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She is asking for too much

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AmyJahabee · 13/09/2025 19:26

I’m a single parent (two under 10) and have no help at all in terms of childcare nothing. I work full time. I have no family around and kids dad is absent and friends who are not bothered to help. So I don’t ask for childcare help but have a child minder that I pay as and when needed.

A friend of mine randomly offered me help three weeks ago to look after my kids whilst I’m at work, I was going to pay the child minder but she said I will help and our kids can play together.

the issue now is two days ago she ran me asking for me to look after her two girls under 10 for a whole weekend sleepover as they have a party to attend on Saturday. She will drop kids on Friday and pick up Sunday afternoon. she then mentioned that her youngest (6year old) still wets the bed and I have to keep getting up to take her toilet , I have accepted but thinking about it I feel I can only managed the kids to come on Saturday instead of Friday. As I would be really exhausted to look after and entertain 4 kids under 10 for the weekend.

To add she always have family looking after her kids for a week, weekends etc. as for me my kids never been for a sleepover

OP posts:
2015pls · 13/09/2025 19:36

Presumably you’d have had to pay the childminder anyway?

2015pls · 13/09/2025 19:31

You have accepted? Well that was silly mistake

big girl pants on op

“that’s a bit much but happy to have them for the day)

AmyJahabee · 13/09/2025 19:30

@LiamNeesonIsADerryGirl exactly my thoughts which is not nice at all

OP posts:
FuzzyWolf · 13/09/2025 19:29

I think it was always obvious that she wanted this arrangement because it would shit her. I would reciprocate on this occasion and then don’t accept help from her again. She’s only offering help so she can get what she feels you owe her at a later date.

LiamNeesonIsADerryGirl · 13/09/2025 19:28

I think she has set you up so she can ask for this favour. Seems convenient that she offered to look after your kids a few weeks before she needs someone to look after her.