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I am scared my husband will be beaten or worse

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Flightsandfeelings · 13/09/2025 17:38

I am married to a man who is brown and from Asia, he's been in UK 10 years and is a citizen. I am English and have always lived in the UK.
We are leaving where we live to move closer to my parents, which I am happy about for many reasons one being where we live right now is an incredibly hostile and racist place. One of the worst in all of the UK and has been for some time.
The area we are moving to is nice enough and we should be safe in our home l, which we aren't really now.

I am scared everyday when my husband goes out that he will be assaulted for being brown with an accent. I am also scared the same will be the case for when we move with the uptake in angry, mindless fake-news concerning people who look like him.

He is shouted at and people are aggressive already and we've both seen how it has gotten worse. Where we live people are burnt of their homes for not being white so my view of all this is coloured by that but not unfairly so.

OP posts:
MellowPinkDeer · 13/09/2025 17:45

I’m utterly horrified that this is how you feel OP, I m so sorry that your community has caused you fear. This is a heartbreaking reminder about how f!cked the UK has become.

I hope you’re happy and safe in your new home

toomuchfaff · 13/09/2025 17:44

People having their homes burnt? Where are you?

Notsuchafattynow · 13/09/2025 17:43

Where do you live currently? I had not realised this was happening in the UK.