To not get up when my DSD wakes up?

I think this a red flag - I would consider your relationship with him

Even if you are sharing care of your DSD with your DH, why on earth would you BOTH get up at 6am? That's bollocks. which suggets to me that no, it's not about"family time" it's about him wanting an easier life at 6am becaue you take the pressure away from him having to entertain her.

If you really want to share things, then take turns to get up early. Both of you getting up at the crack of dawn is crazy. And will be ridiculous when you hou do have a child of your own.

Or he is envisioning OP getting up alone.
If he's genuinely exhausted up 7 days a week, I would offer to do one day, every 2nd weekend, I'd take a day nap later.

Why are you picking her up from school and providing free babysitting?

He should finish early or pay for wraparound care.

So if you have a baby is he envisioning you both getting up every time the baby needs feeding in the night because if the baby’s up, you should both be up having ‘family time’? I doubt it.

TBF to your DH though, most co parenting arrangements tend to split weekends (e.g. every other weekend) If he is finding every weekend tough, this should be a convo with the ex not with you.

The mum might be working at the weekends.
Not all jobs are Mon-Fri.

Op, does he ever get a lie in? Is he getting up early every weekday for work, then getting up early every weekend with his daughter?
Perhaps he is genuinely exhausted this morning if he didn't sleep well. Does he usually indicate that he would like you do it it or is this a one off?

First of all you are allowed to get out of bed to close a door, it doesn’t count as getting up.

Second of all, here’s a tip for him, if you are the default parent for an early riser and need your 9 hours kip, then you plan your bedtime to match their getting up time.

I expect you will find that he is hoarding these not getting up mornings to use against you when you have your own child, when they will become “ You never got up when xxxx was an early riser, so now it’s my turn for a lie in.” He will of course have forgotten the early weekend mornings when you got up, the school mornings when you got up, the school holiday mornings when you got up, the days he was a bit poorly with man flu when you got up, the days when he was off with his mates on a jolly when you got up and parented his child for the day…..

Hell no! I didn't get up wth my own at 6am when they were 6! They are perfectly capable of amusing themselves in their rooms for an hour or so at 6am with books or toys.
This isn't a toddler you're talking about, it's a child of reading age.

More worryingly, your partner is trying to guilt trip you into getting up to take care of HIS child. The comments about not sleeping well, the idea she'd like you to be up with her as a family... nope! That's him trying to get you on side with being up at a horrible time of morning. Before you know it it will be "no point in both of us losing a sleep in" and "taking turns" for a lie in, and suddenly you are parenting his daughter.

This is a snapshot of how he'll be if you have a baby together, OP.

If you have a baby with him, he will take full advantage when you get up with your shared dc because he will be all,

“What difference does it make you getting up with dsd? You’re up anyway with dc. Zzzzzzzzzzzz”

You’ll more than likely be the one up with dc every time as well. There will be no taking turns. So you’ll also then always be the one up with dsd too.

I can write the script because I was that mum/stepmum and my ex was a pathetic man like that.

Would you? I wouldn’t.

You absolutely don't need to get up and don't let him guilt you into believing otherwise.

More seriously, think long and hard about having children with him - he already thinks you should get up with your DSD - what will happen when it's your own child and he thinks "well, Frozened is up anyway so I'll just not bother".

Hmm it’s tricky. We take it in turns with my own son. As she’s your SD, I would maybe let husband have a lie in once in a while?

you don’t need to get up op if u don’t want to, and you can see where this is going when it comes to having your own baby with him.
The emotional blackmail of saying DSD wants you to get up with us (if she even did say that, if I was hjm would be saying you are tired and will be up later, and try and distract from that) and him purposefully leaving your bedroom door open so you’ll get woken up anyway. You can tell him wants you to be doing the early mornings

Both of our kids are ours and we live together. Only one of us will get up to suoervise when they wake up at the weekend. They wake up EARLY, we both work full time and there is no need for two tired adults to be up at dawn. There isnt much to do at that time anyway, in the summer you can go for a walk but as winter draws in then it is perfectly acceptable to give them a slice of toast or a pieve of fruit or whatever, turn the TV on, grab a blanket and snooze on the sofa for an hour until a more acceptable getting up time comes around to start the day, so it's not even hard. He can get up, make a drink and snack and then chill on the sofa for a couple of hours.

I wouldn't want to get up - some of us are not morning people! As others have said, it's strange that she never spends a weekend with her mother - maybe DH should re-negotiate this?
Some men are lazy too keen to let the woman do the work - this could be you if you have a child.

I bet she's perfectly fine to have him to herself for these few hours, then hang with you both for the rest of the day.

Ignore the big baby and let him carry on. He has the rest of the week to catch up on his sleep.

You don't need to both get up with her.
Have a lie in, you deserve it!

Do not breed with this man. You will be expected to do everything.

I don't think i would be having dc with him if this is his attitude

There is a step parents board. Maybe go hang out there before having a baby with this man.

does he expect you to pick up all his parenting.? How much does he do around the house?

I would have a very clear convo about this asap. Sulky men are NOT sexy

I didn't get up with my own DC their Dad did. It's called parenting. Sounds like your DP needs parenting by you. May be a factor in his last relationship ending. Being a parent is hard work. He's avoiding it. And why is he saying DSD wants you to get up with her. What's this a guilt trip. Tell him to do one!

Er, why exactly?

He's manipulative and wants you to do his parenting for him so he can sleep.

This is a preview of what life is going to be like if you have a baby with him. When you are on maternity leave, he's going to shift more and more of the parenting to you.

I've been the mum when I've had partners live with me. I've got up when my DS rises super tired because in all honesty I've hit the hay too late after enjoying an evening with partner after he goes to bed.
I've never asked or expected them to get up with me as it is my child and I would be wanting the lie in if it was his. Having said that of course I was jealous of him being able to sleep whilst I walked around like a zombie.
You're in all your right to lay in but anyone sleeping in the house when you can't can wind you up and sleep deprivation can make us more touchy! I really did appreciate when my partner got up with me, it felt more of a team like were in it together.

He keeps coming in and saying he is tired, that he didn’t sleep well.

How would you getting up as well help with this anyway?
No, he means you should get up to entertain DSD and he should get a lie-in.