DD cruelly dumped by BF

Why?

From nothing op has said has he actually done anything wrong, other than not wanting to be with her daughter.

He's done the right thing splitting rather than the people who stay with someone and cheat or similar

I remember I split with an ex and his whole family hated me. It made no sense. It's not evil to not want to be in a relationship with someone. The next woman he met became his wife so i clearly did the right thing ending it

This.

Sell the helicopter.

It must be incredibly painful to see your daughter hurting like this, but as much as it will make you feel better to send it, it will make your daughter feel worse - if she ever found out.

Hi @OutbackQueen you are going to get a few more ‘are you nuts?’ Comments before this dies down that’s the nature of mn where people read the first post and not the subsequent updates.

but actually in all seriousness you do need to spend time with your dd and make sure that in her head she’s already done and finished with him. He’s come crawling back once already and then crushed her again, this can be the way coercive abusive relationships start. If he does try coming back she needs to be strong enough to tell him where to go.

You wrote a poem??

Wtf?!

This isn’t about you!!

Big no in capital letters. Don't send anything. It is not about you. Let her heal and support her.

He would haved pissed himself laughing and given him a story to brag about to his friends - glad you thought better.

That would be mortifying for your daughter and he would probably use it as a funny story for his friends in the pub.

Please don't do it.

Really not

Christ, NO!!! I'd have died with utter embarrassment if I'd been 25 and my Mum had sent this to my boyfriend who'd dumped me!! I'd die with embarrassment now, at 50, if my Mum sent this!! I appreciate you want to give the boyfriend a rocket up the arse for hurting your daughter, but it's not your place to do this. I had a boyfriend many years ago who split with me, and then changed his mind and we got back together, only for him to dump me again. I was younger at 20 (nearly 21) and I was devastated because I truly loved him. Looking back, he didn't really know what he wanted, he was young, didn't know if he wanted to be tied up in a committed relationship at a young age. The best course of action for your daughter (and this is exactly the approach I took) is to cut contact. No calls, texts, meeting up etc. Not going to lie it was bloody hard, but for your daughter's sanity and mental wellbeing, this is best. If she doesn't, he'll keep coming back....Messing with her emotions. Your job is to support her emotionally, keep her mind occupied, encourage her to meet up with friends. Do not understand any circumstances sending messages to her boyfriend, it's not your job to involve yourself on that level.

Do not send.
You weren’t in a relationship with him.

That's quite cringe OP. Don't send.

Are you fucking nuts?!! Sending that would be beyond psychotic

Write it on a piece of paper then set fire to it so all the hate goes (be careful though 🤯)

Oh! My love,
My heart is yearning,
My mouth is dry,
My soul is burning.
You're in Tunisia,
I am here.
Remember me and shed a tear.
Come back tanned and brown and healthy.
You're lucky that your dad is wealthy.

Adrian Mole circa 1982

Love Sue Townsend!

She's an adult. Boundaries.

Don't send him that! For sooooo many reasons.

Better idea: write a beautiful letter to your daughter about how cherished she is and will have a great future (don't focus it kn finding a man though).

Have a nice day out with her - spa, shopping etc keep her upbeat.

Good luck.

I would get the thread deleted as well as it's only going to descend into the mire.

You've had 'robust' opinions, you've decided not to send it...and it has made you pause to consider your own motivation.
The thread has served its purpose...there's no need for it to stand. Being insulted and jeered at will not enhance anything useful. x

My toes are curling reading that. I broke up with a boyfriend in my late teens and his mother messaged me calling me a cunt. It’s weird. Stop.

Good grief. This could backfire spectacularly. If I received that, I would assume you were losing your marbles. He could easily contact her and say ‘Can you tell your batshit old dear to stop sending me poems, is she actually disturbed??’

I would also say you have no idea what went on in their relationship.

@OutbackQueen dont get upset, your clearly a good mum who wants the best for her kids. Go treat yourselves both to something nice today and put this whole ex business behind you - your daughter is moving on to bigger & better things, celebrate that shes not got knocked up or married to this prick.

Well if this is true, then I’m sorry you’re upset. Please do ask to get the thread removed and maybe go and plan a nice treat for yourself and your daughter. Afternoon tea or a lovely lunch would be something to look forward to for both of you, maybe.

Sadly there is not an unsuitable for relationships register. Hope the said man is single for ever, sadly unlikely.

Just continue to support your DD as you are doing.

Oh for heaven's sake. Keep quiet and mind your own business.

What is it with some people..