To be angry with DH for not coming home?

I don’t understand the refusal to face time either.

Do you trust him?

Is he in Perth @Coffeeoftheworld? I’m happy to make a sign first thing and picket the footpath outside his hotel or work foyer (which would be better as everyone would see it) saying “so and so, ring your boss”.

No. OP works but she has had to ask her boss for time off to be with their daughter in hospital.

Sorry crossed posts. Something is definitely on if he has done only 2 voice calls and not one video.

Going home early or not is a judgement call and it's hard to say it's unreasonable without knowing everything that went into the decision. However, in his place I'd definitely be wishing I could be home and wanting my daughter to know that and spending all of my downtime worried about her and trying to see what I can do to help. Refusing to face time (or similar) because of the time difference is kind of shockingly mean especially as she is ASKING for him!!

The time difference is 7 - 9 hours (ahead for him) - manageable in various ways as his whole afternoon and evening will be normal daytime hours for her and it's unlikely that he isn't getting any kind of breaks while he's working. He can FaceTime (or call) from wherever, set the background to default if needed. Is he at least regularly communicating with her via email or something like that?

Also, in his boss's place - and I have been there - I can't imagine telling him he can't go home if he asks or punishing him for it after the fact. I'm not sure if he's worried about letting down his company or if he's worried he'll be passed over for future assignments/promotions or sidelined if he doesn't put everything aside for the good of the company, but most people don't hold such rigid views (anymore).

OP says her child will be in hospital for at least a week and DH won’t even face time his daughter.

Has he not spoken to your DD once since she's been admitted?

Convenient

Maybe you should ask his boss?

The rather big difference being you are in the UK and he is in Australia..

Not FaceTiming is a big red flag …when my ex refused to FaceTime it was because he was on holiday with OW…..

I wouldn’t be worried he’s not at work. I’d be worried that outside work hours he’s staying somewhere/with someone he shouldn’t. Why else can he talk but no video?

That’s odd. Why is he choosing not to answer FaceTime calls?

Agreed. Also as the wife I wouldn’t be asking him to come home either. I’d tell him stay out there for the moment and il keep you informed of the condition changes. But for now may as well stay where you are.

Can understand him being reluctant to come home but to not facetime is really not OK.

Regardless if he should come home, I’m concerned with the fact that he doesn’t seem to want to have any contact with you whilst away….
If I was it was me and my child was in hospital and I was having to rely on a friend to have our other child I would want my husband to say he’d try and shorten the trip/talk to his boss about departing early, is he essential to whatever the project is over there, will it affect his job if he doesn’t stay? Without knowing the full situation it’s tricky, if you are heavily reliant on his wage and he would lose his job by departing early it doesn’t make sense for him leave early if you’ve got everything covered and your DD is not seriously unwell.
If he’s not essential to the project, you can manage without his wage then I would be expecting him to realise he should be at home.
I don’t understand the not face timing because he needs his rest… surely he understands that you will be getting minimal sleep and your stress levels must be through the roof!
He can be supportive whilst still being away, FaceTiming etc and I think he’s being totally selfish by being away and washing his hands of the whole thing. I’m not sure I’d easily forgive it tbh

Can you get a friend to call his work and request to speak to him? See Al what they say? If they say 'sorry he is working in Australia' then fine. If they say 'sorry he is on annual leave then.....'

Something doesn’t add up! Hope your daughter makes a speedy recovery. And I Hope you get to the bottom of whatever your husband is doing! He’s clearly showed his priorities and it’s not you or your daughter ! Sorry op. You both deserve better xx

This is making me think he’s saying somewhere he shouldn’t be. I can’t think of any reason someone who could voice call wouldn’t video call their sick child. Except for bad reasons.

Sorry OP.

Up until this I was on the fence, as without more detail about the reason for the admission or the likely outcome it's hard to say whether flying back from Australia would be helpful.

The time difference can be inconvenient but workable, and not wanting to do a facetime because he needs to rest is completely ridiculous.