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Feeling so crap!!

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annon20251 · 14/09/2025 07:12

Ok so I feel utter shit about myself, hubby , friends etc always say I shouldn't I look great etc but I generally look in the mirror and see myself completely different! To the point today I went very OTT when my husband was talking to a women at football about some volunteer work for our son, she was a young blonde and in my stupid brain I automatically thought he must fancy her and chatting her up!!

Yes yes I know stupid of me BUT how can I stop myself feeling like this???

If im honest I wish I could just take medication to numb all feelings but...

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annon20251 · 14/09/2025 08:00

PremiumMode · 14/09/2025 07:57

Sounds like a personality trait if you know you look fine but want reassurance all the time?

I had to distance myself from a friend who was like this, she was exhausting, always wanting compliments.

She'd be like "oh God I look sooooo fat don't I? What do you think? What size would you guess these jeans are?"

She was very slim and she knew it.

Her husband ended up leaving her, for someone who traditionally wasn't as good looking and a larger size but was really happy being herself and thus less hard work and more fun!

Go away. I dont seek reassurance nor do I bloody ask questions all the time !!

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annon20251 · 14/09/2025 07:58

MouseCheese87 · 14/09/2025 07:53

How unnecessarily mean. Everyone goes through low points at times of life. She's in need of some support, why shouldn't her husband support her? She might seem needy to you but her husband loves her and should care to know how she's feeling.

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Thank you. Its so refreshing to hear from genuinely nice people. I will seek therapy because trust me nothing is more mentally draining that how I feel right now and I dont have a reason why... thank you again

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MyZippyPlayer · 14/09/2025 07:58

MouseCheese87 · 14/09/2025 07:53

How unnecessarily mean. Everyone goes through low points at times of life. She's in need of some support, why shouldn't her husband support her? She might seem needy to you but her husband loves her and should care to know how she's feeling.

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Sometimes being blunt with people necessary.

The OP needs a therapist and support from a husband isnt going to help here as it sounds beyond family support.

PremiumMode · 14/09/2025 07:57

Sounds like a personality trait if you know you look fine but want reassurance all the time?

I had to distance myself from a friend who was like this, she was exhausting, always wanting compliments.

She'd be like "oh God I look sooooo fat don't I? What do you think? What size would you guess these jeans are?"

She was very slim and she knew it.

Her husband ended up leaving her, for someone who traditionally wasn't as good looking and a larger size but was really happy being herself and thus less hard work and more fun!

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annon20251 · 14/09/2025 07:57

MyZippyPlayer · 14/09/2025 07:49

You sound like hard work and needy and clearly need to seek therapy to sort your negative mindset out.

You dont need medication, you need therapy.

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Oh dear you're one of those ones.... glad I'm not suicidal because comments like this cause push someone over the edge.

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MouseCheese87 · 14/09/2025 07:53

MyZippyPlayer · 14/09/2025 07:49

You sound like hard work and needy and clearly need to seek therapy to sort your negative mindset out.

You dont need medication, you need therapy.

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How unnecessarily mean. Everyone goes through low points at times of life. She's in need of some support, why shouldn't her husband support her? She might seem needy to you but her husband loves her and should care to know how she's feeling.

Eeehbyeck · 14/09/2025 07:51

Christ these responses are harsh!
agree, get yourself some therapy as your appearance whatever that looks like adjectively, isn’t your worth nor should it be at the forefront of how you feel about yourself

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MyZippyPlayer · 14/09/2025 07:49

annon20251 · 14/09/2025 07:48

And yes I actually do exercise and eat very well but I just feel utter crap! Maybe I should just not mention it again and try to suppress it ? So that they think im ok and not to bother them?

You sound like hard work and needy and clearly need to seek therapy to sort your negative mindset out.

You dont need medication, you need therapy.

2015pls · 14/09/2025 07:49

annon20251 · 14/09/2025 07:48

And yes I actually do exercise and eat very well but I just feel utter crap! Maybe I should just not mention it again and try to suppress it ? So that they think im ok and not to bother them?

So weight is good? Hair healthy and cut? Nails tidy? Look after skin and teeth?

in that case, try therapy

2015pls · 14/09/2025 07:48

annon20251 · 14/09/2025 07:47

They dont need propping me up! But I understand why you would say that.

Yes i have considered therapy. Would setraline help maybe ?

hubby , friends etc always say I shouldn't I look great etc

that sounds like propping up

Setraline is for depression

what is your exercise like? Do you look after yourself?

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annon20251 · 14/09/2025 07:48

And yes I actually do exercise and eat very well but I just feel utter crap! Maybe I should just not mention it again and try to suppress it ? So that they think im ok and not to bother them?

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annon20251 · 14/09/2025 07:47

They dont need propping me up! But I understand why you would say that.

Yes i have considered therapy. Would setraline help maybe ?

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2015pls · 14/09/2025 07:41

Must be exhausting for your husband and friends to be constantly propping you up OP.

Maybe therapy?

Do you exercise? Look after yourself?