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Black people don’t really matter but the loss of Charlie Kirk is a tragedy.

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QOrion · 14/09/2025 15:11

I posted this in response to a short thread on Feminism and Women’s Rights but I want more people to see it. I want to have my say, even if I’m late to the conversation, and even if most people don’t care. I don’t expect many replies but maybe I’ll make some people think about what I’m saying.

I guess none of you are black. It’s the only way you can go out of your way to highlight this man’s ’virtues’. I don’t believe anyone is born bad or is irredeemably bad, I guess that’s my Christian upbringing, but I also don’t understand the deification of this man and the need for many people on this website to paint him in the best possible light. He’s not the first public figure to be shot and killed, even this year. If those deaths were even mentioned on Mumsnet, they certainly weren’t given much attention.

I’d never heard of Charlie Kirk before he was shot and his death had little impact on me. I have serious issues in my own life, people are shot and killed in America every day and there is a lot of suffering going on around the world, a lot of atrocities committed. It didn’t seem to be an incident that affected me in any significant way, even when I discovered his position on transgender ideology. I share essentially the same position on transgender ideology with many people I don’t want to be associated with.

Then I read his comments about black people. I can’t wax lyrical about how Charlie Kirk was ‘decent’ and ‘respectful’. How, ‘Isn’t it nice he gave his political opponents a platform’. And I can’t feel any kind of kinship with people who, knowing what he’s said about black people, still feel compelled to highlight his good qualities.

Let me be clear: I don’t believe he should have been killed. I don’t even support the death penalty in any circumstance, so I can hardly support Charlie Kirk being killed. But I am learning, not for the first time, that Mumsnetters in general, and users of this subforum (FWR) tend to ignore black people and our concerns, until we are useful. Whether that is taking cases to court when much is made of the claimant’s ethnic heritage (why?) or the perennial ‘transgenderism is womanface, it’s offensive like blackface’.

You have no idea and I think it is possible you will never understand just how much slights about my ethnic heritage cut deep. Slights to my womanhood are pretty trivial in comparison. I think this is something white women will never understand. So, you go on singing the virtues of Charlie Kirk. We’ll be here the next time you need to exploit us for your own purposes.

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BollyKnickerz · 14/09/2025 22:43

champignonhill · 14/09/2025 22:37

I'm sorry, we're at the point of suggesting white people are being oppressed?!

"white people can't experience racism "

A white persons opinion is "white fragility"

Two tier policing.

Riots that pull down statues (BLM)are not treated the same way as the horrific riots by white people a couple of years back.

I'd say that was pretty oppressive.

Bushmillsbabe · 14/09/2025 22:42

VivienneDelacroix · 14/09/2025 22:14

There's no such thing as racism against white people. White people are not a minority in our society, and hold the power.

I would suggest doing some reading into white fragility, because there are posts here that are pretty much textbook demonstrations of it.

Which society are you talking about? People on this forum come from a variety of countries.

In the London borough where I work, a recent census showed that 86% identified as an ethnicity that wasn't 'white British'.
My NHS team, out of 15 staff members, 4 of them are white British - our team is fairly reflective of the area we serve which is really helpful.
My secondary school, about 30% were white British
In some areas, white British people are the minority. You are saying that only a minority group can be victims of racism?
Tell that to my colleagues - we have all experienced racism.

BollyKnickerz · 14/09/2025 22:40

Nice to see all the supportive messages from the very community that ignored Iryna Zhurvaska dying at the hands of an (also) black man. All the condemning and "not in our name" and "we need to do more to show white people solidarity" "I'm ashamed to be black because of those people".

Nope.....

Yet all of those things are expected, and have been said by white people when roles are reversed. It's a big old one way street.

Plastictreees · 14/09/2025 22:38

champignonhill · 14/09/2025 22:37

I'm sorry, we're at the point of suggesting white people are being oppressed?!

Yes it’s full scale delusion. I am assuming Hanlon’s razor…

champignonhill · 14/09/2025 22:37

I'm sorry, we're at the point of suggesting white people are being oppressed?!

Plastictreees · 14/09/2025 22:36

Your views are totally valid OP. CK is a racist, misogynistic bigot, and his defenders/supporters/endorsers aren’t worth a moment of your time.

The only reason he is being defended so much on MN is because he is right wing and against trans rights. I wouldn’t give it another thought.

smallpinecone · 14/09/2025 22:32

Plastictreees · 14/09/2025 22:31

👏👏

Not surprising you’d applaud that 😄

Plastictreees · 14/09/2025 22:31

VivienneDelacroix · 14/09/2025 22:14

There's no such thing as racism against white people. White people are not a minority in our society, and hold the power.

I would suggest doing some reading into white fragility, because there are posts here that are pretty much textbook demonstrations of it.

👏👏

BollyKnickerz · 14/09/2025 22:30

smallpinecone · 14/09/2025 22:24

You’re wrong. And racist. But many people just don’t care any more.

These words are bandied around so often they’ve ceased to have any meaning. We’re way past people being condescended to and told to ‘educate’ themselves. People might have listened to this nonsense once, but it’s meaningless noise now.

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Hear hear!

That utter bullshit brainwashed into us that White people can't be victims of racism comes from the same 'starter pack' as "men can also be women" . Ludicrous. It's a shutdown to further oppress (yes we're at that stage now- successfully swapped oppressed and oppressor) white people.

Thought it was "equality" we were after ? Or is it just swapping the oppressor after all...

BollyKnickerz · 14/09/2025 22:26

VivienneDelacroix · 14/09/2025 22:14

There's no such thing as racism against white people. White people are not a minority in our society, and hold the power.

I would suggest doing some reading into white fragility, because there are posts here that are pretty much textbook demonstrations of it.

Absolute bullshit. Complete and utter bullshit.

You've drank the kool aid.

smallpinecone · 14/09/2025 22:24

VivienneDelacroix · 14/09/2025 22:14

There's no such thing as racism against white people. White people are not a minority in our society, and hold the power.

I would suggest doing some reading into white fragility, because there are posts here that are pretty much textbook demonstrations of it.

You’re wrong. And racist. But many people just don’t care any more.

These words are bandied around so often they’ve ceased to have any meaning. We’re way past people being condescended to and told to ‘educate’ themselves. People might have listened to this nonsense once, but it’s meaningless noise now.

VivienneDelacroix · 14/09/2025 22:14

BollyKnickerz · 14/09/2025 20:35

What gives you the right to label white people's views as "white fragility?" You're ok with racism towards whites then clearly? Did you bother to read my post about that poor young woman or do you just pick narratives where your cause is the victimhood?

There's no such thing as racism against white people. White people are not a minority in our society, and hold the power.

I would suggest doing some reading into white fragility, because there are posts here that are pretty much textbook demonstrations of it.

GreyingSunshine · 14/09/2025 21:36

BollyKnickerz · 14/09/2025 19:53

Stop calling people "cunts" : it's not big and it's not clever and it doesn't wash.

A man died that had controversial views. He was still a husband and a father and a son. Two little girls now grow up without a daddy. A young woman is widowed.

Disagreeing with someone's views is fine. Shouting the word "cunt" about a murder victim (who's crime was saying things lots of people disagreed with ) is not tasteful at all.

He was a cunt who has made this world a more dangerous and more unpleasant place to live for a lot of people. Being a young father doesn't undo the damage his words have done and continue to do.

I wish he hadn't been killed but just because he was it doesn't make anything he said better. On the contrary. His wife and followers seem to be happy to make a martyr out of him and use his killing to further their agenda.

BollyKnickerz · 14/09/2025 21:29

RidingTheTube · 14/09/2025 21:23

I meant what has THAT murder (of the young woman) got to do with this thread.

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It's got EVERYTHING to do with this thread (and OPs distorted polarised view of white people ) if you can't see it: the problem is you. Not me.

Skippydoodle · 14/09/2025 21:23

I’m from a mixed family. I agree with what he has said about the cultural/racial differences. I do not agree with all of his views, but often he has talked and quoted with upheld , statistics which are valid.

RidingTheTube · 14/09/2025 21:23

I meant what has THAT murder (of the young woman) got to do with this thread.

BollyKnickerz · 14/09/2025 21:06

RidingTheTube · 14/09/2025 20:44

What has that murder got to do with this thread? Men brutally murder women every day all over the world (black men, white men, black wonen, white women…motivated by racial or religious hatred sometimes, by hatred for women always ) . It is always horrific and frightening.

THIS is a thread about women on Mumsnet defending a PUBLIC figure who was most very definitely a racist.

Shame on you for bringing your ‘save our women’ nonsense here.

What has murder got to do with this thread !?

It's literally about a murder!!!

Only, the OP thinks it's black people that are always the victims and nasty white people don't care.

Iryna zhuravaska: what about all the black people surrounding her (and it literally was only black people ) that never came to a dying stab victims aide. Not even to try to stem the bleeding, or just cradle her as she died.

If the colours were reversed: there'd be riots. We all know that.

So I think it's rather crude timing to start pushing perpetual victimhood and making all white people out to be baddies. It's tiring. Really really tiring .

RidingTheTube · 14/09/2025 20:44

BollyKnickerz · 14/09/2025 20:35

What gives you the right to label white people's views as "white fragility?" You're ok with racism towards whites then clearly? Did you bother to read my post about that poor young woman or do you just pick narratives where your cause is the victimhood?

What has that murder got to do with this thread? Men brutally murder women every day all over the world (black men, white men, black wonen, white women…motivated by racial or religious hatred sometimes, by hatred for women always ) . It is always horrific and frightening.

THIS is a thread about women on Mumsnet defending a PUBLIC figure who was most very definitely a racist.

Shame on you for bringing your ‘save our women’ nonsense here.

BollyKnickerz · 14/09/2025 20:35

VivienneDelacroix · 14/09/2025 20:19

The white fragility on this thread is embarrassing.

OP I've been appalled by the apologists for this man on here. I'm starting to think that the bots have taken over Mumsnet, because no one with an ounce of humanity can believe he was a force for good.

I don't think anyone should be assassinated, but this is the divided world people like Kirk have created. And America has basically free access to guns, which he also defended.

What gives you the right to label white people's views as "white fragility?" You're ok with racism towards whites then clearly? Did you bother to read my post about that poor young woman or do you just pick narratives where your cause is the victimhood?

LakieLady · 14/09/2025 20:28

He was a despicable human being imo, and a dangerous one.

But I found it ironic that if the USA had the strict gun controls that he was so opposed to, he would quite probably still be alive.

Chillyourbeansweeman · 14/09/2025 20:20

ShesTheAlbatross · 14/09/2025 19:27

“Happening all the time in urban America, prowling Blacks go around for fun to go target white people, that’s a fact. It’s happening more and more.” If there’s an issue with racial crime, fine (although black people are more likely to be a victim of street crime than white people). But “prowling blacks”?

“If I see a Black pilot, I’m going to be like, boy, I hope he’s qualified.” For this one, he said he didn’t want to feel this way, but “the left” made him feel this way due to affirmative action. I’m not sure what affirmative action led to hiring unqualified pilots, but anyway. It’s also ridiculous because presumably he didn’t worry about white pilots (or white doctors or whatever) being less competent but more likely to be hired because they were white and male.

Could you link the whole interview/s please. Some context would be helpful.

VivienneDelacroix · 14/09/2025 20:19

The white fragility on this thread is embarrassing.

OP I've been appalled by the apologists for this man on here. I'm starting to think that the bots have taken over Mumsnet, because no one with an ounce of humanity can believe he was a force for good.

I don't think anyone should be assassinated, but this is the divided world people like Kirk have created. And America has basically free access to guns, which he also defended.

Chiseltip · 14/09/2025 19:53

QOrion · 14/09/2025 15:11

I posted this in response to a short thread on Feminism and Women’s Rights but I want more people to see it. I want to have my say, even if I’m late to the conversation, and even if most people don’t care. I don’t expect many replies but maybe I’ll make some people think about what I’m saying.

I guess none of you are black. It’s the only way you can go out of your way to highlight this man’s ’virtues’. I don’t believe anyone is born bad or is irredeemably bad, I guess that’s my Christian upbringing, but I also don’t understand the deification of this man and the need for many people on this website to paint him in the best possible light. He’s not the first public figure to be shot and killed, even this year. If those deaths were even mentioned on Mumsnet, they certainly weren’t given much attention.

I’d never heard of Charlie Kirk before he was shot and his death had little impact on me. I have serious issues in my own life, people are shot and killed in America every day and there is a lot of suffering going on around the world, a lot of atrocities committed. It didn’t seem to be an incident that affected me in any significant way, even when I discovered his position on transgender ideology. I share essentially the same position on transgender ideology with many people I don’t want to be associated with.

Then I read his comments about black people. I can’t wax lyrical about how Charlie Kirk was ‘decent’ and ‘respectful’. How, ‘Isn’t it nice he gave his political opponents a platform’. And I can’t feel any kind of kinship with people who, knowing what he’s said about black people, still feel compelled to highlight his good qualities.

Let me be clear: I don’t believe he should have been killed. I don’t even support the death penalty in any circumstance, so I can hardly support Charlie Kirk being killed. But I am learning, not for the first time, that Mumsnetters in general, and users of this subforum (FWR) tend to ignore black people and our concerns, until we are useful. Whether that is taking cases to court when much is made of the claimant’s ethnic heritage (why?) or the perennial ‘transgenderism is womanface, it’s offensive like blackface’.

You have no idea and I think it is possible you will never understand just how much slights about my ethnic heritage cut deep. Slights to my womanhood are pretty trivial in comparison. I think this is something white women will never understand. So, you go on singing the virtues of Charlie Kirk. We’ll be here the next time you need to exploit us for your own purposes.

What on earth are you on about?

Try reframing your post with an actual question.

BollyKnickerz · 14/09/2025 19:53

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Stop calling people "cunts" : it's not big and it's not clever and it doesn't wash.

A man died that had controversial views. He was still a husband and a father and a son. Two little girls now grow up without a daddy. A young woman is widowed.

Disagreeing with someone's views is fine. Shouting the word "cunt" about a murder victim (who's crime was saying things lots of people disagreed with ) is not tasteful at all.

Petrolitis · 14/09/2025 19:49

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