To be angry with DH for not coming home?

Some do as it gives them an easy "out".

OP I take it you DH has a really really important job that requires loads of rest so he is on top form. Otherwise I can’t understand at all I have clients in Australia and we manage to schedule meetings so the time difference is a huge red herring.

I also have a DH who has always travelled as part of his job and who doesn’t call daily as this was not possible in the early days and so is not how we operate. However if/when any of the DC were unwell or just needed him he would make himself available at the earliest opportunity.

I can’t say whether he would have come home in this instance as I don’t have all the facts

Not necessarily.

Even if he's not cheating, there is NO good reason for him to refuse to FaceTime his 7yo while she's in the hospital.

But they also don’t want to get caught having the affair. Much like women who have affairs.

“You will FaceTime our daughter now, or you will find your belongings on the street when you get home”

I wouldn’t expect him to fly back from Australia unless she was in a critical condition, but no direct contact is appalling.

As with others, I can understand not flying back from Australia for a known condition.

The not video calling is a massive red flag, and judging by your trusting nature op, he knows you won't question him.

There is absolutely zero reason, he can not pick up the phone to call his child in hospital.

Sorry op

I would stop communicating with him now.

No texts or messages. No calls.

The only message or call I would reply to is if he's ringing to actually speak to or ft your DD.

The fact that there's definitely a decent window of time where he could call or ft and still get his rest (FFS!) would make me wonder what the actual real reason is.

Where is he staying, what is his accommodation set up?

Thank you, I missed that update.

If she is only in for, probably, a week, then it's not serious and there is absolutely no way I'd be expecting him to come all the way back from Australia - that's ridiculous. In fact, I probably wouldn't even have told him about it until he got back. Sometimes it just isn't sensible or practical for a person to drop everything.

Because mem having affairs don't tend to care about their children.

I’m sure it’s entirely possible to be shagging a colleague but still find time to FaceTime - the two activities have nothing to do with each other. The OP has said nothing to suggest cheating, and it’s frustrating for the thread to go off at a tangent

I'd be livid if this was my DH.

Having child in hospital (been there,
got several t-shirts) is stressful even when there are two of you. Our DD averages 5 day stays so that's a long time to be with an unwell child.

You must be exhausted with it all, and then with your other DC being with a friend as well...your DH is being incredibly unfair to you all.

He should absolutely approach management in these circumstances; as a manager, I'd be getting him home as quickly as I could to be with his family.

Not Facetiming because he needs to rest...what a twat.

He is utterly unreasonable not to facetime at least. I would be very upset, he sounds awful.
But you are majorly unreasonable to expect him to fly back if it is not life altering.

If he had something to hide, wouldn’t he be making a better attempt at hiding it, by acting normally?

OP says she's 7 and that their 3 year old is having to stay with a friend.

Well, that makes it difficult to advise.
How old is she?

He could easily be sleeping with a colleague, or someone he's met out there.

Why would he not FaceTime his DD in hospital unless he has something to hide?

Its a chronic condition that means a weeks hospital visit. Not life and death.
No I wouldn't expect dh to come home from Australia when on a work trip.

Had similar with own dc with dh working away when they were young. I worked out contingency plans with friends and parents flyong out to help out if needed (short flight away)

Your husband is being a total prick. No matter how ‘tired / busy’ he is / claims to be, a video call is the least you should expect. How on earth he expects to just rock home two weeks later beggars belief. I can understand not rushing home if this is manageable (albeit scary), but a video a few times a day, and proactively caring, sorting out what he can… that’s a diff matter. I assume he hasn’t been working on the weekend- what has contact been like the last couple days?

Yeah, I’m quite sure he’s travelled around 10,000 miles, at his own expense, to cheat on his wife 🙄

The fact that he won’t FaceTime absolutely stinks op. He’s too busy “resting”? I call bullshit. He’s lying.

This does NOT mean he is shagging a colleague.

I honestly wouldn't be concerned at the not flying home. Saying that, I had dh in the military and so used to dealing with things alone and not expecting more so my view is probably a little off. Whilst serious enough to be in hospital though, but not life threatening, I would probably still handle it alone. But..and this is a big but, my dh would have done everything in his power to face time me, even from operational tours if our dc was sick.
I'd find lack of calls disconcerting whether there's a sick child or not. I think there is something much deeper going in your marriage. That being said, if that is his line and he's sticking to it then I would turn all my focus onto dc whilst unwell. I'd be inclined not even to update via message. When your dc is discharged and on the mend, then consider your next move and how you address what is, at minimum, such selfish behaviour. This is not how a partnership works. This is not the act of a caring father or husband.
I hope your dd gets better very soon.

The not face timing definitely doesn't pass the sniff test here OP.

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this on top of everything else. 😞 x.

This. There is a time difference but even if he is on the east coast you can set a time. Your DD will remember - do you have to tell him that?