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Should I stop what I’m doing to rescue him?

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Typicalwave · 14/09/2025 08:50

My partner has gone out without his keys again and is knocking on the door. He does this every time he takes our dog gif a walk. We have a spare key in a lock box. He refuses to yse it. He thinks I should stop what I’m doing and find and let him in each time. He thinks im lazy and unreasonable to expect a man in his 50’s to take his keys or use the spare key tgat we have for incidents such as this.

AIBU to tell him to take his keys/use the spare?

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Tigerthatcameforbrunch · 14/09/2025 08:57

I would forget keys easily due to dyslexia, so I developed a leave the house routine to make sure it never happens. There's no excuse to do this repeatedly and he needs to fix it when it happens

VickyEadieofThigh · 14/09/2025 08:54

ChocolateMagnum · 14/09/2025 08:51

YANBU.

Stick to your guns! Maybe go for a long poo or have a bath next time he goes out so you literally can't answer the door? Or go out yourself!!!!

Yes, I'd be doing the 'take myself out for a couple of hours when he goes out' option. He'd learn to take a key - or just use the lock box.

MarvellousMonsters · 14/09/2025 08:53

Weaponised incompetence, he’s expecting you to look after him. Useless. Next time he goes out, go out too….

toomuchfaff · 14/09/2025 08:53

Petulant child behaviour... or is he senile and cant remember the number?

Teachingagain · 14/09/2025 08:52

Quickly jump in the shower or bath and he will figure it out himself.

HappySeven · 14/09/2025 08:52

He thinks you're the lazy one? Did he say that? I guess if you're in the house then I can see why he thinks you'd let him in but if he's suggesting you're lazy I wouldn't be helping him.

ChocolateMagnum · 14/09/2025 08:51

YANBU.

Stick to your guns! Maybe go for a long poo or have a bath next time he goes out so you literally can't answer the door? Or go out yourself!!!!

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