To not get up when my DSD wakes up?

At 6 no way would either of us be getting up, quite old enough to operate the remote control and help themselves to food. Obviously being dropped off is a bit different

Actually neither of you have to get up. I told mine please go down stairs, turn tv on (with rules about what to watch). Grab a banana if youre hungry, drink water (ensure cup access).

Your husband should arrange this and be responsible if she needs anything. Your husband sounds annoying.

I would be so angry about this. You tell him to let you sleep and close the door. What a selfish man!

He's being pathetic. She's his child, his responsibility to do the shit bits of parenting. And yes I'm a step mum and have a DS who my DH is step dad to. Trying to force step parents into a full on parent role is pointless and unhelpful. Step parents can and should foster good relationships with their step kids but the hard bit are on the actual parent.

If he's like this with his child, imagine how he will be with your child...

This was my first thought as well. Looks like he already thinks you’re the automatic and default parent.

Even if it was your shared child, both getting up early with her would be totally unnecessary. DH tends to take the hit on the early mornings more than I do honestly, I just love my bed more than him haha, but I’ll also make sure he gets a lie in at least one day at the weekend (and I tend to do more of the night time wake ups so it evens out).

I’d also find the ‘we need to do everything together all the time’ thing overbearing and controlling honestly - of course you don’t!

I wouldn’t want to get up for a child who wasn’t mine, but I also wouldn’t be in a relationship with someone who had a child if I wasn’t prepared to take on a proper parenting role.

You’re just setting yourself up for a world of resentment and the children will feel it as they get older.

When my DD was little me and my exh took it in turns for a lie in. We didn't both get up with her. The onus is on him as its his daughter but I would be worried about this. If you have your own its fairly obvious what will happen....

No, this is really pathetic. This isn't about him wanting you and her to bond, it's about him being lazy and selfish and avoiding his responsibilities. 'Tired and didn't get a good night's sleep'???

He will be 1000x worse when it is your child

🤣🤣🤣 I call bs on that. Its him wanting you to manage his daughter the lazy fucker.

I would think very carefully about having a child with this man.

Every word of this.

Time for some boundaries and a serious conversation about the future.

We have raised 3 chilldren and none of them got to decide which parent had a lie in or got up. Parents are in charge not a young child.
We would very rarely both get up with an early raiser. No need to.

Most parents with young children are decent enough to share weekend lie ins, i know we did when ours were little. Your husband is trying to manipulate you and getting his dd involved, you don't have to get up.

No she doesn't- HE wants you to be with her when she wakes up! 😆 You're only upstairs in bed - you haven't left the house - she can wait a few hours while HER PARENT parents her!!

He thinks parenting is YOUR job even when its not your child. He is manipulating you via emotional abuse. I highly recommend you look it up - its behaviour designed to change your behaviour even when you don't want to, ie keep waking you up so you get up, or leaving the door open to force you up due to noise.

This is your future with him, do you really want that?

His child, his responsibility. Clearly you have a good relationship with her, and you 'did your bit' yesterday (not that you have 'a bit' to do, but...) She's not your kid. She's his responsibility.
Has it been an issue before? Is this a foretaste of what's to come if you have your own DC? Maybe reconsider this - if he's ready to pass responsibility on to you for a child who isn't yours, he will definitely be doing it if you have one together.

Even if it was your child, you wouldn’t need to both get up.

Honestly how do you think having a baby with him will go down? Can you see this ending well?

If it was your bio child you’d still take turns to have a lie in if you could, especially if one has a more intense work pattern!
maybe you (already) watch dsd or do some crafts for an hour in the afternoon so dp gets a little downtime?

He's going to go back to bed isn't he? Id get up and go out me.

He's bairn, his get up time. You've got the lack of sleep to come if you're trying to breed **

He wants you to offer to take over - soon it'll be him who doesn't get up with his daughter at all because he's too tired, and you doing it all. Some men think parenting is a woman's job and remarry/ move in a new girlfriend expecting that to mean they pass over the childcare to her.

Don't have a baby with him unless you're happy to be doing 95% of everything for both children.

What a selfish man he is. "I'm up so I'm going to make sure Frozened is awake too". He's behaving like a petulant child. It's unnecessary for you both to be up with her and I would get really cross with him about this. Lay down some expectations now OP!