To be angry with DH for not coming home?

Meanwhile the OP is minding her child, calling in favours from her friend to mind her 3 year old and risking her own "hard work to provide for the family" by having to take up to 2 weeks off her job - like you do realise she has a job too???

Jesus the bar for men is so low for some women.

He doesn't sound too bright so no.

I would never forgive him putting his 'rest' before his hospitalised daughter.

Ten to 20 minutes of FT is all it would take.

I would want to see her to be reassured. He's not even wanting that. He sound like an utter prick.

Don't be ridiculous, it isn't that simple. There will be a whole crew and actors out there for filming, and as a Director, he can't just fuck off back home without causing a big issue at work.

Right.... 👍

Nobody doesn't have time to send a text message. Does he not shit? He could do it whilst sitting on the toilet. Does he not eat? He could do it whilst he's having breakfast. Something dodgy going on here. I would be in bits if I was stuck half way across the world and my child was in hospital.

Leave him to it. No updates and don't answer his messages or take his calls.

When he gets back and asks you why you ignored him you simply say 'You were not my priority and DD obviously wasn't yours'

Maybe he needs help finding the words.

Suggest to him that he goes to whoever the relevant person is and says the following:

"I'm sorry, I'm going to have to fly back to the UK early. My older daughter is seriously ill in hospital and my wife is with her, so I need to look after our younger child."

It really is quite simple. Unpleasant maybe, but simple.

I've worked jobs (not saying what exactly) when I worked from 6am until midnight, 7 days per week for 6 weeks in a row. I had about 45 mins travel time each way too, I was fucking shattered. My parents and friends didn't hear from me in all that time, I was working in another country, (didn't have a mobile phone in those days either). @GerberasAreMyFavouriteFlowers so no Gerberas, sometimes people do not have 10 mins.

I agree that she should call and FT but coming home is unreasonable if your DD isn’t at significant risk. If you want a guy that can rush home just to help parent or to offer comfort, he’d need to have a low-paid, low-responsibility job where he works near home. He can’t just nip back from Australia and return the following day. His absence will affect a lot as a film director and whilst I’m sure his manager would excuse him for an absolute emergency, I doubt they’d be very happy in this scenario. If you want to have this kind of career (and as a family, enjoy all that comes with that), you have to be professional and take your career very seriously. It’s not like working in Asda and needing a few hour off.

No excuse for not calling/texting or FaceTiming, as long as you’re not constantly moaning about him not coming home. If you are and he has to focus on work, I can entirely understand him not wanting direct contact.

Do you have family who can support you for a bit or come to visit your DD whilst you go home to sleep and wash? If so, I’d be making use of them and accepting the circumstances with your DH as being part and parcel of him having a high-flying career.

@Coffeeoftheworld where are you in the UK? Maybe one of us can pop by and take you for a coffee whilst DD is resting

Must be nice to live in your simplistic world!

Exactly

My dp could literally not leave his job in the next town if DD was in hospital at death's door. Some jobs are like that.

My ex WOULDN'T have come home from next door if DS 's life was in danger, hence the ex part.

It's Australia, for an existing condition, the plan is made, and he couldn't alter the outcome by being here.

But not face timing could cost him his marriage...

Not even that. He's too busy to respond to a text. He has time to read them. But not say "how's dd?".

I missed that. Thanks.

The being a substandard parent job. He’ll be OK though, there’s loads of women here that love men like this and calling other women snowflakes 😅

Tell him only updates will be on FT. Ignore all text messages until he calls you

This is the bit that would have me rethinking the whole thing. The lack of support.

It's a job. Kids come first. Sometimes being an adult with responsibilities involves having hard conversations and having to let others down. But it shouldn't be your kids.

Planes are literally available 🙂

Never mind, I guess we have slightly different parenting standards. Mine are not actually that high, so always interesting when others are lower.

@ReadingSoManyThreads what job is so busy that you can’t make a 10 minute phone call in 24 hours

Do people really play tit for tat in this way?

They do. Hence the extremely high divorce rate in this country.

Lol 10 minutes..... come on 🤣

Well then count yourself lucky that you've never worked a job that is that busy.