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Thread 2 Turn your son in knowing he’d get the death penalty

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Idinnaenah · 13/09/2025 10:11

1st thread is full - this is to continue the convo. My original question is below:

’Kirk’s killer has apparently been turned in by his family - or persuaded to hand himself in.
Trump &’his supporters have been very vocal about getting the death penalty for the shooter.
would YOU hand your child over, knowing that the electric chair would be the likely outcome?

YANBU - I wouldn’t turn him in to die.
YABU - I would he’s a killer and deserves all he gets

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Natsku · 15/09/2025 05:55

I don't think I could give my own child up for the death penalty, but thankfully I don't live in a country where that would be a possibility. But in this case, I reckon giving their son up was the most sensible thing they could do, to protect the rest of their family, and to give him a chance of making a plea deal to avoid the death penalty.

RingoJuice · 15/09/2025 05:34

hadjustaboutenough · 15/09/2025 04:08

What is the point of these threads? A place to demonise a man who was killed for speaking? An opportunity to mock the USA as a whole and anyone who disagrees with you in particular? And now we can extend the obnoxious commentary and picking and pecking to a freshly grieving widow! What fun!

I can imagine that if someone had assassinated my husband, I'd feel fury very quickly, too. Just the thought of someone I love being murdered fills me with rage. Quite frankly, my first thought is that I'd like to see them dead. Even that I'd like to be the one to do it myself. Anger is an acknowledged stage of grief, or didn't you know that?

They don’t want to admit their hateful speech and attitudes towards conservative Christians like Charlie has led to his death.

Instead, they either imply he had it coming because he’s a bad person and deserved it (so basically they think half of the voting public deserves this fate) or they say, lol yeah it’s better off he’s dead but no lol we didn’t do it!

What they don’t understand is Charlie only came to talk to them. The rest of us don’t want to talk to them anymore, we want to politically crush them and exile them from public life.

sashh · 15/09/2025 05:20

Idinnaenah · 13/09/2025 11:02

I’m not the left. MAGA Barbie’s a a demographic. And I find it hard to feel for anyone coming out and making a speech like that - but then they are evangelical Christian’s so for them revenge and fire and brimstone are par for the course.

Please your message is bad enough but the misuse of apostrophes just makes you look poorly educated.

Delphinium20 · 15/09/2025 04:46

I imagine that the dad who turned in his son probably saw the big picture. No way was the murderer of a friend of the most powerful man in the world be at all likely to disappear - and anyone stupid enough to help him wouldn't last long. And harboring his son would mean his other sons would likely feel the wrath of the mob. I'm sure it was an excruciating decision, but even as incompetent as Pash Katel is, the people working for him and other law enforcement would have found him eventually. What do you want for your son: a likely shootout to the death or a prison sentence w a possibly plea taking the death penalty off the table because you made him cooperate. Even w/ the death penalty, no one on death row dies at sentencing, they go through many years of living before it's done. You'd at least get years to see and talk to your son.

I personally find the death penalty abhorrent, but it's not always applied when legally it can be.

hadjustaboutenough · 15/09/2025 04:08

What is the point of these threads? A place to demonise a man who was killed for speaking? An opportunity to mock the USA as a whole and anyone who disagrees with you in particular? And now we can extend the obnoxious commentary and picking and pecking to a freshly grieving widow! What fun!

I can imagine that if someone had assassinated my husband, I'd feel fury very quickly, too. Just the thought of someone I love being murdered fills me with rage. Quite frankly, my first thought is that I'd like to see them dead. Even that I'd like to be the one to do it myself. Anger is an acknowledged stage of grief, or didn't you know that?

RingoJuice · 15/09/2025 03:40

Thegreatestoftheseislove · 15/09/2025 01:03

Hi again @TheJoyOfWriting Looking at Charlie Kirk’s website and his podcasts, I have been unable to find those particular talks, The links you gave are simply a ‘he said this …’ sound bite, but without hearing the context, nuance, and fuller picture I cannot comment on the true intent and meaning. I need to see/hear within full context. The couple of things I can see what he’s saying are 1. the Pill - this makes me a little batshit and I know it can adversely affect many women’s equilibrium. 2. Women over 30 are, biologically speaking, not in their prime for continuation of the species. Not so long ago a woman was regarded as a geriatric mother to be pregnant at 28.

Don’t forget he met his wife when she was 29 and married her at 32 (he was at least five years younger than her).

So what he was saying was probably more nuanced. I have seen it among my own friends, the pool of good men shrinks as you get older. Because the good ones get snapped up so quickly and you are left with fewer choices. A lot of young men won’t consider an older woman for whatever reason, certainly I never considered an older man (mid 30s seems old when you are that age). I wonder if he ever addressed the ‘forever boyfriend’ syndrome, however. Because ime that is one of the biggest hurdles to marriage.

TheJoyOfWriting · 15/09/2025 02:38

DrPrunesqualer · 15/09/2025 02:17

Most people of religion don’t believe in the nonsense and hate he spouted.
Like many people like him they use religion merely as an excuse to further their own deep seated hate

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There's certainly no Biblical passage explicitly saying raped children should give birth.

Tho tbf the Bible's sexual ethics are dodgy (undrstatement). I've never been happy w that passage where Lot's daughters are told to get their father drunk and rape him to carry on their tribal line. Couldn't there have been any other solution? Very disturbing. I suppose you could argue it's allegory, but still...🤢

Or Lot sending his daughters to get raped by the citizens of Sodom rather than the men with him...🙄

TheJoyOfWriting · 15/09/2025 02:29

TheodoreisntBeth · 14/09/2025 20:40

You may want to be careful , you are libelling his wife with those statements (and you'd be libelling him except legally you can't libel the dead). If you can't provide evidence of the Kirks being nazi, sociopathic and racist, or you may want to retract those legally-actionable statements.

He did not preach hatred. He spoke of welcoming gay people, for instance, with open arms.

He was against DEI - well in it's current warped form, where a middle class white man wearing a skirt has become more important than a Muslim woman needing to change in a single sex changing room, so do I. That's not even slightly a neo nazi belief.

He believed empathy wasn't possible as you can't feel some else's feelings, you can only have sympathy for them - I don't agree but again, not sociopathic or Nazi.

He didn't say gun deaths were ok, he said he understood that allowing the public access to guns would mean more gun deaths than if it was banned, but he thought that was the better option than the alternative- again I don't agree, but Americans have a very different relationship to guns than we do. He compared it to banning cars, if we banned cars no kids would be killed by being hit by a car but we (as a society) decide we'd rather have cars and so some kids will be hit by them. He didn't say kids getting shot or hit by cars was ok.

Please share where he said black people should be slaves. I haven't seen anything like that.

He said his opposition to abortion was so strong he'd rather his daughter have to have a baby by rape than an abortion. Again, I disagree with him, but he's far from alone in the US to hold those views - are millions of Americans Nazis? He was less of a hypocrite than those politicians who vote to ban abortion in their states, even for raped 10 year olds, while quietly shipping their own unwantedly-pregnant relatives to states where it's still legal.

I don't care about her or her grief, and I think his daughter had a lucky escape. Is a far more sociopathic thing to say than anything I've seen of Charlie Kirks. Disagree with his views, I do too, but to say that about a grieving woman and a small child who will not know her father says who you are.

Most Americans do support rape exceptions for abortion, including many religious ones, so yes, his view is fairly extreme even in cultural context.

Although sadly support for rape exceptions is falling w increased polarisation.

https://www.latimes.com/politics/story/2022-04-08/red-states-eliminate-rape-exceptions-from-abortion-bans

I don't care if millions of Americans believe that : it is a vile view. Millions of people all over the world believe vile things, sadly. The way of humanity often...But it doesn't make them any less vile.

I hate Godwin's Law, I don't believe in fallacious comparisons. Tho it's true that Hitler was extremely anti abortion.

To quote the more temperate words of Anatole France : 'If 50 million people say a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing.'

DrPrunesqualer · 15/09/2025 02:17

estrogone · 14/09/2025 10:59

You do know that we don't all believe in God? For those of us that don't believe in God or a Christian God, we may disagree.

Most people of religion don’t believe in the nonsense and hate he spouted.
Like many people like him they use religion merely as an excuse to further their own deep seated hate

Thegreatestoftheseislove · 15/09/2025 01:12

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 14/09/2025 21:15

Great post. Agree with everything you’ve said here.

Yes, I agree, a fair and balanced critique. Thank you @TheodoreisntBeth . Loving the username btw 😁

Thegreatestoftheseislove · 15/09/2025 01:03

TheJoyOfWriting · 14/09/2025 19:39

OK, @Thegreatestoftheseislove, I understand your position, and I agree that any lying, esp about a dead man, is evil. ILikeDinosaurs needs to fact check her claims... Can I ask your opinions on a few more of Kirk's statements, though?

His claim that Michelle Obama, Kentanji Brown Jackson & Sheila Jackson Lee don't have the 'brain power' to achieve what they have career-wise, and only got where they have bc they were favoured due to their skin colour.
https://ca.news.yahoo.com/fact-check-charlie-kirk-once-170000805.html

Women on the contraception pill are automatically 'crazy and bitter'. (I know pill can cause issues, but it's wrong to make blanket statements.)

And women over 30 are automatically past prime attractiveness.

https://www.mediaite.com/media/news/charlie-kirk-blames-birth-control-for-creating-very-angry-and-bitter-young-ladies-while-weighing-in-on-womens-prime/

And here's the source for the hellhole quote. These are all things ge said on his show. I think he had a much ruder, shock-jock style for that than the polite Kirk you probs saw in debate videos.

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/sep/11/hellhole-uk-stolen-elections-south-korea-charlie-kirk-took-message-abroad

Edited

Hi again @TheJoyOfWriting Looking at Charlie Kirk’s website and his podcasts, I have been unable to find those particular talks, The links you gave are simply a ‘he said this …’ sound bite, but without hearing the context, nuance, and fuller picture I cannot comment on the true intent and meaning. I need to see/hear within full context. The couple of things I can see what he’s saying are 1. the Pill - this makes me a little batshit and I know it can adversely affect many women’s equilibrium. 2. Women over 30 are, biologically speaking, not in their prime for continuation of the species. Not so long ago a woman was regarded as a geriatric mother to be pregnant at 28.

TheodoreisntBeth · 14/09/2025 22:09

ILikeDinosaurs · 14/09/2025 21:09

@TheodoreisntBeth
OK fair enough about his wife. I'm judging her according to how I see him, and I don't know enough about her yet. I'm allowing the toxicity of the current climate get to me.
But.. opinions are now legally actionable? Based on everything I've seen and heard about Maga and Trump and everyone who supports him, and what has been happening in the US lately, these are just my opinions.
Is fascism creeping into the UK now, as in we aren't allowed an opinion that differs from whatever the 'prescribed' opinion is supposed to be?

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You didn't give an opinion though, you said he said specific things which he didn't actually say. You also stated that he was sociopathic and a neo nazi and stated that his wife has racist nazi beliefs. That's libellous.

And the irony of saying "Is fascism creeping into the UK now, as in we aren't allowed an opinion that differs from whatever the 'prescribed' opinion is supposed to be?" speaks for itself.

Kirk had opinions which are in the minority in the UK, and you've said that because of his opinions his murder has given his daughter 'a lucky escape'. That you based that assessment on what you know of "everyone who supports Trump" - you realise millions of people voted for Trump, right? Hundreds of thousands of them black and Hispanic people? Are they all fascists? The blanket intolerance of everyone who comes to a different conclusion than you, while calling other people fascists, is quite the look.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 14/09/2025 21:15

TheodoreisntBeth · 14/09/2025 20:40

You may want to be careful , you are libelling his wife with those statements (and you'd be libelling him except legally you can't libel the dead). If you can't provide evidence of the Kirks being nazi, sociopathic and racist, or you may want to retract those legally-actionable statements.

He did not preach hatred. He spoke of welcoming gay people, for instance, with open arms.

He was against DEI - well in it's current warped form, where a middle class white man wearing a skirt has become more important than a Muslim woman needing to change in a single sex changing room, so do I. That's not even slightly a neo nazi belief.

He believed empathy wasn't possible as you can't feel some else's feelings, you can only have sympathy for them - I don't agree but again, not sociopathic or Nazi.

He didn't say gun deaths were ok, he said he understood that allowing the public access to guns would mean more gun deaths than if it was banned, but he thought that was the better option than the alternative- again I don't agree, but Americans have a very different relationship to guns than we do. He compared it to banning cars, if we banned cars no kids would be killed by being hit by a car but we (as a society) decide we'd rather have cars and so some kids will be hit by them. He didn't say kids getting shot or hit by cars was ok.

Please share where he said black people should be slaves. I haven't seen anything like that.

He said his opposition to abortion was so strong he'd rather his daughter have to have a baby by rape than an abortion. Again, I disagree with him, but he's far from alone in the US to hold those views - are millions of Americans Nazis? He was less of a hypocrite than those politicians who vote to ban abortion in their states, even for raped 10 year olds, while quietly shipping their own unwantedly-pregnant relatives to states where it's still legal.

I don't care about her or her grief, and I think his daughter had a lucky escape. Is a far more sociopathic thing to say than anything I've seen of Charlie Kirks. Disagree with his views, I do too, but to say that about a grieving woman and a small child who will not know her father says who you are.

Great post. Agree with everything you’ve said here.

ILikeDinosaurs · 14/09/2025 21:09

@TheodoreisntBeth
OK fair enough about his wife. I'm judging her according to how I see him, and I don't know enough about her yet. I'm allowing the toxicity of the current climate get to me.
But.. opinions are now legally actionable? Based on everything I've seen and heard about Maga and Trump and everyone who supports him, and what has been happening in the US lately, these are just my opinions.
Is fascism creeping into the UK now, as in we aren't allowed an opinion that differs from whatever the 'prescribed' opinion is supposed to be?

TheodoreisntBeth · 14/09/2025 20:40

ILikeDinosaurs · 14/09/2025 19:30

@Thegreatestoftheseislove No, he was not, and to continue that lie fits narrative of hatred which is coming only from those who hate the Truth for which Charlie stood.

HIS entire narrative was of hatred. You seem deluded.

@TheodoreisntBeth Having views you (or I) don't share doesn't make someone a neo nazi or a sociopath.

Yes it does, if they have neo nazi and sociopathic views.
He was against DEI, believed that empathy was a made-up thing (clearly a sociopath since he did not think it existed). He believed that it's OK to have some gun deaths (kids are expendable?) in order to have the right to guns. He was against the Civil Rights act, believed black people should be slaves again and that he would force his 10 year old daughter to have a baby if she was raped and made pregnant. She was just 3 at the time he said it.

"I can't stand the word empathy, actually. I think empathy is a made up new age term that does a lot of damage."

Describing his wife as vicious because she isn't sitting in the kitchen crying is misogynistic.

No because she has the exact same racist, nazi beliefs as her husband. I don't care about her or her grief, and I think his daughter had a lucky escape.

You may want to be careful , you are libelling his wife with those statements (and you'd be libelling him except legally you can't libel the dead). If you can't provide evidence of the Kirks being nazi, sociopathic and racist, or you may want to retract those legally-actionable statements.

He did not preach hatred. He spoke of welcoming gay people, for instance, with open arms.

He was against DEI - well in it's current warped form, where a middle class white man wearing a skirt has become more important than a Muslim woman needing to change in a single sex changing room, so do I. That's not even slightly a neo nazi belief.

He believed empathy wasn't possible as you can't feel some else's feelings, you can only have sympathy for them - I don't agree but again, not sociopathic or Nazi.

He didn't say gun deaths were ok, he said he understood that allowing the public access to guns would mean more gun deaths than if it was banned, but he thought that was the better option than the alternative- again I don't agree, but Americans have a very different relationship to guns than we do. He compared it to banning cars, if we banned cars no kids would be killed by being hit by a car but we (as a society) decide we'd rather have cars and so some kids will be hit by them. He didn't say kids getting shot or hit by cars was ok.

Please share where he said black people should be slaves. I haven't seen anything like that.

He said his opposition to abortion was so strong he'd rather his daughter have to have a baby by rape than an abortion. Again, I disagree with him, but he's far from alone in the US to hold those views - are millions of Americans Nazis? He was less of a hypocrite than those politicians who vote to ban abortion in their states, even for raped 10 year olds, while quietly shipping their own unwantedly-pregnant relatives to states where it's still legal.

I don't care about her or her grief, and I think his daughter had a lucky escape. Is a far more sociopathic thing to say than anything I've seen of Charlie Kirks. Disagree with his views, I do too, but to say that about a grieving woman and a small child who will not know her father says who you are.

FrippEnos · 14/09/2025 20:31

Idinnaenah · 13/09/2025 12:51

I’d be surprised, remember Kirk’s whole spiel was Women, submit to your men, women need to stay home and have children , men are the natural leaders - being his widow will only get her so far with the rest of the men in that organisation.

If you are going to call this man and his family out at least get his "spiel" correct.

ILikeDinosaurs · 14/09/2025 20:25

Thegreatestoftheseislove · 14/09/2025 19:59

You are entitled to your opinion. I will make no further attempt to dissuade you. Unlike Charlie I do not have the time nor inclination to debate with haters. He was not racist. Everyone dies. I do not believe in karma but if it helps you to invoke it, then go for it. The only thing that is disgusting is the hatred being thrown his way and towards his grieving widow.

I'm going to leave you to it. He absolutely was racist, as are all of Maga, it is in the very foundation of their beliefs. If you don't see it you are either very naive or you share their views.

Thegreatestoftheseislove · 14/09/2025 19:59

ILikeDinosaurs · 14/09/2025 19:47

And you interpret what is in yours. You clearly agree with his disgusting views of racism and belief that it's OK for some to die? Is that Christian? Those are his words. Your views do not suit your holier than thou attitude. If you can't see the actual truth, that is on your karma.

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You are entitled to your opinion. I will make no further attempt to dissuade you. Unlike Charlie I do not have the time nor inclination to debate with haters. He was not racist. Everyone dies. I do not believe in karma but if it helps you to invoke it, then go for it. The only thing that is disgusting is the hatred being thrown his way and towards his grieving widow.

RealPerson · 14/09/2025 19:54

If my DC killed someone I would not turn them in

Thegreatestoftheseislove · 14/09/2025 19:50

TheJoyOfWriting · 14/09/2025 19:39

OK, @Thegreatestoftheseislove, I understand your position, and I agree that any lying, esp about a dead man, is evil. ILikeDinosaurs needs to fact check her claims... Can I ask your opinions on a few more of Kirk's statements, though?

His claim that Michelle Obama, Kentanji Brown Jackson & Sheila Jackson Lee don't have the 'brain power' to achieve what they have career-wise, and only got where they have bc they were favoured due to their skin colour.
https://ca.news.yahoo.com/fact-check-charlie-kirk-once-170000805.html

Women on the contraception pill are automatically 'crazy and bitter'. (I know pill can cause issues, but it's wrong to make blanket statements.)

And women over 30 are automatically past prime attractiveness.

https://www.mediaite.com/media/news/charlie-kirk-blames-birth-control-for-creating-very-angry-and-bitter-young-ladies-while-weighing-in-on-womens-prime/

And here's the source for the hellhole quote. These are all things ge said on his show. I think he had a much ruder, shock-jock style for that than the polite Kirk you probs saw in debate videos.

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/sep/11/hellhole-uk-stolen-elections-south-korea-charlie-kirk-took-message-abroad

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@TheJoyOfWriting

I've answered a couple of those on another thread. Time and other demands mean I am unable just now to get back to you in a thoughtful and informed way on the remaining points. I will shortly be settling down with some chocolate ready to watch Educating Yorkshire. It may be tomorrow before I am able to give your post my full attention.

ILikeDinosaurs · 14/09/2025 19:47

Thegreatestoftheseislove · 14/09/2025 19:41

@ILikeDinosaurs HIS entire narrative was of hatred. You seem deluded.

No it was not. You interpret what is in your own heart. No, no delusion here. It is a shame you do not have eyes to see nor ears to hear. The pearls are lost on you. That is nothing new and you are not alone.

And you interpret what is in yours. You clearly agree with his disgusting views of racism and belief that it's OK for some to die? Is that Christian? Those are his words. Your views do not suit your holier than thou attitude. If you can't see the actual truth, that is on your karma.

Thegreatestoftheseislove · 14/09/2025 19:41

@ILikeDinosaurs HIS entire narrative was of hatred. You seem deluded.

No it was not. You interpret what is in your own heart. No, no delusion here. It is a shame you do not have eyes to see nor ears to hear. The pearls are lost on you. That is nothing new and you are not alone.

TheJoyOfWriting · 14/09/2025 19:39

OK, @Thegreatestoftheseislove, I understand your position, and I agree that any lying, esp about a dead man, is evil. ILikeDinosaurs needs to fact check her claims... Can I ask your opinions on a few more of Kirk's statements, though?

His claim that Michelle Obama, Kentanji Brown Jackson & Sheila Jackson Lee don't have the 'brain power' to achieve what they have career-wise, and only got where they have bc they were favoured due to their skin colour.
https://ca.news.yahoo.com/fact-check-charlie-kirk-once-170000805.html

Women on the contraception pill are automatically 'crazy and bitter'. (I know pill can cause issues, but it's wrong to make blanket statements.)

And women over 30 are automatically past prime attractiveness.

https://www.mediaite.com/media/news/charlie-kirk-blames-birth-control-for-creating-very-angry-and-bitter-young-ladies-while-weighing-in-on-womens-prime/

And here's the source for the hellhole quote. These are all things ge said on his show. I think he had a much ruder, shock-jock style for that than the polite Kirk you probs saw in debate videos.

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/sep/11/hellhole-uk-stolen-elections-south-korea-charlie-kirk-took-message-abroad

Charlie Kirk Blames Birth Control for Creating ‘Very Angry and Bitter Young Ladies’ While Weighing in on Women’s ‘Prime’

Charlie Kirk declared that women in their early 30s were already past their prime and blamed birth control for creating "very angry and bitter young ladies."

https://www.mediaite.com/media/news/charlie-kirk-blames-birth-control-for-creating-very-angry-and-bitter-young-ladies-while-weighing-in-on-womens-prime/

Thegreatestoftheseislove · 14/09/2025 19:36

Hoppinggreen · 14/09/2025 19:14

And most decent people hate misogyny, racism and homophobia
Unlike Kirk
As I said, I don't celebrate his death but I won't mourn him

And as a decent person he also hated misogyny, racism and homophobia. None of those are the teachings of Jesus who is Charlie and Erika Kirk's Lord and Saviour.

I do not celebrate his violent murder, and as I did not know him, I cannot mourn him - plus he is now with his Lord where there are no more tears, no pain, no suffering. I am sad for his loss to his loving wife, children and the wider Christian family but there are many who will rise up in his footsteps.

ILikeDinosaurs · 14/09/2025 19:30

@Thegreatestoftheseislove No, he was not, and to continue that lie fits narrative of hatred which is coming only from those who hate the Truth for which Charlie stood.

HIS entire narrative was of hatred. You seem deluded.

@TheodoreisntBeth Having views you (or I) don't share doesn't make someone a neo nazi or a sociopath.

Yes it does, if they have neo nazi and sociopathic views.
He was against DEI, believed that empathy was a made-up thing (clearly a sociopath since he did not think it existed). He believed that it's OK to have some gun deaths (kids are expendable?) in order to have the right to guns. He was against the Civil Rights act, believed black people should be slaves again and that he would force his 10 year old daughter to have a baby if she was raped and made pregnant. She was just 3 at the time he said it.

"I can't stand the word empathy, actually. I think empathy is a made up new age term that does a lot of damage."

Describing his wife as vicious because she isn't sitting in the kitchen crying is misogynistic.

No because she has the exact same racist, nazi beliefs as her husband. I don't care about her or her grief, and I think his daughter had a lucky escape.