be shot and killed, even this year. If those deaths were even mentioned on Mumsnet, they certainly weren’t given much attention.

I’d never heard of Charlie Kirk before he was shot and his death had little impact on me. I have serious issues in my own life, people are shot and killed in America every day and there is a lot of suffering going on around the world, a lot of atrocities committed. It didn’t seem to be an incident that affected me in any significant way, even when I discovered his position on transgender ideology. I share essentially the same position on transgender ideology with many people I don’t want to be associated with.

Then I read his comments about black people. I can’t wax lyrical about how Charlie Kirk was ‘decent’ and ‘respectful’. How, ‘Isn’t it nice he gave his political opponents a platform’. And I can’t feel any kind of kinship with people who, knowing what he’s said about black people, still feel compelled to highlight his good qualities.

Let me be clear: I don’t believe he should have been killed. I don’t even support the death penalty in any circumstance, so I can hardly support Charlie Kirk being killed. But I am learning, not for the first time, that Mumsnetters in general, and users of this subforum (FWR) tend to ignore black people and our concerns, until we are useful. Whether that is taking cases to court when much is made of the claimant’s ethnic heritage (why?) or the perennial ‘transgenderism is womanface, it’s offensive like blackface’.

You have no idea and I think it is possible you will never understand just how much slights about my ethnic heritage cut deep. Slights to my womanhood are pretty trivial in comparison. I think this is something white women will never understand. So, you go on singing the virtues of Charlie Kirk. We’ll be here the next time you need to exploit us for your own purposes.

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5128gap · 15/09/2025 20:09

NotMyNigelFarage · 15/09/2025 19:28

I disagree.

Calling somebody a "white bitch" is racism full stop. You don't need power to commit a racist act. Many of the most grievous acts (mass shootings etc) are committed as a reaction to feeling powerless. This is also how racial resentment is fuelled.

Look at Germany prior to the rise of the Nazis. Look at all the people flocking to support Reform due to feeling that nobody else is listening to their concerns. Look at all the struggling white men complaining that the foreigners took the jobs. A lack of power is a greater predictor of bigotry IMO. To need a scapegoat you must first have an axe to grind.

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Yes, I agree a feeling a powerlessness can push people towards racism, which is as you say, exactly what we're experiencing with the rise of Reform.
However its important to remember who these racists are powerlessness in relation to. For this to be demonstrative that racism can flow in the opposite direction, from the powerless to the powerful, they would need to be powerless in relation to POC, which they're not.
They're powerlessness is relation to other white people more powerful than them. And in their frustration they're punching down on the people they still have power over, POC.

juldan · 15/09/2025 20:07

SpaceRaccoon · 15/09/2025 19:57

@juldan see FOJNs post above.

Also:
https://www.nbcnewyork.com/news/stephen-king-charlie-kirk-comment/6391657/

Stephen King had to apologise, and it's a good example of the often deliberate misinterpretation of who Kirk was.

The left have reacted disgustingly and disgracefully and seem intent on doubling down and continuing to double down, including this thread where the OP, bizarrely, takes personal offense that a well known public speaker might be mourned by his followers after being publicly assassinated.

As an aside, 7.8 billion is about the whole world population.

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https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=1505741850455031

90K views · 794 reactions | #CharlieKirk | Etan Thomas

#CharlieKirk.

https://www.facebook.com/etanthomas36/videos/1505741850455031/

juldan · 15/09/2025 20:02

FOJN · 15/09/2025 19:46

The OP said she'd never heard of him until a couple of days ago and she "read" what he had said about black people. Although I believe he has published books he is most well known for public speaking and debating so if her information had come from something she read it seems likely these are things written about him rather than by him.

I was aware of him but have not studied him in great detail, however, it's pretty clear that he is being badly misrepresented by things he said being taken out of context. What I do know is that there are quite a number of black conservative content creators who knew him personally and have paid very touching tributes to him. He recruited Candace Owens to work with him at Turning Point when she was relatively unknown. Her tribute to him as well as all of his videos are available on YouTube.
Other black content creators who have paid tribute include Officer Tatum, The Hodge Twins, Gothix, Amala Ekpunobi and Amir Odom (who happens to be both black and a married gay man) who posted a video debunking the most common misconceptions, I'll link below. Am I supposed to think these black people don't know a racist when they meet one?

I am not politically aligned with Charlie Kirk but I do not like seeing someone's murder justified by lies.

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@FOJN
I am not justifying his murder. If you had read my previous posts on this thread you would have known that. However, objecting to glorifying someone who was racist among other things does not equal justifying his murder.
The things you mentioned are not hearsay or misinterpretation of his words. There are videos online of him saying these things during public appearances. His words were quoted by news outlets long before his murder so they are not AI fakes created by “bad lefties” to taint his name.

SpaceRaccoon · 15/09/2025 19:57

@juldan see FOJNs post above.

Also:
https://www.nbcnewyork.com/news/stephen-king-charlie-kirk-comment/6391657/

Stephen King had to apologise, and it's a good example of the often deliberate misinterpretation of who Kirk was.

The left have reacted disgustingly and disgracefully and seem intent on doubling down and continuing to double down, including this thread where the OP, bizarrely, takes personal offense that a well known public speaker might be mourned by his followers after being publicly assassinated.

As an aside, 7.8 billion is about the whole world population.

Author Stephen King issues rare apology after Charlie Kirk comments

Acclaimed writer Stephen King issued an apology for social media comments he made in the days after the killing of influencer Charlie Kirk.

https://www.nbcnewyork.com/news/stephen-king-charlie-kirk-comment/6391657/

Whoiam · 15/09/2025 19:49

No, you are being disingenuous. Affirmative action in recruitment means that the standards may be lowered to meet diversity quotas for minorities, such as Black individuals, transgender people, women, etc. This can result in hiring someone who may not have been fully qualified for the job. I used to work on planes, and I sometimes felt this way when I saw women in those roles. It’s not because I dislike women; I believe we are all made in the image of God, but because of similar reasoning.

juldan · 15/09/2025 19:48

SpaceRaccoon · 15/09/2025 19:37

Yet my X feed is full of black commentators who supported him, so the OP speaks for herself only.

@SpaceRaccoon
You have 7.8 billion black people commenting on your posts??????

If not, the chances are that there are far more black people who share OP’s views on CK than yours.

FOJN · 15/09/2025 19:46

juldan · 15/09/2025 18:33

@No, he wasn’t Hitler, but he was a vile man. It is understandable that a black person may feel uneasy about people glorifying such a racist individual.

The OP said she'd never heard of him until a couple of days ago and she "read" what he had said about black people. Although I believe he has published books he is most well known for public speaking and debating so if her information had come from something she read it seems likely these are things written about him rather than by him.

I was aware of him but have not studied him in great detail, however, it's pretty clear that he is being badly misrepresented by things he said being taken out of context. What I do know is that there are quite a number of black conservative content creators who knew him personally and have paid very touching tributes to him. He recruited Candace Owens to work with him at Turning Point when she was relatively unknown. Her tribute to him as well as all of his videos are available on YouTube.
Other black content creators who have paid tribute include Officer Tatum, The Hodge Twins, Gothix, Amala Ekpunobi and Amir Odom (who happens to be both black and a married gay man) who posted a video debunking the most common misconceptions, I'll link below. Am I supposed to think these black people don't know a racist when they meet one?

I am not politically aligned with Charlie Kirk but I do not like seeing someone's murder justified by lies.

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Jumpingthruhoops · 15/09/2025 19:43

ReplacementBusService · 15/09/2025 19:20

It is clear cut racist, towards black people. Yes. Obviously. It doesn't matter whether white people are good at basketball or not. It is a stay in your lane comment to black people: you keep what you're good at- basketball. If that's the example of him not being racist, it is not a good one.

That's quite some reach there; it was nothing of the sort.
It was a conversation about DEI and CK was merely highlighting that if the NBA suddenly had to hire more white people, the standard of play would likely go down because black people ARE better at basketball. How is that being in any way negative /racist toward black people?
He certainly wasn't saying 'stay in your lane'. Although I could think of worse 'lanes' to have to stay in - NBA is VERY well paid!

SpaceRaccoon · 15/09/2025 19:37

juldan · 15/09/2025 18:33

@No, he wasn’t Hitler, but he was a vile man. It is understandable that a black person may feel uneasy about people glorifying such a racist individual.

Yet my X feed is full of black commentators who supported him, so the OP speaks for herself only.

NotMyNigelFarage · 15/09/2025 19:28

5128gap · 15/09/2025 19:18

I didn't redefine racism. I explained it to a person who thought it simply meant hating a person of a different race. As you see from the definition you posted, there is an 'and' which is treating others unfairly and discriminating.
I merely pointed out that in order to fulfil this part of the definition, power is needed. A person can hate another as much as they like, but in the absence of power they will be unable to treat them unfairly or discriminate against them.
This isn't a new understanding that I've made up. It's the way 'isms' have been widely understood for decades.
And I haven't 'lost my shit' about anything, so I doubt you're amazed by me.

I disagree.

Calling somebody a "white bitch" is racism full stop. You don't need power to commit a racist act. Many of the most grievous acts (mass shootings etc) are committed as a reaction to feeling powerless. This is also how racial resentment is fuelled.

Look at Germany prior to the rise of the Nazis. Look at all the people flocking to support Reform due to feeling that nobody else is listening to their concerns. Look at all the struggling white men complaining that the foreigners took the jobs. A lack of power is a greater predictor of bigotry IMO. To need a scapegoat you must first have an axe to grind.

ReplacementBusService · 15/09/2025 19:20

Jumpingthruhoops · 15/09/2025 00:39

I meant towards black people, as per the OP.
He's not saying that white people are not good at this particular 'thing' - just that black people are better. Which in terms of the NBA, statistically, they ARE (and also make up 75% of the league)
This was often the case with Charlie's debates: he would merely present facts on whatever subject. That people simply didn't like a lot of those facts, doesn't stop them being facts unfortunately.

As a white person, I can't get worked up about CK saying black people are better at basketball than white people. Because it's true.

It is clear cut racist, towards black people. Yes. Obviously. It doesn't matter whether white people are good at basketball or not. It is a stay in your lane comment to black people: you keep what you're good at- basketball. If that's the example of him not being racist, it is not a good one.

5128gap · 15/09/2025 19:18

NotMyNigelFarage · 15/09/2025 19:00

You can't just redefine concepts that already have a widely accepted definition/meaning.

Oxford dictionary says:

the belief that some races are superior to others and the unfair, violent, or discriminatory treatment of people of different races

Nothing about power structures/privilege. Your definition sounds more like structural/institutional racism. It's amazing how many people lose their shit when TRAs attempt to redefine the definition of a woman yet happily do the same thing themselves with other concepts.

I didn't redefine racism. I explained it to a person who thought it simply meant hating a person of a different race. As you see from the definition you posted, there is an 'and' which is treating others unfairly and discriminating.
I merely pointed out that in order to fulfil this part of the definition, power is needed. A person can hate another as much as they like, but in the absence of power they will be unable to treat them unfairly or discriminate against them.
This isn't a new understanding that I've made up. It's the way 'isms' have been widely understood for decades.
And I haven't 'lost my shit' about anything, so I doubt you're amazed by me.

NotMyNigelFarage · 15/09/2025 19:08

But to give an example...

White people are often framed as being associated with slavery. The archetypal image of a 'slaver' is a white overseer on a cotton plantation.

However, there are over 3x more slaves in the world today than were trafficked over the entire 300-400 years of the transatlantic slave trade. Last time I looked at the top ten countries involved in slavery not a single one was a western country and 9/10 were majority non-white (Russia was in 10th place).

So, it's truthful to say that white people have enslaved more POC than the reverse. But in aggregate white people aren't even close to being the worst offenders. To talk about this is considered racist and will have you shouted down.

NotMyNigelFarage · 15/09/2025 19:00

5128gap · 15/09/2025 10:54

No, that is a very over simplified definition of racism, that comes from the same mind set as those who believe misandry is the equal opposite of misogyny.
Hatred for a group is just the first part of the equation. To translate that into harm, the hater needs power over the object of their hatred. So while all hatred of a group based solely on their membership of that group is equally wrong, the impact of that hatred is not equal.
If you disagree, I'd be interested in your examples of the harm being caused to white people as a group, by the racism you believe they experience from POC. And I don't mean an anecdote about a white person treated badly by a black employer, I mean at a societal level.

You can't just redefine concepts that already have a widely accepted definition/meaning.

Oxford dictionary says:

the belief that some races are superior to others and the unfair, violent, or discriminatory treatment of people of different races

Nothing about power structures/privilege. Your definition sounds more like structural/institutional racism. It's amazing how many people lose their shit when TRAs attempt to redefine the definition of a woman yet happily do the same thing themselves with other concepts.

nomas · 15/09/2025 18:43

NotMyNigelFarage · 15/09/2025 18:40

Ah, that's was omitted from the article I read. It said it was reported that a Syrian man had attacked him. However, having read a more recent article the victim has expressed frustration that the suspect was released, stating that the man was already known to the police.

If I was a betting man I'd say the guy probably was guilty. What incentive would the good samaritan have to blame it on an innocent guy?

I don’t know about incentive, but the part time model did complain about Germany having too many immigrants, so that would be a good motive for lying.

NotMyNigelFarage · 15/09/2025 18:40

nomas · 15/09/2025 18:27

Correction, a Syrian man was questioned but later released as there was no evidence it was him.

Ah, that's was omitted from the article I read. It said it was reported that a Syrian man had attacked him. However, having read a more recent article the victim has expressed frustration that the suspect was released, stating that the man was already known to the police.

If I was a betting man I'd say the guy probably was guilty. What incentive would the good samaritan have to blame it on an innocent guy?

5128gap · 15/09/2025 18:38

AliceMaforethought · 15/09/2025 18:08

Also, there is no evidence whatsoever that his assassin killed him for his views. We don't know why he killed him, but I am so tired of the way it has been assumed that the 'woke left' were somehow responsible for his death.

Agree. Equally tiresome is for people to keep framing his death as a 'blow for free speech'.
As you rightfully remind us, CK was murdered for reasons unknown. But whatever the reasons, they were unlawful and the state will punish the perpetrator.
Unless it emerges that his death was actually a state sanctioned assassination because the government has decided to silence its citizens in this way, his murder by an independent citizen is no more a threat to the right free speech than being killed for your wallet is a threat to your rights to have money.

juldan · 15/09/2025 18:33

SpaceRaccoon · 15/09/2025 10:02

But he wasn't Hitler, was he? He was a man with opinions some disagreed strongly with, but these ridiculous comparisons are what emboldened his killing.

@No, he wasn’t Hitler, but he was a vile man. It is understandable that a black person may feel uneasy about people glorifying such a racist individual.

nomas · 15/09/2025 18:27

NotMyNigelFarage · 15/09/2025 18:20

Just googled that story. The attacker was a Syrian national. Well, apparently he attacked the good samaritan and his friend then jumped in and stabbed the guy in the face. The guy was previously a part time model but now has facial disfigurement.

Correction, a Syrian man was questioned but later released as there was no evidence it was him.

NotMyNigelFarage · 15/09/2025 18:20

nomas · 15/09/2025 10:13

The news report also shows that a man in Germany did intervene in another attack on a woman and had his face slashed. He has a deep permanent gash/scar across his face and nose now.

Human instinct is to protect one self first and foremost.

Just googled that story. The attacker was a Syrian national. Well, apparently he attacked the good samaritan and his friend then jumped in and stabbed the guy in the face. The guy was previously a part time model but now has facial disfigurement.

AliceMaforethought · 15/09/2025 18:08

Wordsmithery · 15/09/2025 17:57

Personally I found Charlie Kirk's views despicable and divisive and I had zero respect for him. He could have used his undoubted gifts for charming and influencing people in positive ways but instead he promoted intolerance.
His death was a tragedy for his family, of course, and a blow for freedom of speech because no-one should die for having views. But it was not more of a tragedy than, say, the deaths of many Black people at the hands of American police. Arguably, though, at least Charlie Kirk's family will see some justice, while the Black families rarely do.

Also, there is no evidence whatsoever that his assassin killed him for his views. We don't know why he killed him, but I am so tired of the way it has been assumed that the 'woke left' were somehow responsible for his death.

Wordsmithery · 15/09/2025 17:57

Personally I found Charlie Kirk's views despicable and divisive and I had zero respect for him. He could have used his undoubted gifts for charming and influencing people in positive ways but instead he promoted intolerance.
His death was a tragedy for his family, of course, and a blow for freedom of speech because no-one should die for having views. But it was not more of a tragedy than, say, the deaths of many Black people at the hands of American police. Arguably, though, at least Charlie Kirk's family will see some justice, while the Black families rarely do.

ClareBlue · 15/09/2025 17:01

GreyingSunshine · 14/09/2025 21:36

He was a cunt who has made this world a more dangerous and more unpleasant place to live for a lot of people. Being a young father doesn't undo the damage his words have done and continue to do.

I wish he hadn't been killed but just because he was it doesn't make anything he said better. On the contrary. His wife and followers seem to be happy to make a martyr out of him and use his killing to further their agenda.

Which is exactly what has always happened when there are political assassinations. All it does is create justification for someone else to think in their own mind that they can do the same. And it escalates. History tells us that. So all those seeking some justification for his death because of his views have to accept that there will be people now justifying killing someone on the opposing political spectrum because of their views. There's no 'i don't support killing someone because of their views, but he was a horrible person' you either stop after views or you are part of a really serious and escalating problem.

5128gap · 15/09/2025 16:49

Bushmillsbabe · 15/09/2025 16:34

I also worry we will get Reform government, which will be helpful for no one. But in a vacuum of discontent, misinformation and extremism thrives.
Vast numbers are disconnected across all areas of society , WC people who feel they can't get support/housing/jobs, the 'squeezed middle' who feel they are working harder and harder for very little benefit to their families, 'higher earners' who feel penalised by an increasing tax burden.

I don't think the underacheivement of white working class boys is due to racism, otherwise it would also apply to white girls too. It's a much wider issue around curriculum suitability, reduced ambition, gender roles changing and adjusting to that and probably a whole range of other reasons.

But to say that no white person has ever been on receiving end of racism is untrue, however it's not well reported on or publicised for fear of being shot down with 'you can't experience racism, your white' type comments. It's like pretending something doesn't exist will make it go away.

My husbands family are Irish, and they experienced significant racism when moved to England 'no blacks, no Irish' signs were commonplace. And discrimination can occur within people of same skin colour but different ethnic origins - Ireland for example remains quite insular in rural areas, with people from outside Ireland excluded from jobs, certain areas etc, the attacks of eastern European immigrants in Northern Ireland.

People go on the attack when they either feel superior/untouchable, or when they feel inferior/threatened/scared as a defense mechanism. My daughter received racist abuse because families in her class were scared she would 'corrupt' them - as a 5 year old wearing shorts in summer she was called 'white trash' 'slutty' etc and children whose families believed girls should be fully covered wouldn't play with her, even when weather got cooler and she was more covered again.

I'm sorry that happened to your daughter, but unless white boys in shorts were also called slutty white trash, and non white girls were 'allowed' to wear shorts without comment, I'd say she was the victim of sexism not racism. When assessing if we are the victim if an 'ism' our comparator has to be how are people who don't share that key characteristic with us are treated. So in that case it was one rule for girls of all races, another for boys of all races, so sexism.

HRTQueen · 15/09/2025 16:48

Disappointed to read but not surprised by some of the responses on here.

Some of us are reading and listening op, and at times that is what we should be doing especially when it from a different experience to our own

It really not hard to understand that that incidents that are down to differences in ethnic background having a negative impact on victims is not the same as societal racism, some people just do not want to accept this

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