To be angry with DH for not coming home?

I certainly wouldn’t be providing updates he requested - like you’re his PA.
Is his boss in Australia too?

That doesn't mean he's not with another woman.

Sorry OP, but I would be highly suspicious if I were you.

I can understand why you are upset OP but in his defence, if your daughter has a chronic illness and has regular treatment intervention, I can see his angle.
Not wanting to face time is pretty thoughtless.
As others have said, this is about context. I hope your daughter is better soon.
As you have said, he is normally a good husband and father.

She won't forget this and neither will you.
Too busy 'resting*' to facetime his child when she is in hospital. WTF?
I'm not usually an LTB poster but I'd be telling him not to bother coming back

• That's probably a euphemism for shagging his colleague.

The face timing should be a no brainer, even just a phone call. It would take minutes. Flying home depends on lots of other factors.

He won’t FaceTime ,something not right here

I wouldn't expect him to come back from Australia I was in hospital all the time as a kid the other side of the country so only ever had one parent at a time there as it wasn't practical. I however would expect him to facetime

This

I can understand not coming back if your DD will be okay but his refusal to FaceTime Time is selfish and very suspicious. Poor lamb needs to "rest", when does he think you get to rest with your child in hospital?

There's something very wrong about this.

Something about this seems very off. I can’t work out what it is.

either she’s not that seriously sick so he is brushing it aside as he’s busy , or he’s not where he says he is.

honestly the not FaceTimeing is so weird. What’s a five minute video with your kid ?

are you absolutely sure he is where he says he is?

im a bit of a sod sometimes, I would be tempted to ring his boss and say you had been trying to ring him but cant get through and the child is in hospital, just to see if he’s actually at work!

I think it's wrong that he won't facetime and he needs to do this.
I don't think he should end his trip though unless it reaches the point DD is on life support and they are asking people to come in and say their goodbyes.

I wouldn't expect him to come home, but 100% he should FaceTime her.

I can't think of a single reason not to.

I would rush back in this scenario, yes. I know with great certainty that DH would not. I also know with great certainty that it would be me that my DC would want. I don’t think they would even ask for him.

He needs rest? Is he fucking 90? What on earth is his job that hes so exhausted that he cant answer a call from his wife and hospitalised child? When are you getting a rest?? You have the energy to call when you are literally dealing with a very poorly child, and a toddler. He is a selfish, selfish shit and regardless of him not coming home, I'd not be able to forgive him for his 'rest" comments. Tear him a fucking new one. No in fact, let one of us write a message for you

I would not expect him to come home, it’s horrible when your DCs are ill and bad enough for hospital when your use to working as a team, I’ve been there when DH has been overseas.

You know it’s related to her chronic illness but not life threatening, if it was then I’d expect him on the first flight home. However I could see the difficulties he’s facing, his employer would have paid a lot to send him there, there will be other people in Australia who have accommodated his visit and quite often business trips are not 9-5 days, there could be all sorts of meetings and events planned at various times.

My biggest issue would be the FaceTiming. My DH works away a lot, it dosnt matter how tired he is he will wake up in the middle of night just to say good morning to my DDs, they are allowed to wake him when they get up regardless of time and he will always make 10 mins available at a time that appropriate to ask how they are to say good night. This is where your DH is out of order.

I agree with this

Is his Boss a woman? Hence the not asking excuse

Do his work trips include colleagues?

I can understand him not flying home from Australia as it would be a very long trip, but refusing phone calls and video calls is utterly bizarre.

I dont blame you for being angry. It does sound like he's not that bothered about either of you. Serious lack of concern on his part.

I wouldn't be worried by him not coming back from Australia, as its not critical.

I would be massively concerned by his refusal to FaceTime.

Given that he's in Australia, I understand the not coming back if the hospital admission isn't life threatening but the refusal to FaceTime is awful.

I would not be expecting him to fly back but the FaceTime thing is not on.

He won’t even call her? That’s disgusting. Poor DD. He’s still a parent no matter where in the world he is. I’d be reconsidering my relationship with him.